wonderingsoul
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Where do I go from here with Virgo
So, people on this site have graciously taken the time to give you some advice about not being spiteful and you, still wanting him back, turn around and...sent him a spiteful message? Really? Really?? What did you expect to get out of it?
In all honesty if I received that message from someone then I'd know the door is closed and its best to move on. You didn't show regret, you didn't show that you still wanted him or even liked him. You showed malice, annoyance and a desire to get rid of him.
Girl, move on. You are obviously incapable of communicating with him on the same level, nor are you able to keep your head cool around this man. Sometimes people are just not compatible and that's OK.
In all honesty if I received that message from someone then I'd know the door is closed and its best to move on. You didn't show regret, you didn't show that you still wanted him or even liked him. You showed malice, annoyance and a desire to get rid of him.
Girl, move on. You are obviously incapable of communicating with him on the same level, nor are you able to keep your head cool around this man. Sometimes people are just not compatible and that's OK.
From reading your previous post, I think what your really asking is- Will I ACTUALLY have to put myself out there, to get him back?
Yes! Yes you will. He already put himself out there and as far as he's concerned, you rejected him.
He obviously still likes you and thinks about you- but what possible reason does he have to put himself out there again?
Relationships are a give and take. One person can't just do all the giving. I believe you know what to say and what to do, your just afraid of being vulnerable.
If you don't want to use words- then show your feelings through actions. Arrange a "friendly" lunch, touch him casually, smile, look at him a lot and at the end give him a sweet simple kiss (cheek or lips). Linger for a bit. The point is to show you like him.
He'll take the lead from there.
Stop trying to goad(*manipulate*) him into being vulnerable with you again. It's not gonna happen.
Yes! Yes you will. He already put himself out there and as far as he's concerned, you rejected him.
He obviously still likes you and thinks about you- but what possible reason does he have to put himself out there again?
Relationships are a give and take. One person can't just do all the giving. I believe you know what to say and what to do, your just afraid of being vulnerable.
If you don't want to use words- then show your feelings through actions. Arrange a "friendly" lunch, touch him casually, smile, look at him a lot and at the end give him a sweet simple kiss (cheek or lips). Linger for a bit. The point is to show you like him.
He'll take the lead from there.
Stop trying to goad(*manipulate*) him into being vulnerable with you again. It's not gonna happen.
Posted by Tora
So, people on this site have graciously taken the time to give you some advice about not being spiteful and you, still wanting him back, turn around and...sent him a spiteful message? Really? Really?? What did you expect to get out of it?
In all honesty if I received that message from someone then I'd know the door is closed and its best to move on. You didn't show regret, you didn't show that you still wanted him or even liked him. You showed malice, annoyance and a desire to get rid of him.
Girl, move on. You are obviously incapable of communicating with him on the same level, nor are you able to keep your head cool around this man. Sometimes people are just not compatible and that's OK.
I agreed it was a bad thing to say I just don't know what else to say to him, I'm not doing it on purpose or to be spiteful I just don't know how to be and how to communicate with him anymore. I was fine before he upped and left. Hence I'm asking how I should approach him in conversation, what words I should say to him because he won't see me so no point asking him for coffee or lunch like the user below suggested.
I just need to know how to get him to even just say hi to me or something, anything and then I can start to talk again.
Unbelievable.
You could as well have told him, "Get lost and don't ever come back," because that's what you did.
IF, perchance, you didn't ruin it earlier, you definitely did with this.
I want to see how a person can recover with a Virgo after this immature outburst.
Wonderingsoul, if you don't know how to communicate with him, SILENCE will do you so much good right now. Collect yourself and your emotions, only come back when you are level headed.
You could as well have told him, "Get lost and don't ever come back," because that's what you did.
IF, perchance, you didn't ruin it earlier, you definitely did with this.
I want to see how a person can recover with a Virgo after this immature outburst.
Wonderingsoul, if you don't know how to communicate with him, SILENCE will do you so much good right now. Collect yourself and your emotions, only come back when you are level headed.
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