wisdom shared thanks PANGEL

From thread i am still reading "Do virgos feel when a relationship ends"

PANGEL~
Just as there is a perfect person for you out there .. there is a perfect one for him also. And every person loves people differently. How you will love your next man will be different from how you loved him, and his next love will be different also .....

... because with every life experience we have, our reality changes, because we learned something.


I feel this PANGEL! I am and have lived it, thanks for putting into words for me......

PA~ I just want you to realize this though, what I said above, because you are still trying to understand how he could just turn off the switch, even if just friends with you .... and the thing is, he isn't even your friend .. that's how he can do it.

this is exactly what has been going through my head, his actions speak differently from his words, unless we are face to face, then its to achieve selfish satisfaction, IMO or so i am thinking. If he was my "Friend" he would call or text after such a rude and dis concerning action on his part. I think i should call him on it on my exit? It's been a year plus now, he has been through alot and is going through HIGH STRESS at work, let me just say "AIG" owns who he works for.....point made for some of the room my brain and heart keeps trying to give him in patient and understanding. But what are the limits? They are at my total expense with not so much as payment of recognition(I think)



LeoKitten posted:
you never argued. couples who truly love each other disagree...they argue. not every second is bliss and lightness. nope. with your real love....you will disagree, fight and still love each other.

nope....he was not your one either.

Really? Cause we dont argue, not really, we disagree and express, okay, lol, maybe that was "arguing" LOL
DO Virgo's see it this away too?

Bijou2~Take some time, before you get back in the game, but stop listening to that voice in your head telling you that you screwed up!! You didn't screw up. You loved.

Confirmation of another thought in my head, thanks! why is it we can see this for others, but not ourselves? Are we worthy? See, I realized, he left me feeling less than worthy. NOT GOOD! ;( I should not have allowed that, or him that "Power".

Bijou2~I believe that you did fall in love with him & what is hard for you now to deal with is understanding that a part of you *knew* on some level that (as you said) his actions and his words did not match up. Perhaps what is really bothering you is that your instincts were dead on, but you did not know what they were telling you. You now fear getting involved with someone else until you can learn how to listen to your inner self and know what it means.

DeAD ON sista! Still in this mode! Scared to lose, scared to move, scared to trust, myself, because i "want" to believe in something/someone that maybe i should not believe in, hmmmmmm, confusion runs amuck in my head!

Bijou2~Yet, the pleasure that a person feels comes from the act of loving. Of giving love, rather than receiving love. When you feel overwhelmed with a sunset, or the beauty of the world around you, or overcome by witnessing people helping each other - these feelings are coming because you are LOVING. You are appreciating it with awareness and are loving life for its magic.

So because this is what i put into it, and feel, he feeds like a vampire? HELP me put this into context with knowing and understanding what you are saying, as well as knowing this is "how i got played" ?

He said what I wanted too hear, his actions have beaten me to death in a year now, i dont think i can deal with too many more breaks and survive the battle. "Let the game come to you" well, I am thinking of taking that one shot of death to the prey!