Unusual behaviour from my bull....any advice?

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Hi,

So my bull has been acting very strange! Very nervous and on edge when he’s around me or talking to me. Takes everything I say over seriously and is almost paranoid so often his responses are based on what he thought I meant as opposed to what I actually said. His lack of self confidence is becoming very evident! He’s been very busy at work for while with lots of travelling and has to try and fit in seeing his son so I’m not sure if it’s just stress or he’s worrying abt something to do with me.

He got off the phone very quickly last time so I never had a chance to ask.

I really don’t know how to have a normal chat to him when he gets like that!

He is the worst when we try to discuss our relationship status just in complete panic mode times 1000!!

Sound familiar to anyone? Any insight bulls? I’ve never seen this before!
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Posted by jeane

have you asked him if there is something wrong and remarked how he is coming across?


That was why I spoke with him the last time. In a nutshell I explained that he seems very uncomfortable/not relaxed and nervous with me now. I said I wasn’t sure if it was something I may have said/done or if it is something else. Gave him examples.

He said he doesn’t know he’s being different and that he doesn’t understand what I’m saying. Which turned increasingly to be paranoid that I was having a go at him and then kept freaking out saying he doesn’t know to everything. At which I realised I had lost him and no point continuing if he’s like that.
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Posted by jeane

have you asked him if there is something wrong and remarked how he is coming across?

That was why I spoke with him the last time. In a nutshell I explained that he seems very uncomfortable/not relaxed and nervous with me now. I said I wasn’t sure if it was something I may have said/done or if it is something else. Gave him examples.

He said he doesn’t know he’s being different and that he doesn’t understand what I’m saying. Which turned increasingly to be paranoid that I was having a go at him and then kept freaking out saying he doesn’t know to everything. At which I realised I had lost him and no point continuing if he’s like that.
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i don't know. i'm missing a lot of backstory to be able to give any reasonable advice but maybe something like this is familiar to the bulls.

do you think, now looking back, that he could have interpreted your approach as being confrontational and aggressive?