Want hear a Taurus man’s perspective

I had been seeing a Taurus Man for about 6 months. Things would get hot then cold. It was pretty casual, but I sensed feelings from him and have feelings for him. We are both divorced. His was rough on him and he told me he us very skeptical of women. He had been single, not dating, no sex for 12 years when we met.

I started wanting more and pushed and pressured him a bit. I called him drunk and emotional one night and he told me this isn’t what he wants. I had been thinking for the whole time that he and I should be friends... build a friendship first. I knew I wasn’t ready to be involved with anyone at this time, be I found myself very attracted to him and intrigued and decided to just see what happens. Then I go get needy and clingy(signs I am not ready for a relationship with anyone). He ends it. I go 18 days no contact, run into him on day 18 and we engage in brief friendly conversation albeit awkward. I decided I wanted to clear the air so I saw him last night.... we frequent the same bar cause it’s the only bar in my town. I apologize for drunk calling and being pushy... he says no need. We talk for a while and he says he knows I like him and he likes me too. He says he knows I want to be friends and he does too. He knows me pretty well and can tell I am wanting more. The truth is I hope for something more later on... I want to focus on friends and grow that with hopes that it might become more when we are both ready.

He said he needed to focus on himself, his work, getting his life in order and his house. Things he would talk about a lot with me. I need to do the same for myself and I have known this but avoided admitting it.

So, I am wondering... I want to be friends, good friends, and I realize this takes time. My feelings for him are more than I realized. I most likely need to take some time. But, do you think there is any possibility here? Is he just over me in a couple of weeks? This man is brutally honest and I know he wouldn’t say something to protect my feelings... I know from experience and he knows I appreciate his honesty. How do I approach this friendship... I would like to do things together at some point and see him... do I wait for him? Reach out? I am a bit if a wreck and sad...

i'm not a taurus man but i just can't help myself. sorry.

i don't think being friends at this point is good for you. are you sure you can handle it? you even say that you want to be friends - good friends - because you hope it turns into something more and that you are not ready for a relationship. it's sound like you are really playing fast and loose with your emotions and it doesn't sound like it will end well.

i can understand not wanting to let go but he is gun shy, you are (understandably) thirsty, it just doesn't seem like a good combination at this stage in your life.

i just worry that your emotional instability is going to drive you further apart and possibly ruin any chance you do have.

for me, i would say take a huge step back. no need to go no contact but maybe not so preoccupied with him but instead make yourself the focus. do the work now and it will reward you later.

You are so right . I have known this for a while. That I need to be single, I am not ready to be involved romantically with anyone. I have some internal healing to do. And he admitted he does too.

I realize I need to simply not pursue the friendship and allow it to just come about organically. Take time for me and my kids, work, goals. I am very strong and independent, but being with him brought out some really good parts of me and triggered old wounds.

At least when I approached him he was genuinely kind and happy to see me. He was very open to talking and friendship.

Though my crazy brain wonders if he is no longer attracted to me. Gotta knock that off! Right?

Wish me luck

Posted by TauruswomanTaurusman

You are so right . I have known this for a while. That I need to be single, I am not ready to be involved romantically with anyone. I have some internal healing to do. And he admitted he does too.

I realize I need to simply not pursue the friendship and allow it to just come about organically. Take time for me and my kids, work, goals. I am very strong and independent, but being with him brought out some really good parts of me and triggered old wounds.

At least when I approached him he was genuinely kind and happy to see me. He was very open to talking and friendship.

Though my crazy brain wonders if he is no longer attracted to me. Gotta knock that off! Right?

Wish me luck

you know what's going to attract him? a confident kind woman with her shit together. that's sexy as hell.

from what you've written i don't think you are too far off the mark.

So. I am single and doing great. Feeling good in all aspects of my life. I run into my Taurus man occasionally. At first, it was awkward and uncomfortable, but now when we see each other it is nice. We chat for a while and when I am leaving we walk out together and he gives me these very nice warm hugs. Lately, he has taken to touching me- my arm or putting his arm around me and pulling me to his side for a few minutes. The eye contact is all there- I can see it in his eyes. This man has feelings for me.

Our first post-break conversation I tried to apologize for and he said I nothing to apologize for and he probably owed me an apology. I told him I just wasn't ready to be involved with any man at this time in my life. He asked if I still wanted him and I said yes, but I am just not ready. Now each time I see him he is more affectionate. I asked him to help me with something and he said he would.

I really enjoy him and conversation with him. He sometimes throws out some sexual innuendos or jokes around. I am still not ready to be more than friends and I refuse to chase him if and when I am ready. But, I am curious...why is he so sweet and warm with me yet never asks me to do anything, join him for a drink, go for a bike ride, etc? Is he messing with me? Testing me? I would love to just hang out and have fun together, but our meetings are always circumstantial, never planned.

Man 12 years without sex refusing a woman for drunk call? 🤔

He must be a ‘catch’...

How about just let him stay sober and continue to celibate happily?

Or it’s a small town issue where any man is a prize?

What is this about women?

This man has feelings for me.

I am still not ready to be more than friends

...why is he so sweet and warm with me yet never asks me to do anything... Is he messing with me?

🤔