Please help with a cap guy

Okay so I like a Cap guy at my workplace(he has switched jobs now) & he sort of knows i like him. Instead of hanging there like a pendulum, i took the initiative & added each other on social media a month back, i even started conversation there, he replied and asked "whatsup" but left me hanging there once i replied. So i left him alone thinking he is not interested.

I saw him the other day at office and we literally had some intense eye contact where i was acting like i don't know what to do & he kept on smiling while looking at me. Like he was not smiling at me otherwise i would have smiled back. He was just smiling while looking at me (you know what I am saying) 🤔

Few days later, he sent me a link to a song on social media that he has performed. I complimented, he said thank yousmile

And that's it.

I literally sort of want to forget him. I like his posts, he checks my stories. Nothing is REALLY happening between the two of us.

Should i just ignore him totally or do something else? I don't want to start conversations with him as i don't want to be left hanging again.

I am just confused! Help me with your precious advice 😁

Posted by xoxflute

Well he has not really done anything different than before yet...just saw you at office and sent you a link to his performance.

Yeah...

I'm thinking of ignoring him. If he feels like it, he will approach me

Why is it always an option - ‘ignore’ when someone isn’t showing interest?

If push came to shove - HE is the one ‘ignoring’...

Or maybe he is just living his life? Doing his things and liking you or just having you as a co-worker whom he is socializing on media as with all others?

If you want him so bad - act like a woman. Bring him some food. Talk to him. Flirt. See if he will warm up to you...

Or if you don’t want to do any of this - just be a co-worker. No need to ‘ignore’...really...

Posted by Gemitati

Why is it always an option - ‘ignore’ when someone isn’t showing interest?

If push came to shove - HE is the one ‘ignoring’...

Or maybe he is just living his life? Doing his things and liking you or just having you as a co-worker whom he is socializing on media as with all others?

If you want him so bad - act like a woman. Bring him some food. Talk to him. Flirt. See if he will warm up to you...

Or if you don’t want to do any of this - just be a co-worker. No need to ‘ignore’...really...

I already tried to talk to him once and it was not reciprocated, what if it happens again?

And honestly i don't even know how to flirt over text messages

I am not a good adviser in this. My flirting would be more like...‘those socks with those shoes?..you’ve got to be kidding me...!’

It worked though but I wouldn’t recommend to those without proper training...lol

Over text...if he isn’t talking to you - flirting over text isn’t going to work. It’s face to face in your case. Figure something out.

Posted by emeraldgem

"And honestly i don't even know how to flirt over text messages" - Oy!

😓

Posted by Gemitati

I am not a good adviser in this. My flirting would be more like...‘those socks with those shoes?..you’ve got to be kidding me...!’

It worked though but I wouldn’t recommend to those without proper training...lol

Over text...if he isn’t talking to you - flirting over text isn’t going to work. It’s face to face in your case. Figure something out.

He has switched jobs. Face to face is not an option right now.

Please don't leave me hanging here. Give me some amazinggggg advice 😁

Posted by PoloChat

Posted by Gemitati

I am not a good adviser in this. My flirting would be more like...‘those socks with those shoes?..you’ve got to be kidding me...!’

It worked though but I wouldn’t recommend to those without proper training...lol

Over text...if he isn’t talking to you - flirting over text isn’t going to work. It’s face to face in your case. Figure something out.

He has switched jobs. Face to face is not an option right now.

Please don't leave me hanging here. Give me some amazinggggg advice 😁

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If man is not responding to your texts the only thing you can do is to use shocker technique like sending him nudes!

Do you have a friend with amazing body who is proficient In photoshop so your head will be placed on the top on her body?

Pay her all she wants and wait...

If he doesn’t reply - at least he didn’t care about HER body. Not yours...

Btw are you sure he isn’t a gay? Got to check that first. Before you got all mushy...good luck.

I’m in a similar circumstance with a Cap. The guy even kissed me. Had incredible chemistry. After the kiss he never stopped responding to my messages in a short way, but he never messaged on his own. I went as far as telling him that I want him in bed... that I felt something for him. He responded positively to this. But he still didn’t message me. Never stopped replying to my messages... but doesn’t message either. Maybe in hindsight it freaked him out. No idea.

So flirting or no flirting... nothing’s really going to change. You can try to flirt like I did, but Cap just does not respond like a normal hot-blooded male (and I’m a good looking Libra who has flirted with too many men to count. Cap acts totally different and the same tricks just don’t work with them.) It’s a good sign he was looking at you like that, that’s all I know. But remember that Cap is patient. Too patient. If he ever gives you the opportunity, compliment something he’s wearing etc. Give him a green light. But realize there is NO way to move a Cap towards you before he’s planned and schemed everything himself. Give a green light, and then stay in his peripheral vision by Gatsbying (attractive Story posts etc.) Don’t look like you’re hanging out with other men, Caps are jealous and it’s a turn-off. Don’t be unstable or say anything crazy to him. He needs to see you’re calm and rational. And maybe he’s weighing you. So Just act like he doesn’t exist for a while. Wait the good wait. If he comes, he comes. In the meanwhile keep your eyes peeled. I’m still “waiting” for my Cap doctor but recently I found a Pisces doctor who’s interested in me. So this is destiny.. what will be will be..

Posted by Gemitati

Why is it always an option - ‘ignore’ when someone isn’t showing interest?

If push came to shove - HE is the one ‘ignoring’...

Or maybe he is just living his life? Doing his things and liking you or just having you as a co-worker whom he is socializing on media as with all others?

If you want him so bad - act like a woman. Bring him some food. Talk to him. Flirt. See if he will warm up to you...

Or if you don’t want to do any of this - just be a co-worker. No need to ‘ignore’...really...

lol bring him some food

Posted by PoloChat

Posted by Gemitati

I am not a good adviser in this. My flirting would be more like...‘those socks with those shoes?..you’ve got to be kidding me...!’

It worked though but I wouldn’t recommend to those without proper training...lol

Over text...if he isn’t talking to you - flirting over text isn’t going to work. It’s face to face in your case. Figure something out.

He has switched jobs. Face to face is not an option right now.

Please don't leave me hanging here. Give me some amazinggggg advice 😁

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find someone else?

Posted by lilyofthevalley

I’m in a similar circumstance with a Cap. The guy even kissed me. Had incredible chemistry. After the kiss he never stopped responding to my messages in a short way, but he never messaged on his own. I went as far as telling him that I want him in bed... that I felt something for him. He responded positively to this. But he still didn’t message me. Never stopped replying to my messages... but doesn’t message either. Maybe in hindsight it freaked him out. No idea.

sounds like he has a gf

or at least is talking to someone else seriously