911-Why he denies being in love or is he? Help!

I love this aquarian "friend" of mine, We have been "involved" for 17 months now and I have never experienced or felt such an amazing, natural chemistry/spark with someone before...I know he feels the same way cuz he compared our chemistry to winning the lottery.., but why haven't I had the joy of hearing those 3 beautiful words come directly out of his mouth...? The interesting thing is that he has come close.

It came in a text at 12 months.
With his back to me he said, "I have love for you" at 14 months or so
most recently over the phone "we have a lot of love for one another." at 17 months

Im not pushy about it, I want it to come naturally from his heart so
I kept on lovin him, sure he would come around, so after too many nights wondering why he acted like my boyfriend for 3 days and then vanished for the next 4 days. I quickly began serving it right back, I wont be his fool.. So cat and mouse is what weve been doing...After he denied all three propasals to be a "couple" I didn't believe he was genuine so I left to pursue other passions, dating alternatives. etc and spent all my time, smacking my hand when I reached for the phone to call him back. Convincing myself that I was having fun without him and passing on his offers to get together.

Now he began offering me all the attention and time I had saught after. well, I missed him and we are now back at it again. Except their is more passion in his eyes and love in his actions. He didnt know how he really felt about us until I was gone..Sounds nice right? well meanwhile, he got reinvolved with an old flame he was keeping at bay and now she is everywhere, I havent met her thank god..Claims he is confused and doesn't know what he is going to do with me..

HE'S MY BEST FRIEND, CLOSER TO ME THAN ANYONE AT THIS POINT. I FEEL THE LOVE FROM HIM WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER, AND I FEEL STUCK.!? HELP!

SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT SHOULD I BELIEVE? IS HE TESTING ME? IS HE PHREAKIN SERIOUS ABOUT HER?

ANY ADVICE OR ASSESMENT IS WELCOME...

Emotional Retardation.

::stands and applauses::

I am a Libra and have never seriously dated an Aqua. In high school I was in love with one but he had a g/f who he was always breaking up with. We spent a alot of time together when they were apart but he would always go back to her. He claimed to be confused. He wanted time to figure out who he wanted to be with but in the end it was her that he wanted. I don't know what her sign was.

Putting astrology aside I can say, from experience, that a guy is just stringing me along when he claims to have all of these feelings for me but refuses to make it an official, commited relationship because he is "confused." I'm not proud to admit this but I have also done the same. I have longed to be with someone else but kept a different guy on the side until I was for certain that a relationship with the first guy was promising. Hey, if that didn't work I always had the second guy.

He is keeping one of you on the back burner. If it is you then he doesn't really love you the way that you want him to. If it is the old flame, then why you would want to date a guy who would have so little consideration for her feelings?

I have been in several situations like this. I remained very patient. I kept fighting because I was convinced that I be triumphant. "We have all of this history. It is me he really wants, not her." I don't know if this is a Libra trait, a lack of confidence, or true unconditional love for someone. I always lost to the other girl but it taught me that I should be second to none!!! That is what we all deserve!!!

Again, this is just from my personal experience. He may just be scare to admit he loves you. I don't know much about Aqua and I don't know your guy. Just make sure that you take care of yourself and know that there is so many guys in the world that will love you and tell you that they love you.

ugh...reading this thread reminds me of what it used to be like with my aqua...when he broke up with me and dated another girl and acted all confused. hopefully that won't happen again! yeah, men suck sometimes...

whats funny is I have one that says about every 4 months that he is uncomfortable with the relationship. Tells me he doesnt like eating here, making love etc. then turns around a week or so later and is back. Its been about 19 months. I havent been ready for a relationship relationship till recently so its something I have been ok with... but now Im wondering do I just pace it out and let things go beyond slow but naturally or tell him Im now feeling like I would like to have more you know move forward a bit.. not marriage but more together. We see each other once a week- talk a lot but this has been a pace he can handle. any suggestions on how to not shock him but start to move him forward >

and librax... Im a libra also. I think we are good for these guys we actually get the space issue and I can understand how he wants to just enjoy and live but its also difficult to understand why they run at times from things that make them happy. Maybe Im dumb and hes just a player but I dont think so. Libra and aqua is an interesting combo.. first one I have dated and he is elusive enough to attract me. Lets say I got caught in a web I normally weave myself!

Shizy, you are most definitely right when you say that you need to show an Aqua that you love him, while showing him that you can live without at the same time. I dated a Capricorn real seriously for a long time, and I know that she got all of her emotionally confidence and self esteem from me, and I did not like it at all. When we broke up (eight months ago) I worried constantly about her being at her house alone all the time (which she was doing), and I still worry. It doesn't happen much any more because she has slowly learned not to rely on others for her emotional well being. I'm getting off topic. Anyway, Aquarians need to know (I'm an Aqua) that you can live without them. They don't want you to say "I can't live without you." We want you to say "I don't want to live without you."

Good knowledge and I appreciate you sharing your atories. I feel a lot better knowing I'm not alone in this experience.
In the past- My friends will get involved with a woman and she gets all weird/insecure about mine/his friendship. That's usually the beginning of the end.. {even if we have a strictly platonic friendship.}
I had to initiate/physically force the seperation between myself and my ex's because they can't stay away from me, no matter how hard they want to move on. I know I hang on tighter to my Aqua than I should/ or need to because I'm afraid of losing him as a close friend. I dont trust that once I am no longer sleeping with a man, his promise/obligation to me will over ride the one he has to the woman he's involved with.
I am a closed book and because I let him in and vise versa we take our friendship seriously and cont working on it.

Back to the topic:
My Aqua has known the other woman longer than me. They were on and off for ever/ yrs...Obviously he has issues being satisfied. I have a lot of plans for the future and I wont have time to play his game. Not even if I wanted to which is why I gave him an option to lease. But He's going to see the truth after his chance has come and gone, He'll come back to me on his knees. NEVER FAILS!!
[I just want to be seen for the Gem that I am in this moment, not later after you got worked on the playig field by all the crazies/fakies.]