AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING WITH AQUA GUY ?

I am an Aries girl who has alot in common wth Aprial. I met my Aqua on 8/3; slept with him on 8/4, 8/9 and again on 8/17. So I have known him for only 3 weeks of which during this tenure, he stopped communicating with me for about 1 week and then started again. Initially, he was calling me constantly but after sleeping with him the second time, the tables seemed to have turned where I do all of the initiating (calling, texting, etc).

This past Saturday (8/23), my aqua asked me to meet him at a neighborhood car show. I met him there and was very elated to see him cuz I hadn't seen him since 8/17. I was standing very close to him and was rubbing his back and he turned to me and said "no don't do that in public"; so I backed off. I then walked away and started enjoying the events of the show by myself. He was cool with that; he basically just talked with friends. When he was ready to leave, he came over and told me that he was leaving and walked me to my car and we parted ways. I called him and told him that I had a good time and was glad to see him. He responded, "you act like we ain't going to see each other again". I'll call you later....I didn't hear from him the rest of the night.

During this time, I started reflecting on our "relationship" and noticed that I am doing most of the calling, texting, and that Aqua only sees me when he is in the "area". After much thought I decided this is not what I want from him and took all of your advise and decided to put the brakes on my emotions.

Well yesterday (sunday), I was coming from the drugstore and passed Aqua....he was in the neighborhood. I didn't acknowledge him just kept driving. He called, I ignored his calls...he called twice. I then went home and got dressed to meet friends for dinner (around 7pm)...while getting dressed...Aqua called again. I ignored his call. As I pulled out of my driveway...Aqua drove down the street but didn't stop. The funny thing is that he has never been to my home and I didn't think he knew where I lived.

Today, he called me at 4:30am (this is my wake time for work)...I didn't answer; he sent me a text about 1hour ago, I didn't read it; I deleted it.....

My question is am I doing the right thing to regain myself with Aqua. Initially, he was all in too me; but after I gave him sex the second time, he started slowing down. Please advise

1) sounds like the normal beginning of a relationship, congratulations... 🙂 but isn't it too early to go into over-analysis and strategy?

2) are you being instinctive self or is dxp helping to mold your relationship?

I'm sorry seems like the cookiemonstery began after she came onto dxp from her postings but no worries - carry on...lurking time...lalala

This is "classic" of what i went through and have been through, and yes, RUN for your life, the first year was PURE HELL with my aqua male, and what you just described, man, i thought you were watching me....FOR REAL!


So, yeppers, PURE hell i tell ya, i honestly almost completely lost my mind last year, and my kids do blame him for it all, they grown 17,19,23.


I can tell ya, nothing feels worse, than to feel like you are someone's "dirty lil secret" especially when i am older and we have racial difference as well. He was alot of "first" for me and man, for him to be complicated as a male, then the other room i gave to "differences" man, PURE HELL!

I just learned from a male acquantaince that knows him....that I was viewed by his friends as one of his women.....this probably explains the way he reacted when I tried to get close to him.

kudos, aries, i think we see a pattern here. these aqua men are not capable of real love and compassion. they appear busy, etc. where in reality they are just scum and players.

even when they are not all that, they turn the table around on us cuz they'll be so unavailable and makes u wonder and try even harder. but they don't understand emotions or loyalty, the only way to deal with them is not to treat them like ur friends like many have suggested, but to treat them like dirt.

i hate to say that, because i don't have the mean streak in me to do that either so i try to take the high road and avoid being around him. it's not that i'm not capable of playing games, its just that nothing good comes of it and it's a waste of time. i ll just have to steer clear of these guys. they are charming, social and always on the prowl. never should i get involved with one, regardless how innocent, trust-worthy, reliable they seem at first. they always turn. i should get a tattoo to remind myself of the pain. i think any other signs are as bad as them.