Aqua boss being more demanding

So, I have decided to not be as close with my aqua boss as before to avoid complications. But things got even more weird.

1. He kept liking my photos on instagram - weekends, lunch time, evenings. And when I check whoelse he has liked, basically, sometimes he only liked my post. When he is connected with other girls from the office.

2. I had a one on one meeting with him and he told me that he felt that I got scared of him. He is now demanding me to talk to him more and have a "real conversation" with him. I explained that I did get scared of him but I didnt exactly say why. I just said that i think he has high expectations.

3. In our discussion, i explained to him that i cant talk to him the same way i talk to my friends like the sag guy because he is my boss. But he said he is like me. That he understands and actually he is introverted like me so I should try and talk to him more.

4. Every single time i see him or bump into him in the office or outside, he would always stare at me for a long time and it makes me panic because i dont know what to do!

5. However, when I talk to him, he wont have a straight conversation with me especially when there are other people. Like he would literally drop some female officemate's name and ask that person to join in our conversation.

6. He said that he knows I get nervous when I talk to him.

7. He fucking licks his lips everytime I talk to him and asks me to always come closer.

I honestly just want to figure things out. What do you think is running in his mind? My aqua bf told me to just suck it up and stroke his ego because I need to since he is my boss. So i invited him to have lunch with me next week. I honestly dont know why its been awkward. And his stare is really something that I always get. It never fails so sometimes I pretend to be looking at my phone to avoid that long gaze. How to deal with this—

Posted by iFemme
Are you in love with your boss? Sry, I don’t know the all story about you and your boss, but if you don’t like him, you need to calm down. You seams to be very responsive to his attention and and that's what excites him, and he clearly likes you. By the way, why you invited him to have lunch if you try to have some little emotional distance from him? Sounds like mistake to me.

I know by your text that he studying you (6. He said that he knows I get nervous when I talk to him), also the other things you wrote pointing to that. And lips licking is not always sexual gesture. Some times it’s just a habit or kind of reminder to keep yourself together and focused.

I think you really need to calm down, but more important, you have to show your boss an other side of you, that you aren't so into him. Just be practical and polite with him and leave your emotions out. He will get ‘your message’.

Thank you!!!! I actually invited him for lunch as my aqua bf suggested. I told him my worries and he said because we are in a sales job, I just gotta do office politics and stroke my boss' ego. Dont get me wrong, my boss is quite attractive. But over the course of working with him, I think I am still attracted with my bf more. i'm a gemini and the twins inside me has different preferences! Lol this is the 2nd time I am working with an aqua and my ex boss actually asked me once if he was my type! I am probably giving out wrong signals? But in general, I do wonder what keeps an aqua guy hooked. I meet an aqua and things turn weird like this. If i was single, i'd come out and play surely!

Posted by bumboklatt
mixed signals for sure

you definitely like him

sounds like the struggle is more with yourself than with his behavior

if you were more sure of yourself you would be straight with him and he wouldnt be playing with you as much

he's just messing around seeing where it gets him

I see. I guess this is the trouble with being a gemini. It all gets confusing. I want to deal with him in a professional way or not at all. Believe me, i avoided talking to him. But he kept including me in everything related to his team which i am no longer a part of. Even my friends know that I am avoiding him. There is tension and I am feeling it all the time. :/

Moral of the story...

...don't give your boss your instagram.

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Posted by bumboklatt
mixed signals for sure

you definitely like him

sounds like the struggle is more with yourself than with his behavior

if you were more sure of yourself you would be straight with him and he wouldnt be playing with you as much

he's just messing around seeing where it gets him

I see. I guess this is the trouble with being a gemini. It all gets confusing. I want to deal with him in a professional way or not at all. Believe me, i avoided talking to him. But he kept including me in everything related to his team which i am no longer a part of. Even my friends know that I am avoiding him. There is tension and I am feeling it all the time. :/

yeah well the trouble is not so much in you being a Gemini but him taking advantage of your personality.

At least you recognize whats going on. The bigger problem is this is all happening in a work environment

Beware IT NEVER ENDS lol

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Exactly!!!!!! He said to me that we should talk more and have more "real conversations" because we will be working together for a very long time. -'finhdwkdeodfwiwjrlakfe

Posted by LadyNeptune
Moral of the story...

...don't give your boss your instagram.

Yeah. Its quite tough though because I am working in a digital media industy and its known that we all have all sorts of social media accounts because of the clients we handle. Name it, we've got accounts from facebook to tinder to study the market we are in..... phew.

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Posted by PureGem23

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Posted by PureGem23

Posted by bumboklatt
mixed signals for sure

you definitely like him

sounds like the struggle is more with yourself than with his behavior

if you were more sure of yourself you would be straight with him and he wouldnt be playing with you as much

he's just messing around seeing where it gets him

I see. I guess this is the trouble with being a gemini. It all gets confusing. I want to deal with him in a professional way or not at all. Believe me, i avoided talking to him. But he kept including me in everything related to his team which i am no longer a part of. Even my friends know that I am avoiding him. There is tension and I am feeling it all the time. :/

yeah well the trouble is not so much in you being a Gemini but him taking advantage of your personality.

At least you recognize whats going on. The bigger problem is this is all happening in a work environment

Beware IT NEVER ENDS lol

Exactly!!!!!! He said to me that we should talk more and have more "real conversations" because we will be working together for a very long time. -'finhdwkdeodfwiwjrlakfe

thats annoying and manipulative. He wont have any power over you until you stop caring. Its so easy to get back at him and play games but (again) its a work environment.....

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My bf said maybe he is getting jealous of my close relationship with other people in the team particularly the sag guy and scorp guy. But then again they arent my boss and they are safe to hangout with as they treat me like a sister. He is a different case though. He wanted me to tell him some personal stuff like for example what I am as a person. During the one on one meeting, i talked about myself as he asked and then he said that's the "real conversation" he wants from me. I was being careful tbh. We are threading a very thin line on 2 things: boss and employee as well as being in a relationship and doing things behind my aqua bf's back which I would never do because this is my longest relationship ever. I really dont want to mess it up. Even if my bf told me to try and stroke my boss' ego which means complimenting him and talking to him all the time, i still feel a bit uncomfortable with the idea. My aqua bf is super understanding though. I really respect that about him.