Ok...I need help. I have been talking to this Aqua guy for about two months now, but his way of dating and ideas about dating are totally confusing to me, something I have never faced before. He asked me out, and we went out on two dates, I asked him out a couple of times...I wouldn't call them dates, but more like group dates hanging out with friends and drinking. WE hooked up. Yes, earlier than we should have, but then he did call after the first time, and asked me out again...after the second time...he distanced himself. He didn't call me in almost two weeks...I ran into him at work, and we were totally cordial with eachother...I never brought up the faact that he didn't call. That night, he called and we hung out again, but this is where all of the confusion comes in. He didn't realy seem like he knew what he wanted, he kissed me, but then didn't ask me to stay over. Then we had "the talk"...I mentioned that it was disappointing that he hadn't called me in almost two weeks, and he was honest and open with me and told me that he had a lot goign on between worka nd school, he seemed nervous that I would be led on, and he couldn't give me all that one would want or need in a relationship. So, after iniating two months of hanging out, he felt overwhelmed, even though I have been very careful and to not pressure him...do all aquarians just FEEL the pressure of being in a relationship? So, I told him I was cool with being friends, and that I also didn't have time for a relationship, but that I would like a call once in a while if we were to hang out again...he apologized profusely for not calling, and then we decided (in our drunken state) to just be "hook up" buddies, but that he would still have to treat me respectfully like call me up and make real plans...I suggested this because I don't want him to feel that I am ALL about a relationship, I understand aquas need to be friends first...but why are they so confused—? they start something, and then get freaked out about it! I was planning on sending him some cute lingerie and a funny card just for fun, but is this a bad plan? Should I be letting him make the next move, or am I just being blind, he did tell me he wasn't sure about a "relationship" that night, but then we hooked up anyways afterwards...I just don't want to scare him away by sending him the lingerie...but at the same time I think he would enjoy it- hmmm...any tips?
