Curious

How many Pisces have been in a relationship with an Aquarius? How did it work out?

LOL!

Aqua boring, thats unusual, were usually doing something off the wall or quirky.

Yes, off-the-wall and quirky ... but, that's just spontaneous reactions .. which is good, definitely.

Many things are a turn-on/off with Aqua's .. and the being eccentric is one quality which would be the biggest "on" for me. The biggest "off" for me would be the way they set up an intimate relationship as though it's a business deal. They would settle for who's right according to compatible qualities over how a Pisces would choose a partner, which is by embracing "feelings".

Of course ... I would certainly understand that from a non-Pisces perspective, this would seem irresponsbile and stupid .. and you would be right. To just jump into a union without thought about compatibility, until after being hooked is pretty dumb, and is the set-up for the Fish being abused/hurt.

I know that there are several Aqua's & Pisces in here who have had a very bad run within this combo ... while there M (Aqua female) is currently in a combo that's working.

Personally .. I think it's the Pisces moon people that woudn't make it with an Aqua. The sun doesn't seem to have a problem ... but, when Pisces people have their moon in Pisces also, thier feelings can get shattered with just a wrong glance in their direction. And though, I don't mean for that to sound like a bad quality in itself, for there's nothing wrong with having deep feelings ... my only point is that the Aqua is pretty objective, and enjoys conversing on that level and the Pisces moon people wouldn't likely be able to handle that without taking every little thing personally.

So a male Pisces may be too sensitive for an Aqua female?

Pisces having an Aqua female SPRUNG shiiiiiiit, thats dayum near impossible, he's the bomb lol!!

I dated an Aqua, well actually I was fixed on him up until I CONQUERED his game and then I wasn't interested any longer after that, I flipped his world up, he had to re-invent himself which he quickly took into action, flipped his game up, called me to let me know and asked if I wanted another go at it LOL!! He's so funny! Were cool as friends but nothing more, he's always talking dirty too, not passive at all.

I noticed another one of my Pisces friends is driven to do his own thing, not too luck in love and the girls he pick aren't too good looking and he's actually pretty hot, not sure what thats about.

"the girls he pick aren't too good looking and he's actually pretty hot, not sure what thats about."

Heart versus Ego .. that's not uncommon for a Pisces. The outside of a person doesn't shine brighter than the inside.

"Heart versus Ego .. that's not uncommon for a Pisces. The outside of a person doesn't shine brighter than the inside."

How sweet, I take it that Pisces aren't the vain ones in the horoscope group.

sorry meant to say I dated a Pisces

The Aquarius woman should watch out if she wants complete freedom, as the Pisces man is likely to become addicted to her, and he is very sensitive.

The Aquarius woman - Pisces man relationship is excellent for a romantic fling, but exhausting for anything long term.

Well I'm a Pisces and I'm just out of a 2.5 year relationship with an Aqua. I have to agree with PP on this, all mine wanted to do was stay in. If we did go out it was always the SAME old places with the same people, he was very reluctant to try new things and wasn't really interested in meeting new people.

I felt controlled also, he told me what to wear and how to act. And he criticised me constantly. Don't get me wrong we had great chemistry and the sex was fantastic lol but there was very little affection. To be honest I just felt trapped more than anything else, and I had my eyes opened to what our future would be like........and that scared me.

Oh and he was VERY possessive.

lol PP that sounds about right!

Except he actually LIKED it when I wore revealling clothes, but only when I was with HIM!

If I was having a night out with my girl friends he'd always ask what I was wearing and then would go nuts if he thought it was too short/low cut whatever. He would actually say "you're not wearing that, I'm putting my foot down" haha like I ever listened. I do not take well to being told what to do, he used to drive me nuts with that, like he was the boss of me.

I just always felt like he was trying to change me, or mould me into his idea of the perfect woman.

Not saying I'm perfect far from it, but I never asked him to change and I at least tried to understand where he was coming from. But it was his way or the highway.

"Aquarius men are very controlling, some verbal and like my Aqua his controlling was subtle done with the mind..."

Oh boy talk about mind games. I always got the impression he would start arguments for no reason just to test my reaction, see how much I cared about him or was willing to back down. He would often go "well let's just finish it then" and I would always try and make the peace sort things out. One day I thought fuck it and called his bluff and said ok then fine. He did a full 360 and told me he wasn't being serious and then promptly changed the subject.

I have to say he did have his good points too though, I don't want to sit here and bash him cos that's not really my style plus he's not able to defend himself. I think it just boiled down to the fact we weren't really that well suited.

I'm just too old for all that crap now lol. I really can't be bothered with complicated relationships anymore, I'd rather be in a partnership where you can just be straight with each other no messing around or having to second guess and play games.

"I guess the trick is not to react"

Agree SF, I found the less bothered I was the more flustered he got and the less inclined he was to try and play games. Actually I'd go as far as to say he got a bit insecure when I refused to indulge him.

SF I'm with you on that. I don't even regret being with him because it's taught me sooo much about what it is I really want out of a relationship, I've also realised how much I changed just to suit him. Never again.

I have to admit the experience has toughened me up a lot too. I look back at how I was then compared to what I'm like now and I'm definitely much stronger. So it's been a good lesson for me, if a painful one at times.

PP amen indeed lol. Although I do feel quite ready for another adventure, preferably in Spain with a nice handsome, funny & insanely charming Leo. 😛

*raises hand*

I dont know why...

I attract pisces guys like moths to a flame for some reason.

It is exhausting...my pisces guy has a sag moon though.
BUT he still takes everything to heart....it used to be much worse when I first started talking to him. He told me, that one day he just got used to it. Meaning he got used to my bluntness and the fact that I dont truly say things to be mean. BUT we still have issues with his sensitivity....I try to catch my tongue as best as I could. I can help if this stuff (sarcasm) comes easily to me! lol

He does like the chase, I have definitely given him, one...still am actually 🙂
Pisces guys are such sweethearts, but can be too soft for this Mars in Aries gal. I like him though, ALOT. I just try to stay away from the pedestal he's placed me on (his actual words)...I think thats why im so hard on him. It cannot be good for both of us if he continues to have these lofty ideals of me...im only human and can only go down from there. Aquas hate having expectations placed on them.
We make awesome friends; I love his personality...very funny.

We (pisces/aqua) do attract one another for some odd reason...but we arent a relationship that usually lasts. Pisces usually gets hurt in the end. Theres a guy on the site named 'Greatwhite"...he has had great success with his aqua girl and him being a pisces, there engaged right now. Actually he's our only aqua girl cheerleader on DXP....we gets no love from the guys on this site, no matter how much we stick up for aqua guys.

Aqua girls are much less WHATEVER than aqua guys. BUT we still have almost the same issues in the love depot.

I also get called weird alot...not sure if its good or bad, but it doesnt stop them from coming back for more.

Even if we dont work, Im sure we'll stay friends forever.

The thing is you guys dont like working on issues, you'd rather ignore it until it builds up and then you leave with no explanation...atleast thats how the men operate. I find I have no issue with not discussing it either...I hate conflict, BUT im open to do discussing practically anything.

Pisces/Aqua alwso ususlly have issues in the romance department. Pisces are more Hallmark people, idealistic (cliche, IMHO) approach to love/romance. Aquas aren't romantic enough or emotionless for pisces. Then pisces feels there giving MUCH more than they're receiving and aquas feel pisces is superficial in their approach.

We have totally opposite perspectives.

Actually we were discussing his past relationship and thats exactly what he did to his exgf. He takes her shit for a long period of time, rather than trying to improve the relationship and maybe let her know what he thinks/feels. He eventually just one day calls her and tells her its over. Im sure she had n idea, but never got the chance to address and maybe fix the issue/change her ways.

This isnt the first time I know of a pisces man doing this.


I say superficial in terms of:
You like the idea of what a great relationship should look like. What a guy does for a girl, buys, etc. Rather than actual relationship itself, the other person and yourselves. Yeah you can buy candy and roses...but thats not what makes up THE relationship. Its not a romantic comedy every day in real life. You have to be able to discuss your issues (once again) and truly understand the other person.
The idealism/dream thing pisces has comes into play.
When the fog finally clears, then its over.

Its a combination of venus in cap and my sun sign...but I just respond to that as much as someone else would. SO, I say its all about perspective. Im more about the realistic.

*I dont respond

I dont respond to the superficial approach.
You all are probably realistic in other facets of life...just not really, IMO, in the relationship depot.

The superficial concept is my only my perspective on the whole issue. The pisces guys I know are in their early to mid 20's that could play a factor. Although there have been a few older male DXPers who displayed almost the same characteristics.

Yes we definitely do learn from one another. DXP has helped me in identifying my own issues; how my personality/behavior affects those around me.


Goodnight/morning Ms.Pisces 🙂

Lady_M 8/23/2007 2:42:14 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.12E

... I try to be nice to him since he says im mean...so we watch what he likes.


Lady_M 11/1/2007 10:55:11 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.12E

.. The thing is you guys dont like working on issues, you'd rather ignore it ...
.. We have totally opposite perspectives

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So, I have a question to you .... if you feel it's valuable in a relationship to make whatever comprimises are necessary to keep the other happy, yourself .. how do you then come back and say that a Pisces who ignores something with intentions of passifying, so not to be in conflict .. is a BAD thing?

Certainly, a movie is a minor thing .. but, in the whole scheme of things, it IS the same principal that you project onto from one side of your mouth and then from the other side, you state that this is a Pisces fault.

M ... there's a difference between being ignorant and wanting to passify for the purpose of not wanting to have tension in a relationship .. if you never get to see a movie with him because you are comprimising, or you are only being nice to him because he thinks you are mean .. then you, in essence are ignoring an issue and passifying for the purpose of creating harmony, rather than tension.

Principal is principal ..

However ... I do agree with you .. for the most part, Pisces people normally choose to comprimise themselves and not approach an issue within a union that might cause tension ... that is, until it's time to approach it, which normally comes at the end of a relationship, such as most people.

I've said before, and I say again ... these qualities that we hold dear and cherish within our partner are the same qualities that we use against them during our exist ... just like, I've no doubt in my mind that if and when you ever break up with your man, M, this "comprimise" you've made to him for love, with be ammunition against him to make your point about all the sacrifices made on his behalf.

We are all hypocrites .. every fucking one of us ..

Lady_M Hide | 11/1/2007 10:55:11 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.12E

The thing is you guys dont like working on issues, you'd rather ignore it until it builds up and then you leave with no explanation...atleast thats how the men operate. I find I have no issue with not discussing it either...I hate conflict, BUT im open to do discussing practically anything.

perspective.

I agree .. it's perspective .. everything is, actually.

However, I don't see where yours and his approach is any different. If you have no problem with NOT discussing something ... and he has no issues avoiding a topic .... then this appears to be the same, from my perspective, of course.

One thing as it relates to Pisces and a partner (any sign), is that when we talk about an issue, or feelings .. we do so from two main angles, which are connected .. and people can't handle it, normally, and will then say that we don't approach topics. When in truth, we would actually talk to you people, if you'd get over yourselves and your feelings to actually listen.

One: We talk from a broader view ... "Why would you anybody do something like that" .. we might ask during a dispute, and our partner would take offense and think we are accusing them of something, when in reality .. we are simply pondering how ANYBODY could do such a thing and not person specific, eventhough, it was our partner who actually did it.

Two: We support your feelings that are being projected .. we don't support your ego .... "We all do dumb things, sometimes honey" .. we might say when our partner is confiding in us that they screwed up. The partner doesn't want to hear this ..

Over time .. we stop going to you with our problems, or trying to iron out relationship problems because you all don't listen .. you only know how to react.

It is exhausting...my pisces guy has a sag moon though.
BUT he still takes everything to heart....it used to be much worse when I first started talking to him. He told me, that one day he just got used to it. Meaning he got used to my bluntness and the fact that I dont truly say things to be mean. BUT we still have issues with his sensitivity....I try to catch my tongue as best as I could. I can help if this stuff (sarcasm) comes easily to me! lol

In terms of the relationship with my Aqua, we are both equally sensitive (I'm a Pisces), we just express are emotions differently. It's very noticeable when he's upset about something, b/c he'll become removed. And he is very sensitive and does read into things, a lot. I do as well, so I can understand (the small things usually are an indication of the larger picture anyways). So I try to be sensitive to anything that I know bothers him, as I know he does for me. And for an Agua I think it takes them awhile to let themselves develop feelings for someone else as it requires a lot of trust for them to let their guards down. The closer we become, the more sensitive he is to things related to me or the relationship. Which really makes a huge impression on me b/c that shows just how much he cares. Even while we have been together for over 3 years, we still haven't exchanged those three coveted words, though we both know how we feel, and we haven't talked about things like marriage or kids, though I know we're on the same page. He's said things like, I dream of you and I being married. But he's so unpredictable, that I haven't truly let me own guard down (which, for a Pisces is difficult not to do). I just know how critical he is and t/f have only recently started being myself around him (after 3 years!). I hope it works out, but we do need to let ourselves be entirely vulnerable and open with one another.

That was me understanding the approach P-Angel and feeling the same way about drama, etc, BUT I'd rather it be discussed an NOT come to the point where he just leaves...like he's done with the rest of his gf's.

As an aqua we're able to discuss things objectively and rationally to a fault. No I do not judge or put blame on him. That is not what I do, I rarely ever judge anyone. We've discussed the idea of being judged by one another and I always have to assure him I NEVER judge him or anyone else; before he tells me almost anything about himself.

I completely agree and understand Galileia.


PP: I've dated both cancer and pisces and both after a day of two of conversation asked me to marry them and have their babies. lol

My pisces guy has a venus in cap as well, so we have almost the same views and approach to love and relationships....his more conservative than mine. BUT I understand why Ihe thinks so highly of me and I think so highly of him. I just dont want to 'mess up' or anything. Aqua women are pleasers, yes we're kinda slow in love but its only b/c were perfectionists.