Aqua Update to those who remember

I pressed charges on him in Oct for phone harassment, I have since spoken to him and a girls name did show up in my caller id on some of the calls whom was a girl he was seeing, she found my number in his phone, I had not seen him(on a sexual level) in about a year or so, anyway, he had called wanting to see me and i explained I was involved w/someone else and happy to be where i am/was at. I eventually dropped the charges since the calls stopped, the officers, investigators and I all worked to make this happen. I really dont want to deal w/courts, drama, etc.........its just a misdemeanor charge here in TX, more hassle than worth really.

HE has been calling and talking to me for the past couple weeks, more normal.........but kinda demanding and says stuff like "I own this" meaning me.......NOT!

Now, fast forward to this past weekend he has blown my phone up wanting to see me, talk to me. I stopped in w/a friend an visited him at his place for a short while on Saturday night, on Sunday I stopped in and he told me he waited up on me til 1:30am thinking I would come back, I didnt answer his calls after I left an have given NO indication that I would be back. He is still calling. He wants to see me even though I am involved/committed and saying NO.
Yesterday he finally said he was "starting" to respect my relationship, but wanted to see me one last time, that is NOT going to happen, as well, he believes I will "be back" saying "fuck him" as he stated, WHATEVER..............


Is this typical Aqua male persistence in "sex"?

WHAT ARE YOUU DOING? Why do you keep entertaining the man? Do you like the attention?
You should have cut all ties and changed your number a long time ago. If it came to the point where police and chargers were involved why were you back tracking and visiting him and entertaining conversations??

You are the problem as well. Your sending mixed signals. Your in a happy committed relationship, but your entertaining a man who clearly has a fatal attraction thing for you. Make up your mind and stick to a plan; maybe then maybe he will completely leave you alone.

No its not typical aqua male persistence about sex. I'm sure he can get that from anywhere, he's just crazy.

Your behavior is inconsistent with your words.

and furthermore to Lady_M's response, if you're in a committed relationship why the bloody hell are you off visiting your stalker ex and entertaining his phone calls? I'm pretty sure my man would get seriously pissed off with me if I was entertaining my ex's shit and he certainly wouldn't believe me if I pretended it bothered me?

And the sad part about it all is that when something truly does go horribly wrong the police won't take you seriously given the fact not only did you drop the charges your now back in communication with this assclown. You wasted everyones time pressing charges, wasting precious man hours to help you only for you to turn around and go right back into entertaining this non-sense.

You should have went no contact the moment you knew you were being stalked and remained in no contact...What are you doing?? Your begging for trouble, your going to get trouble if you keep this up and guess what, you just gave your stalker the green light to stalk and harass you all over again. I agree with Lady M and Aqualeo and to add to that, stop the madness or your going find yourself in deep trouble.

Thanks yall, damn! Well first I did not drop the charges.......we will leave that there for future possible need which at this time I do not think will be needed. Second, He and I finally got a understanding, and he will not call again, nor has. He said he now understood my relationship and respected it and would. As I told him, if I want ya, I know how to find ya an where you live. So I feel and believe all is over w/the crazy part he has /had played back last OCT when I did have to seek the police for stopping that behavior. He will not risk his future to be a idiot nor will he endanger me again. I truly believe that, but it sure as hell has been a long, scary and bumpy road to get to this point. Thank GOD for carrying me through it safely and without further fear.

I managed to stop the maddness FINALLY!

Dropped the charges, how about I did not pursue them, and the police, investigators an I all worked to achieve this mutual goal successfully. I am having a hard time explaining w/out detail........sorry

PGA those are excuses....This is dangerous behavior on your part....Leave the dude alone, stalkers are not rational people, he still says things like I own this, then he will say things to seem in agreement with your choices only to push to get his way, that's a clear indication of him feeling like he wants to possess you, stop dangling the carrot in his face or there will be consequences for your behavior. You are sending mixed messages, that's a huge part of the problem.