Aquarian Men and Fashion Sense

Hello,...I was wondering if anyone could shed some light on Aquarians and their feelings on fashion. The aqua guy I am dating has NO sense of style ...the thing is, he just doesn't care..but I have to say that I have never, ever, ever met a worse dressed guy before. He is a mess! It's not that he is sloppy or doesn't know what is dressy, vs dressing down...but it's innately BAD. He has no idea what goes together, what does not, colors, materials...everything! He wore an ugly, green/jungle looking tie with a dress shirt that did not match and had another crazy print on it this Easter Sunday to work. He's not trying to prove anythign with his style , he just doesn't think about it at all...for a young, good looking guy with tons of potential, it is truly sad to witness. Now, we are dating, but we haven't gotten to the boyfriend/girlfriend stage...my question is, I realize the wardrobe is goign to take a long time and hard work to really overcome, but for now, I would like to atleast make a suggestion to him about his hair. This poor kid, he goes to some old barber guy, who literally makes this kid look like an old man..his hair cut is HORRIBLE! I would like to get him in to see my stylist, but I am trying to figure out a nice way to do this, without insulting him...personally, I really believe that he would listen to anythign I say, because for whatever reason he really values my opinion...if I told him somethign looked good or hot on him, I think he would buy it...but, we havne't gotten to that shopping together point yet, but we did once have a discussion on how he could use my assistance when he decides to invest in a new wardrobe...

Can anyone help me figure out a nice way to get him into my hair stylist's chair!!— I've never told him that I think his clothes are bad or his haircut, I think I once mentioned he needed to get rid of this silly sports coat he always wears...but knowing this, he still wears it around me all of the time!! This might be more difficult that I anticipated!

Go shopping with him...pick out some things that you would like for him 2 wear...it worked 4 me, and now I'm all fly and sexy 🙂 LOL

u're right uc....nothing I can do about it right now....but one day- whenever that day ever comes...I will definitely bring it up, and I figured out the best way how to....During sex!! he he..If I make him think he'd look HOT with a different style haircut...he would do it...but of course, I will have to wait a while before that happens. Funny thing though, apparently, it's not just me dealing with bad haircuts in our part of town...my girlfriend's ex boyfriend went to the same stupid barber that my aqua goes to! And apparently he had a horrible haircut too! It actually caused friction between her and her boyfriend at the time, when she tried to set up an appointment for him at a different hair salon!!! Guess I 'll just have to learn from her experience and stay away from this altogether! I truly like him for who he is, and I think it's sweet that he just doesn't care about superficial things, he's not cocky like half the guys in this town who go tanning on a weekly basis, and only wear desginer brands...I love that about him...but it's still sad that he can't even put a decent outfit together on his own!! I still noticed him with the dorky clothes, and the dorky haircut- he's so special, maybe other girls couldn't get passed those other things...I am fairly sure that I can. BUT, if we are meant to be together, there must a be a gentle way to approach these issues, right?

Eventually?

LOL @ OP

He could possible be red green color blind??

The aquarian dress ranges...we can hobos one week and couture the next. Its whatever we feel. Most of us have a pretty simple classic good style ...I dont know too many of those far out hippy aquas the books talk about.

be careful here, thin ice! I am with UC, don't bring this up until he is comfortable with it. Ways to be a little sneakier about it are to try to be around when he's getting ready, ask him to wear something he already owns that you think is nice. Or when he does wear something you think is nice, tell him you like it.

I dated an aqua who liked for me to help him get ready. we hadn't been together that long, but we were very good friends before we started dating. Everyone is sensitve about these things, even if it seems like they don't care. Be gentle, and if you really don't care that much about it, don't bring it up blatantly.

Oh no, you CAN NOT force us to do anything we dont want to do. Dont make him feel like your trying to change his essence, he wont appreciate it.

SECRET:You have to make it seem like it was our idea... 😉

oh boy, those are the best kinds...The guy whose hot but doesnt fully realize it or live up to its potential. I find alot of aqua guys to be this way.

Muse...I Have YET to see 1 nice shirt or outfit since we have been dating for 5 mths ...oh, excuse me...in the 1 year (this month) that I have known him and been working with him every Sunday, I still have not seen a decent outfit. Not one nice pair of pants, he usually tries to stick with Jerseys of some sort to support all of the sports he plays...and the tie and horrible dress shirt he wore this Easter Sunday, ugh! Last week he met some of my best friends for the first time...he wore an oversized, faded, black tee-shirt...I truly wonder if he owns anything halfway decent in that closet of his! I'm not exaggerating either, I was hoping that this Sunday he would dress up and look hot...seriously, NEVER have I seen a shirt that looked nice on him...one day he wore a BRIGHT ORANGE MICKEY MOUSE tee-shirt that he got from Disney World to work! Ok, so Mickey was really just a small little logo on the chest, not some big picture or anything...but bright orange? I would love to take a peak in his closet...I'm usually rushing out the door to take care of my dog in the morning, so I haven't been able to stick around when he gets ready...but maybe the next time I'm in his closet, I'll just look through his stuff, and IF I see a cute shirt, I'll tell him I like it and ask him why he never wears it! Guess I could start there...His younger brother is a model in LA...he just did a photo shoot for Abercrombie and was recently in a music video, I'm telling ya, this boy has great genes...their whole family is georgous! Even his mother looks like she could have been a mode..and truthfully, when his brother was living in town, he didnt' look that good until he came back from LA all tan, with better clothes and a new haircut...my aqua is beautiful, and has amazing potential...he just doesn't see it I guess. I think he's used to being the "less hot/more intelligent" older sibling, but he is damn hot to ME!

It's just funny that he is the EXTREME opposite of his more fashionably smart brother...but they also have this huge competitiveness thing going on between them, and aren't that close because of it...so maybe it's some strange unconcious thing he does to himself...which leads him to reject any sort of fashion sense...ah well...thank you for the input though, I'm so glad I asked you guys before I did anything stupid...well, before it was too late rather..because I already booked the hair appointment!!!HAHA...I will go cancel it now😉

and how does one make it seem like these ideas are yours?! LADY M

Well, can't say I tried to help. Personally, I'm open to all types of different varieties of clothing, even if it isn't my style . A lady friend wanted me to wear some type of urban designed outfit that actually fit my waist instead of having it bagging off my butt, I felt soo wierd wearing it but I quickly grew to love it and now I'm that much closer to totally broadening my horizons. I tried 2 upload da picture but geez, only 50KBs—??

Its an art...to be continued...

Leo Aqua's suggestion: Brilliant. easy to do, no strings.

And regarding making them think it's their idea...you're a libra, right? Libra's are experts at this. Just follow your instincts, lol. Ohhh, I may get a lot of disgruntled grumblings for saying this, but here it goes:

make a snarky comment about some OTHER guy who dresses slightly similarly while in your Aqua's presence might make him think...for example..pick out some guy with disney gear on because really, that is just unacceptable! NEVER NEVER direct the comment at him, but maybe make sure he hears it. I don't know if it would turn him off though, turn to the aquas to know if they wouldn't like something like that...

UC I agree. All the aqua men I know dress very well and are concerned with their appearance, but still remain uniquely them. And their style has to be appealing to me before I consider them attractive. I don't mean their style has to be conventional, but it's got to be THERE.

Fashion has always been of very little concern to me. I don't put much effort into it. Usually my girlfriend dresses me for special occasions and I follow her to a tee but other than that she hardly ever tries to tell me what to wear or hardly suggests anything. I dress for efficiency and comfort, no more, no less.

Well, I think all of your advice makes sense...everyone has their unique sense of style which makes them, well unique and special in their own way...I definitely am not focused on what he's wearing, I think he's adorable...and I've always been attracted to him- no matter what he is wearing...so far, he has never worn anything Inappropriate...so I guess that's a good sign. I think I'll start with complimenting something nice he's wearing, any maybe he'll just know to start wearing similar nice shirts/pants around once in a while...though, I'm fairly positive there is not one nice thing in his closet...he mentioned once that he may need my help shopping when he actually decides to invest in some new clothes...maybe I'll mention shopping to him when I buy some new clothes, and if he brings up that he needs some..I can offer to go shopping with him...I'm pretty sure he would think that was ok, because the shopping would have been HIS idea...as for the hair, I've now talked to another girlfriend in town whose ex ALSO went this "fred" character at the same barber shop as my aqua...I imagine I am not the only girl facing this problem!

So I guess things are better defined b/n you two...exclusivity perhaps?

just to be contrary:

there have been thousands of studies by leading scientists since studies have been performed, that clothing GREATLY affects the way a man (or woman) is perceived. So no, maybe the clothes don't make the man, but the effect can have important ramifications on how the man is received...

I agree that generally, everyone should be able to express themselves with their own style ...and I do accept that...but MUse, I am with you on this...truthfully, this aqua's career choice is wat has me concerned....he is in law school, so he's still a student which is fine for now, but I totally agree with the idea that how you dress affects how you are perceived...I would never want to hire an attorney who dressed like a complete nerd...and didn't how to dress appropriately! He should at the very least, know how to wear a matching tie with a nice suit, or a proper dress shirt...you can't go in front of a judge looking a mess!!! But, at this point, it is not my place to point this out to him at this time. EVen as a friend, when he graduates and starts to work in the real world, I will point it out to him, because well, how you present yourself in the professional world is different than what you wear at home. And that WAS my actual concern for him, what will he do when he has to attend events, or work!!? As far as what he wears when he's lounging, I really don't mind...as I mentioned before, I don't mind the clothes right now, it was mroe the fact that his hair was making him look less attractive to me!! He may be simple and doesn't care about clothes, but eventually, he will need to in my opinion.

They will probably value the opinions of those who embrace something deeper than fashion sense.

My comment was not pertaining to "fashion sense." It is a true pyschological study with real world ramifications. What the eye sees the brain interprets...how the brain interprets is universal. Do the study yourself. Wear extremely different style s of clothing, and see how you are received.

Fashion sense is more like art to me, and I don't believe everyone's sense of style need be the same. I am eccentric in my dressing myself and have never dressed a man either. BUT, that being said, I've never dated a man whose fashion sense turns me off...don't know if it's shallow, but it's doesn't feel that way. Not being attracted doesn't mean I'm simplistic.