Aquarius and using

I've been wondering if aqua's are users reason being every aqua i knows claim to be so independent but the ones i know (all except one) will suck you dry. It seem like they dont ask you directly they like to mention little things here and there.

So aqua do you use people for money or their time?

I ask this because many aqua's say they wont waste their time if they dont really like a person why go out with them.

ps. Time thing is personal but the money thing is just being intrested

If I like the person as a friend (Ive done this before)...it selfish, but I still go out with them, knowing they have feelings for me. I just hope that there feelings would eventually subside, so we can have a pretty good friendship, but apparently its not possible. Its because I like them as a person I still want to hang out with them, but I just have no romantic feelings for them; I do try to make it known that I dont feel that way about them...but I guess my actions would say otherwise if I keep hanging out with them still giving them some form of hope/mixed signals...which is completely NOT my intention.

I dont use anyone....I hate being dependent on anything.

"So aqua do you use people for money or their time?"

No, I don't use ppl at all for nothing, if anything I get used by ppl.
Have you ever though maybe that its not a astrology thing, some ppl are just users.


"I ask this because many aqua's say they wont waste their time if they don't really like a person why go out with them."

I hate when guys I am just friends with, want to be more than friends. For me after I figure out that someone wants to be more than friends and I am not interested, I have to distance myself, in a way the friendship is sort of ruined, because I always get the feeling that the guy is still wanting more than a friendship, rather he does or not., but I can not say I have never wasted my time going out without with someone, because sometimes you think you like someone then you realize you don't, (Feelings Are Deceiving).

Lady M i completely understand your point it really gave me much insight to the situation.

So if you know it's just a friendship you should be paying for your own dinner everytime you go out right?

you shouldnt blow your friends phone up if they are busy and cant get to you right away?

Lady M you wouldnt care right because these actions dont seem like just a friendship.
I take that back you can do that to your close friend not one that you just met and may have addimited that they liked you.



bijou2u i asked because a couple aquas i know continue to take and take from people that like them. one girl i know it's crazy how much she takes even though she's been with this person for a while she takes a lot.

bijou2u i havent asked the aqua i know because she's not into astrology.

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typing too fast

Well in that situation the person could be using the other.

I tend to pay for my own things ...especially with guys, as to leave NO confusion. Ive just never been one of those women (no matter how much I wish I could).

I concur with bijou.

"I'm fairly uncomfortable letting someone pick up a check unless it's a special occasion or a real date or something. With my friends we may take turns picking up a check - money's fairly fluid. I hate when people are nit picky about it. But I always get someone back if they've treated me.
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same here with my friends.

lol, well a girl could get used to it 😛

I dont know, Im just a little turned off when the first thing out a guys mouth is what kind of job he has, car, and what he could possibly do for me....as if Im a golddigger or something. BUT Ive realized its not entirely there fault and its just the way there wired (as provider/protecter, etc).

I try not to use it against them. Its just im fiercely independent and feel the need to assert it as to have no mishaps in the future, ya know.



Besides nothing in life is given for free...

If anything I think Aquas have too much pride to ask anything for anything, let alone use someone. I mean, when we really need something & have no way out of something we will ask for help, but only to those we feel comfortable asking (and to those who believe that we will repay them as quick as possible). ...I have personally never met an Aqua that has used someone to the point that "using people" is apart of their personality. When we do alot for others, sometimes we expect the same treatment in return but that's about the only time I can ask anybody for anything

Well in my situation i dont think she's using me for money because i generally like paying for things when we go out. Butttttttttttttttt i know an aqua who is liked by many and goes out on several dates. Now if she knows her dates really like her but she is in no way intrested in a certain few why would you continue to let them, pay like lady M states if she doesnt like a guy she would not let him pay for dinner? Why let a "friend" pay? I UNDERSTAND SOMEONE YOUR INTRESTED IN BUT NOT A FRIEND.



Back to my aqua I do think she is using me for my time because she hates to be alone and is use to going out so i think i just fit in to her nice little routine.

"Now if she knows her dates really like her but she is in no way intrested in a certain few why would you continue to let them, pay like lady M states if she doesnt like a guy she would not let him pay for dinner? Why let a "friend" pay? I UNDERSTAND SOMEONE YOUR INTRESTED IN BUT NOT A FRIEND."

She's using them...besides they are DATES. Men like to pay for "dates"...You only pay when you want to let the guy know THIS IS NOT A DATE. Otherwise, they can pay...and you can play along till notified otherwise.

btw virgo28, your aqua likes the attention.

lady M nothing more but the attention right? i thought so

i know she's not using me for money cause she has plenty of that but should i stop paying? Since i've been getting the feeling she just likes the attention.

Well if you get the vibe that she is using you (regardless of HOW she is using you), you should reconsider giving this girl YOUR time. This is about you, & how you feel about what you do for others & how she personally makes you feel. Aquas do have sort of a craving for attention but like you said it could be the "alone" factor that's playing a big role in this. Depending on what she's been through before you came alone really will tell the story of why she might be sending off these vibes. I personally have never known Aquas to be users. If anything, the Aquas are the humanitarians & are always giving more than they are receiving, so I think this issues comes down to her as an individual versus just her as an Aquarius.

This woman may not be used to getting as much attention the way you are giving her, thus when a guy like you comes along, she's allowing herself to take in ANYthing you're offering her. OR it could be that she IS interested in you & is just testing you out (Aquas are good for that). OR it could be you, I know some people always give no matter what (friend, lover or associate) & in the moment, always feel good about giving but at the end of the day (regardless of how they make you feel) might still feel used. It all really just depends.