aquarius female after breakup... and mending it

Hi,

I posted here a year ago when I was dating my partner for advice, and I got really strong feedback so I figured I'd try here again.

Situation is...

My girfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We've been serious and always talked about the future. We talked about travelling and everything we would do.

Around December, I went through a phase of trying to find out what I really want in life (it didn't rule her out the picture), and taking her for granted without realising it (it got to a point where I just wanted a little more space to myself for a little bit, and I'd be leaving her house earlier in the day than usual to do my own thing).
It got to a point over two weeks ago, where we had an argument about money and plans, and we didn't talk for a couple of days. I called her 2 days later and she said she didn't feel things were the way they used to be, and that whenever she told me this before (which she did), I would just say things are fine and she shouldn't worry.
She also said that she thinks we're going in different directions because I had mentioned to her that I couldn't see myself travelling - something she wants to do no matter what.
In the end she said she didn't love me as much as she used to, and figured she wanted to split.

This hit me like a truck and I realised I had been distancing myself away from her.

The following day, I sent her an email explaining that the reason she probably didn't love me as much is because I had taken her for granted, and that I genuinely do want to travel and do everything with her in life. I followed it up with a 3 page list of everything I wanted back (everything we had done together, or talked about doing).

She replied and said she does still love me, that she wont find anybody else who does things likes we do, and that we should start again but take things slowly. Go out occasionally over the next couple of weeks and build back what we had.
We went out twice last week, had really good times, kissed and when she got home last night, she sent me a text asking if we could get back together.
I asked her "are you happy though?"... she replied "if the last two times we've been out are anything to go by, then yes".

The problem is... I don't feel as much love as I used to from her, and I'm unsure if she'll ever get it back.
Obviously she has said what she wants, but I just wanted some further advice from Aquarian females.

Sorry I should add at the end of the message - "I don't feel as much love or attention from her as usual"

You've hurt her once and she's guarded.
Take things slow if that's what she wants and if you really want her back that much you will.
I'd also be pretty careful 2nd time round after you having distanced yourself and so on.

but for the average aquarian woman. If they told their partner who they just split up from that they should take things slow again to build it back.
How would you recommend the other person to be? Stay a little distant to give them space, or stay close but not putting on too much pressure?

Just any characteristics that work, is what I'm talking about.

The truth is, I wasn't angry I was dumped. I knew I had done wrong so I was frustrated I had let it happen.

I really want this relationship because there is something seriously special about her and it.

^^ugh, no a proposal wont make it any better...we are aqua women remember.



My advice is do as she says.🙂 Go with the flow. Dont be pushy, let it all come back to the both of you in due time.

I'm a pisces. And yes I read all about the negatives about the combination, just before we started dating.

We have talked about marriage before. I knew she was waiting for me to propose a few months ago. We still make comments to this day about what's going to happen at the wedding.
And I know you might read that paragraph and think "well she obviously likes you a lot"... but it's just her being a bit distant and a lot less fussy/attention giving as before.

I wish this board had an edit feature!
I meant to say at the end of that last post...

"but it's just her being a bit distant and a lot less fussy/attention giving as before that I'm a little unsure of"

If your taking it slow a proposal can be viewed now as being hasty or pushy, so it can go either way.

furryleo > We always said that proposal could be whenever, but it was never ruled out.

As to what you were saying about 'all talk and no action', I think that's what she saw when I told her I doubted me going travelling with her in future. Something she's always planning to do, and will do no matter what.

The plan of travelling for me I never said to myself I WOULDN'T do, but at the time when it came up in conversation I said that I doubted it, due to other things going on at home at that time.
Those have resolved and my plan for travelling still stays true, and I've made that clear to her.

Wait:

Why exactly were you distancing yourself in the first place??

My girlfriend is the type who would text me a lot during the day and call me up. And from that, it just randomly started that I took her for granted because I was so used to hearing from her.
Sometimes I'd want to do my own thing (i.e we'd see each other a lot at weekends, so I'd spend more time to myself on a Saturday doing something and go round to her house later than usual sort of thing, or even maybe leave her house early).

I explained it to her in an email that this is what I was doing and it's something I regret, without being open to her. I think because I took her for granted, I never expected the relationship to breakdown and when it did... it hit me like a spade over the head and I knew instantly where I had been going wrong.

Well, she felt rejected. We dont get to that point that you described unless we are VERY comfortable with our partner and secure. So once you started pulling away you probably aroused one her big fears of rejection and such.


I understand you need space, I wouldn't say you were taking her for granted you just got too comfortable and a bit bored I guess.

Her guard is up..rightfully so.

Thanks for the replies by the way.

I feel it's a hard time trying to convince her. I know you can't turn love on and off like a switch but I think it's just a worry over whether she'll gain it back again.
For the last week, all I've just been talking to her a lot more, having a laugh and being supportive over work. Showing her that I've been going out and not feeling sorry over the whole situation.

I find it just very strange we're back together, but not as close.... yet?

How was she in the very beginning...was it like this?

When we first started talking we would talk on msn for about 6 or 7 hours of an evening. It took a while for me to understand if she liked me or not, but once we got together we were pretty much inseperable. That's also how everybody described us.
She was committed and after some time, told me she felt I was 'the one'.

Well, there is no quick fix to mending it. Do as she says and take it one day at a time/. The security she felt will return in due time...but whose to say you wont pull the rug from under her again...atleast thats what I would be thinking if I were her. A lot of self-doubt might be gong through her head at this time...that you helped put there. We have insecurities as lovers.

Seafood, gotta communicate when you need space, how you like to express love and such because fixed signs don't always understand this unpredictability of mutable or cardinal signs, they interpret it as disloyalty.

The main thing here is you have to be you! and she has to understand and take you for those bits. Do NOT mutate so she will feel like she used to - the honeymoon stage was there before but sounds like you didn't know each other's wants and needs clearly.

We all go through intensive moments of closeness or daily chats but sometimes we also need to do our own thing, communicate that so it's not an issue. As Aquas generally preach space, she'll either understand it or make her more suspicious, nothing you can do.

Well... we celebrated her birthday on the weekend. I bought her a ring which she picked out a week before, along with some other presents I chose myself which she really liked.
We had a really good weekend together and it felt like things were back to normal.

However from Monday, it seemed to change. Her behaviour was a little bit different. She was still being a bit distant and the majority of conversations we have, she just talks about herself.
She's reluctant to talk about us but still says she loves me.
I talked about the travelling plans last night to her, and showed her I was committed.

I can only just figure her out but once I think we're back to normal, it's like things change again.

Dont do it because you think it's what she wants; for example the traveling or the ring, do it because you want to do it. She might think your just trying to please her but at some point you'll regret it and resent it and then leave.

That's what I explained to her straight off. I told her that in my head, I never ruled out travelling, and that it is what I want to do while the time is right (being young and all that).
I told her that I know she feels worried I'm going to pull the rug from under her feet, but its an idea we both said we wanted to do while we were first dating.

As for the ring, it was something I wanted to get her for her birthday anyway. We went out shopping one day, and while I had a few ideas of rings in mind, I was asking her "Do you like this one?", "What about that?" etc etc
She picked one out, but was very shy on saying she liked it or that she wanted that for her birthday. In the end we went for it and when it came to her birthday, she was really surprised I had bought her more presents than just the ring.

The fact is, I'm not doing it all because I'm trying to please her. I'm doing it because I love her. The ring was to show her how much she means to me, and the travelling is something I've always wanted to do myself... and so much better if we did it together.

I just can't figure her out. But I can't be sure if she's pulling back now because I admitted to her I took her for granted.
As I explained previously, in the time we were together last year, she would always say how much she loved me and kept in contact with me regularly. But I think because I was so used to that then, I'm not used to this behaviour from her and at the same time it makes me wonder if she really is devoted to me.

By the way, thanks for taking the time to reply and help out. It's appreciated.

It takes time I guess, just give her time.

I just can't figure her out

I don't even think it's a good idea to try to figure her out. If you have to attempt to figure someone out, how much time is actually spent enjoying the relationship?

Try to work with the reality of the situation as you bring up how things used to be a lot.

Put the best you can but if possible equalise how much you're putting in as Lady M says, anything unbalanced will breed resentment later.

But if I don't attempt to figure her out or try and understand how she sees things, for all I know, I could be going down the wrong route of trying to make ammendments.

It's as I said before. Previous to when we broke up, she was always smitten with me. But as she broke up with me because I took her for granted, she isn't showing that anymore (which I can understand), but it still makes me wonder if she really feels the same as she used to inside.

I'd love to talk to her about it, but I don't want to feel I'm pushing her. She still says she loves me, but I wonder how much.

seafood disco, you should have been thinking about all of this BEFORE you pushed her tp the side and took her for granted...

aquas may be airheads at times, but it doesn't mean they are DUMB....


dude, i think you are gonna have to put in a lot more work in order to convince this bird you are worthy of her taking a leap of faith again (you were lucky the first time she did) because you have dug a deep ditch for yourself...it looks like you have just begun to dig yourself, but knowing aqua ladies like a do, you got a LOT more digging to do before you start seeing the daylight again...

but hey, you have no one to blame but yourself...

But if I don't attempt to figure her out or try and understand how she sees things, for all I know, I could be going down the wrong route of trying to make ammendments.


you can only love her the way you know how to give love, if you attempt to figure her out and think that you have, don't you think you're going to be doing things like you think she likes, instead of being yourself?

but I wonder how much.

how do you intend to measure this? to understand this things you have to test, then is it still love?

please bear with my typos if you can..

i would suggest if you are serious about this girl and making things right again that you read my e-book which is currently still in the drafting stages called "Awuarius For Dummies"...

once you read it, you will know perfectly well how to manage this situation..

but for now, DO NOT CALL HER OR CONTACT HER...

let her come to you...

i know it can be nerve racking but if you have any sort of functional balls between your legs, their fortitude will sustain you...


it will pay off in the end with her, trust me..

she trusted you once with the wheel and you fucked it up...

now she is going to be driving for the foreseeable able future and you just gotta shut the hell up, don't complain about her driving and her perceived lack of a sense of direction and JUST ENJOY THE RIDE!

don't ask her stupid questions like, "where are we going?...when are we going to get there?....do you have your seatbelt on?"


DON'T ASK HER QUESTIONS PERIOD...

*nods in concurrence*

um, with Zen

oops:


"Aquarius For Dummies"


http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=1563830<BR>

i have not found a more comprehensive source on the aqua woman myself, and i haven't even finished writing yet!

Pardon me fundamental, but when do you get so into aqua women and why? Did you just go out looking for them or after a series of relationships you realized the trend??

and seafood disco, if you are coming off as weak and insecure to your aqua-ex as you are on here, you can forget about it...

knowing aqua women and the games they LOVE play, she is most likely having her payback right now stinging you along and watching you squirm...

p.s.

you would be a fool to follow a lot of the advice you get from the aqua ladies on this board...

they don't like being figured out and they DEFINITELY bat for the home team so if you are not a girl looking for advice about an aqua man on here (you are not) then they will spin your head around until you don't know up from down...


and while you are completely confused, they will laugh their asses off and telepathically high-five the aqua girl you are bleeding over...

trust me, when you come on here and say you have taken one of their team members for granted, NOT ONE OF THEM feels sorry for you, no matter how helpful and polite they may seem...


it would behoove you to take my advice on this of nothing else on this board...

ladym, i have to think about that but i will get back to you on it...

i go waaay back with aqua girls and i need to time meditate and gather my thoughts on this...

just for the sake of giving you a precise answer, though which by all means you are totally deserving and worthy of...

follow her lead and stay quiet? Yes Miss, No Miss, Three bags full miss?

i am afraid in your particular case, that is the only option you have allowed her to give you because she can't trust you...

you just need to focus on earning her trust and the ONLY way you can do that at this point is to let HER lead/drive while you sit in the passenger seat and pretend like you don't even realize she is driving...

and please, DO NOT bring up any thing that would remotely make her think that you want her back or any thing of the sort...

don't act like you need anything from her, whether emotional support (especially this) ANY KIND of emotional reassurance or ANYTHING ELSE...

act and BE completely self-sufficient and my friend, i know its gonna be hard, but get or plan a life at least for now that doesn't include her..

There are no rules seafood but being yourself and be honest - that will hold up if all else fails - strength of character... if it's not enough then the relationship's not meant to be?


M, personally and from experience, understanding something needs you to take time out to invest in collecting data, recording, analysing, publishing - now this is considering the factors remain the same - human factors do not remain the same we all know... then you find that some of the data becomes invalid due these factors not being the same... the cycle begins again...

so now tell me what time do you have to actually enjoy the relationship or even be part of the relationship... This is why I'm really uncomfortable when I hear people say they're trying to understand - red flag.

what zen said, too...


but look...

the fact is this:

you want this girl and and if you are not the person you need to be now to be with her, EVOLVE and change to become that person you need to be in order to be with her...

and you can do this while STILL keeping your individual identity and your personal integrity...

if anything, i find that an aqua women will make you better, not worse..

if anything, they will make you stronger, not weaker, only IF you had something to build upon in the first place...

so if you are weak and you become strong in order to be with an aqua, you have changed yourself, but in a GOOD way..

everything is relative...


but what i am saying is that no matter what, if you are not a strong individual who is very self-aware, you had better BECOME that, otherwise you are not going to be with this aqua girl or most other aqua girls for that matter...

and you have already shown her that you are not self-aware when you picked and refused her like she had no feelings or value of her own...and n ow you want to pick her again..

the message you are sending her whether you realize it or now it this:

"love me and be there for me and i will reject you...

ignore and be totally unavailable and i will want you..."


be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it..and you have gotten it...

you got a lot of work to do buddy...i don't envy you, one bit..

EVOLVE and change

I'm sorry fundamental - this mutability is not part of my makeup unless I see the other person working on the changes the same way I am
--- and this mutability is not part of Aqua astrology characteristics, why work on chnge if the other person's not equally making the same adjustments? the person is better than you for being born at a certain time of the year 🙂

This spells changing to be what someone else will approve of, at what point do you stop evolving/changing to meet these supposed standard? never...

There is no change in a good way if it was not to make yourself better for yourself... you have to be able to regenerate yourself without needed others to do it... whether it lasts or no, you still have your standards to uphold not someone else's...

In this case, you're seeking to make yourself better for/through someone else, your needs or standards will be dropped or become invalid >>> you start to see something or another symbol as your 'god'

Seafood messed up, we have done at one time at the other, it is no reason to bend over backwords or get desperate... injecting some realism will help to see if this is plain old incompatibility or it is just not the right time.

Aquas are one of 12 signs of the zodiac, these 12 all have karmic lessons to teach so it is vital you don't let go of who you are to teach these lessons and swing towards another part of the wheel, it won't be natural, it won't last, someone ends up less of a person.

I guess we all have our ways... good luck seafood.

no need to apologize, zen...

i won't bite, unless you like!


as far as mutability "not being part of aqua astrology characteristics" as you say, mutability IS inherently a part of HUMAN characteristics and life itself...

you cannot maintain life without adapting to constantly changing circumstances..

astrology is not a box for me within which to think..

astrology is a tool for me that i use to think outside of the box...

i base most of my conclusions upon my experiences with people...


and as far as aquas specifically being adverse to change, sure, i agree...but they are not totally opposed to it and in my experiences i have seen aquas change before my eyes from cold to warm and warm to cold...i have experienced the gammut of what an aqua basically has to offer in terms of range of emotions...


and they ARE willing and able to change when they see that the other person is willing to make necessary changes FIRST...


and at what point does ANYONE stop changing?

does anyone really remain totally fixed in their ways when true love is concerned?

true love is about sacrifice after all and this INCLUDES sacrificing however large of one's ego that is necessary in order to make the relationship work..

its a part of compromise and no true, loving relationship is above compromise...


changing and evolving in a relationship is a must...if not, one could be single at that point and it wouldn't matter because to say that one is resistant to changing oneself in a supposedly loving relationship is basically saying that one could be self-sufficient without that relationship and one doesn't essentially NEED that particular relationship..


and zen, i don't believe in karma...

i am above karma and i have broken out of that vicious cycle...

karma has no power over me and while some people take the word of zodiac astrologers as "gospel of the 'gods'" i am of the knowledge that i have totally transcended the zodiac entirely...


and by the way you write, zen, i am of the impression that this astro stuff is your gospel as far as dealing with people and life situations..

i don't take it that seriously and this is the perspective i was offering my advice from...


astrology does not rule my destiny or my life for that matter..

Seafood,

I would like to share with you a quote: ?It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and mistakes and make amends for them. To make a mistake is only an error in judgment, but to adhere to it when it is discovered shows infirmity of character.?

You made a mistake. Simple as that. You recognize your self proclaimed error and are now making amends to fix what is wrong. It seems to me that you are trying to hard to find a way to relate to her so that you will retrun to her good graces. She has withdrawn herself from you a bit and that is natrual for anyone who has hurt us in ways we fear to be hurt. How can we ever trust them not to hurt us the same way ever again? Time will tell. Try thinking of it this way..you learned something unpleasant about yourself through her. In your case, she has not left yet, so that right there should tell you that she is willing to work through this. I will agree that the more you push, the more she may pull away. I am sure she picks up on your efforts but may be standing back to be sure your actions and intentions are sincere.

I think that is it great you chose a ring and talked about traveling again. Continue to focus on your future together but don't forget to enjoy the present. And I will agree with Funda as well, don't focus so much on her sign and try to please her according to that. She is first and formost a HUMAN with feelings just like you. She has her flaws as well. We all represent ourselves in different ways based off our experiences. Good luck! ;P

P.S. What kind of ring is it? 🙂

and by the way you write, zen, i am of the impression that this astro stuff is your gospel as far as dealing with people and life situations..

We are on an astrology board so doesn't it follow that the focus will be astrologically related observations? 🙂
However, no it isn't gospel to me - those are your impressions to make so, meh...
>>> look again, there is hardly any direct advice there to seafood, just my musings on what I read.

i don't take it that seriously and this is the perspective i was offering my advice from...
so your aqua women guide is all tongue-in-cheek? you offer advice to alter her life based on something you don't take seriously or believe in? interesting... i would suggest if you are serious about this girl and making things right again that you read my e-book which is currently still in the drafting stages called "Awuarius For Dummies"... ------------ seafood disco, you should have been thinking about all of this BEFORE you pushed her tp the side and took her for granted...

aquas may be airheads at times, but it doesn't mean they are DUMB....


dude, i think you are gonna have to put in a lot more work in order to convince this bird you are worthy of her taking a leap of faith again (you were lucky the first time she did) because you have dug a deep ditch for yourself...it looks like you have just begun to dig yourself, but knowing aqua ladies like a do, you got a LOT more digging to do before you start seeing the daylight again...

but hey, you have no one to blame but yourself...---------i have not found a more comprehensive source on the aqua woman myself, and i haven't even finished writing yet!

In Seafood's condition, something doesn't add up --- like she was herself in the beginning of the relationship, she says she felt a diferent kind of love, but now due to an action she took, there has been a shift >>> doesn't if follow that she keeps being the way she was in the beginning or address anything that caused her to take this action that caused the change? If what caused you to take this supposed action that wronged your partner is not addressed, then down the line it will come up again.

Now then, due to feeling this shift in feelings of her partner, is she acting different? any partner will pick up on that difference...

------ being more like a partner would love so that they love you is not helping the partner in anyway, it is actually tricking the other person to a version of you that you think they like based on astrology or any other thing you think they will like.

Doesn't this become self-serving, you're making changes to get someone to feel a certain way about you?

My final 0.1 cent, if being you is not enough in one situation, there is someone out there that this will be enough for, right? the point of dating is learning and making the best choice... and enjoying what is like somechick says --- you gotta enjoy the good times... never forget.

Maybe she was being herself in the beginning, and maybe she realized she was being taken for granted for and that is why she chose to break it off and remain distant but noone except for Seafood really knows WHY he did what he says he did. We could speculate, but where would that get us? If Seafood chooses to own up to the reason WHY he did what he did, it would probably clear the air and ease some of the tension. For some, the "why" is not important, but if you really love her the way you say you do, do you think she deserves to know why? For every action, there is a reaction, don't be afraid of the reaction.


Ugh...I need some coffee. Zena.....would you like a cup?

So Seafood o_O are you salmon, tilapia, tuna....I have some dill sauce somewhere

*rummages through my unorganized pantry*

The reason was because as I said before, I was so used to being in touch with her. All day and all evening, we would be in touch by text, phone or email.

That's down to why I took her for granted, just always being in touch constantly. Because we always talked about being together practically forever, and from that I just felt we were ok no matter what. Obviously.... very wrong I was, but I knew I could be doing better.
What I also admit to is ignoring her concerns over us about a month before breaking up, where she would tell me "don't you think things are the same as they used to be?". This would be during the 'taken for granted' time where I would make up excuses for not going out, preferring to do my own thing, or going to her house later than usual (and thus, spending less time together).

In the 9 months we've been together. This was our first problem and first falling out.

As for the ring, it was a 9ct White Gold Cubic Zirconia.

@ ladym:

still enjoying the residual effects of your holiday festivities, i see?

as am i...


a delightful holiday indeed!


as far as your questions....

the first aquarius girl who I KNEW was aquarius, i met on the first day of school in my freshman year while doing my bachelor's...

she actually picked ME up in orientation and we just hit it off and ended up scheduling a class or two together during orientation...

needless to say, we ended up being fuck buddies, but with that being my first year around thousands of eligible women, i was more interested in being a player while she was interested in being exclusive..

i ended up hurting her feelings in the end and actually she broke down and cried and i felt bad, but that was that...

we were friendly after that, but nothing more, nothing less..


for brevity's sake, i will skip from the first aqua in memory to the current one...

the ones in between have showed the same traits:

1. extreme jealousy

2. tendency to break down emotionally to the point of uncontrollable sobbing and tears, however short lived

3. they all have essentially picked me up and seduced me in one way or another

4. demonstrated that when the have convinced themselves they are emotionally over you, they are OVER with you (EXCEPT if you are their first true love since they are never closed to that option permanently)

5. a "don't care", "above it all" attitude - this attitude is almost always justified (except when you ladies have to face your emotions...oh those emotions..you think you have them locked away in a prison but its YOU who is the prisoner to your emotions..you can run, but you can't hide..)


and the current aqua or aqua #1 as i call her is the most precious girl i have ever known and that is why i am with her...

she drives me crazy, but hey, i am already crazy so for me its familiar territory...

she is the most beautiful gift i have ever ASKED for and received..

i always tell her that, "i asked the Universe for you and you were delivered to me just like how i asked for you, with NO MISTAKES on my order.."

she is the one i have been looking for and we go waaay back...we both know this and joke with other people when they ask us where we met each other...

i always say that we met in another Universe in a place where time and space doesn't exist as we know it..and the questioners look at us like WE ARE from a different universe!

***seafood_disco 2/6/2009 1:47:26 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx


"As for the ring, it was a 9ct White Gold Cubic Zirconia." ***


you have got to be shitting me, dude...

anything under 14k is more alloy than anything else! its not like you even sprang for a 10k...


9k? wtf is that? i thought 10k was the cheapest there was!?!?


and CUBIC ZIRCONIA?

dude, pack it up, man...

there is no hope for you...


you would have been better off getting her a tattoo or something..it would have most likely saved you money AND more importantly, it would have been MUCH more tasteful than that cheap ring...

i really hope you were joking when you said that..

there is nothing worse than a cheap bastard...

now just imagine how a girl feels about a cheap bastard!

not a good look, dude...

i wouldnt even give that cheap ring to a scorpio broad who i am shagging really well on a regular basis and is under the belief that i am endowed with a golden dick...

i would STILL have more respect that that!

gimme a friggin break with that "9 ct white gold cubic zirconia" bs!

and that is ANOTHER example of how the aqua ladies on this board are going to watch you dig your grave while laughing their ass off at you!

they just want you to like them so they aren't going to tell you what a CHEAPSKATE you were by presenting that bubble-gum machine ring to your aqua girl...

dude, if you are gonna be THAT cheap, you might as well keep it to yourself because that ring is not worth the energy you expended in keystrokes to type out the words "9 ct white gold cubic zirconia"..

just typing that bs is givine me a headache!

She picked it out, because she wanted it.
And it wasn't cheap. You can take my word for it.

Carry on...

i will carry on if you insist...


my friend, most places have that make of ring for less than $ 100....


but screw all that...

this is my point...


the aquarius girls i have known including the love of my life could care LESS about jewelry, especially flashy and gaudy jewelry...its just not their style ..

but what DOES matter is TASTEFULNESS my friend, and 9K's of white gold hugging a hunk of cubic zirconia is just CHEAP...

i will give you a little anecdotal evidence of exactly WHY its not a good idea to get a cheap ring EVEN if it IS of her own choosing...


when my fiancee and i were discussing our rings, we were discussing the type of metal we would want for our engagement rings...

she is a brunette and she said she wanted "silver"...

i told her that, "granted, silver looks good on you, but its just so CHEAP! and i don't want you walking around with a silver engagement ring!"


she took some time to think about it and did some research on rings...

the next time we had a conversation about our rings, she said she didn't want silver anymore...she wanted WHITE GOLD (a simple band with an engraving saying "i am in like with you"...

of course, mine will be a matching white gold band with the same exact engraving as well and although i havent gotten her a ring yet since we have yet to get fitted for them and pick out exactly which rings we will be getting, but i guarantee you, i will buy NO LESS THAN 14K gold...

but honestly, i plan on getting 18K just because if that ring is any kind of remote symbol of our love, it had better be QUALITY...


so all of this is to say that even though she CHOSE that ring, she only CHOSE it because she doesn't KNOW ANY BETTER...she is obviously not into jewelry like most aqua girls i know!

diamonds may be a normal girl's best friend, but they were no best friend of any aquarius woman i ever knew (and i don't know paris hilton personally).....