Are Aqua men usually fatherly??

Do any of you find your Aqua boyfriends to be a little over protective and fatherly??
Since having progressed into a serious and meaningful relationship (we started off as friends, then a casual dating set-up and slowly moved into this couple phase) I've learnt that unless I want him involved or ?sorting it out? for me best I not tell him about certain things in my life. This isn't a first, but recently a neighbour complained about my dog barking and keeping her awake at night. She caused quite a bit of trouble with the managing agents in the complex etc. I happened to tell him about it because it upset me. Well low and behold, first thing he does when he gets to my place last night is march on over to the neighbour. He wasn't rude, he simply asked what her problem was and what we could do to fix it. Seems he fixed the problem as she has now offered to baby-sit when I need to go out and he thinks we'll make great friends (I've only just moved into the complex). He's tried to do this on several occasions but I've managed to stop him e.g. one of my girlfriends and I got into a bit of a fight and he wanted her number to call her up and sort the problem out, on another occasion he wanted the number of my landlord because he took his time paying my deposit back to me when moving out (on all these occasions I brushed him off or refused to give him any more details)? this time however he had free access to her and even when I protested he ignored me and went on over there. My mother and I have some issues and he's determined that when I finally do introduce them, he will confront her about these too in his usual cocky without being nasty kind of way.

I've notice in many ways he taken on this rather fatherly/protector approach over time and the more we love each other (as is what happens as time goes on in a relationship) the more he becomes this way. Not just in times of trouble. He wants me to learn new things and is happy to teach me everything he knows and learn everything I know, he'll make sure I'm home safe, that things are ok at work?.just fatherly.

I'm quite taken aback by this as I've always defended and fought for myself. It's nice to know someone's got my back but why the need to be so over-protective?? Is this what Aqua men do? Eventually nobody will even be able to look at me funny and he'll want to deck them!

Actually I am neither naive nor dumb - it is not done in a controlling way....more out of don't fuck with my girlfriend kind of way.

Oh trust me if he could control me he'd be in his element - I don't allow it and I think he enjoys THAT even more 😉

Ok I'm with you. I agree which is why I've decided that unless I want him involved I rather not tell him about it until I've sorted it out myself. Had he stepped in with the friend I had an argument with it might have been a bigger fight than originally. I just don't understand this thinking....I leave him to sort his own shit out unless he wants me involved or it involves me too.

I think it's egomania.

He sees you as an extension of himself, and likes the image he reflects back to himself (OF himself) when he performs these actions.

I'll just have to keep an eye on it and if he does overstep the boundary (the neighbour thing was ok because it seemed to have helped)tell him to back-off. I think he gets a little frustrated at times because I'm too soft with people - for instance the girlfriend I had an argument with - it was long overdue and he'd been on at me about her behaviour for quite some time (she's a Cap and has this need to put others down in order to make herself look better - so us being best friends she usually uses me as her lift and it sometimes gets a little nasty). I hate being petty and my feeling is that the people around us should be intelligent enough to see through it and so I sort of wave it off - he gets pissed off though, and we usually end up in an argument because I let her get away with it. This time I didn't though and when I repeated the argument and the build up of it to him he immediately wanted to get on the line with her.

I get pissed off with him sometimes because he has a bunch of freeloading friends, who gladly accept an invite to go out with us and when the bill comes they all sit back and allow him to get it. He won't say a word to them but later when we're alone he'll say jeez that bill was expensive and I'll say yes because your friends have short freaking arms and can't reach their wallets!!! So the last time we were all together and the bill came I sort of passed a comment that shame Mr. Aqua's got such a good heart he's always spoiling his friends....so suddenly everyone started pulling out money for me to give to him after we'd left saying that he never takes their money when they offer (BULL $ SHIT!! THEY NEVER OFFER). He seemed glad that I'd intervened but hell I didn't exactly sit there and say hey I'm calling you all CRIME because crime doesn't pay and you're a bunch of freeloaders.

To conclude I think that yes he does have a bit of an ego in the sense that he and only HE can actually do things properly so he'll sort out my problems for me and that way they're put to bed and sorted out finally!!! He's latest is lecturing me on buying a property instead of renting...and you bet your cotton socks off should I decide to buy he'll be the one going around negotiating, finding a property, etc etc. I like being able to depend on someone (never had this before) but when it comes to MY problems with other people, yes I'm going to have to keep him in check!!