ask for help:)

Dear everyone here on this borad, i've been reading ur texts for help and learned some very brilliant idea for a long time🙂 everytime i saw u guys keeping cool, cruelly objective yet sympathetic, it gave me great pleasure and encouragement for keeping my relationship with an aquarius man till this day.

we've together for more than one year, thought i'm a scorpio(no i'm never that possive type plz believe me:p) but here now i really feel a little confused about where i stand. i guess maybe someone here could lend me a hand. here's the story:

i met my aqua man about one year ago, since then we've been having great communication though sms, emails and phone calls. we talk a lot about many levels, and he even said once i changed his life? (i guess he mean some of his perspectives?)and he said just weeks ago he thought i was the only one he truely love. (sometimes i would presume him tend to exaggerate his feeling, but it's nice with me🙂

it's hard, for we are not in the same country. although he would have chance to fly to me or fly me with him on bussiness trip( yes we had great time there) but for me it's just like trip romance. i hope the aqua friends here, if u not dislike me at first😉maybe u could understand how unfullfilled in my deep emotion. everytime we had great fun and aparted, we both feel so can't leave each other, but as time passing by (like a week after our trip together) he'd appear less passionate and looking for sth new and fun.

as i mentioned b4, i'm a very free and open scorpio with libra ascendent. i know my aqua need freendom and appreciate him having other social activities. it's even an agreement that he could have sex with other girls but not kiss them (yes maybe i'm silly at this😉anyway it went quite well and we always expected him to transfer to my country (he initiated it and even said he want a baby with me, oh

sorry too long;p

the problem is he's now more into online chat with cam with other girls. yes we used to enjoying chatting with each other, exchanging things about what's going on, (especially i always secretely think, if i can every now and then remind him of us, the experienc, the fun, maybe he won't go too far during almost a 30 days not seeing each other. we still do that, but i more and more feel he do it with less and less passion. u know i not believe those scientists say chemistry runs out after more than one year, but he do begin drawing his emotional engagement and pay more attention to the other girl who cam chat with him. u used to be honest with me, and he even let me see the girl's pic (she is vey nice) and told me she's very fun. i'm not that type to also get on cam and compete for attention, (also my pc always has problems with cam) but i really can't do it anymore that i see the one i love every night laugh and chat with that girl on cam, and at the same talk with me like he can never into the topic😢 he's going to her country this week also, i respect and appreciat them had a great time, but he even forgot about asking me to do the visa, ticket plan as we would have another trip in 28 days.

i'm so damb and not know what to do and how to stand myself still now. i've learned that u guys r very determind and objective, won't confuse friend, sex with lover. but i really fear if our emotional engagement getting less and less, if it's always like this that we travel, meet each other for a few days, then apart, then he find others new, then we travel...u know i really fear it's like merry-go-round that will never stop. he's quite a self-sufficient person, and always suggest me'have fun, be good baby'. will we have fture? i really treasure all we have experienced and think we r happy with each other, but is there anything i can do now? may i also get detached?
i once get detached and he also, he be talked about 'i won't leave u' now he says'i can't lose u', but why i feel him going farther and farther? he fear? what could i do to let him not fear? keep on letting him dominate it and just have fun with others while he can stil keep me?

i'm sorry my words r like a mess, but i hope u would understand my intention to get it better. i really in love and hope i could get some advices or just opinions from all the aquas here.thank you!

yes thank you primegen🙂

Here's what u asked about: we are originally from different part of the world, he's an australia but love asian culture, and i'm an asian but very familiar with the general western culture.

We both make sure that we r heading for a serious&long relationship, he once showed very decent personal value and intention about our future.

yes i could say i've been lurking for like more than 7 months, every now and than i come here for straight and genuine idea and suggestions from guys🙂

thankx, looking forward to ur advice.

i'm from singapore?

are you there?

any opinion will be great appreciated here🙂

mmm...maybe like what u said, i guess i do have more clear personal boundary than his.
i mean, like tonight, when i see him on cam, he's chatting with another girl, laughing, showing choco, other stuff to play with her, and i got irratated, then he felt it and just said good night honey, byebye, over.

i wonder, primegen, is it he's self-obsessed/he not care for my feeling, or maybe it's not a astrological issue but he just not love me?

thanks very much for ur help, so i gonna keep it coll as if nothing happened(nothing affected me nagetively tomorrow?)

yes what a refreshing and enlightening words u offered😉

i also always question the relationship but what keep me encouraged is we did had some time without distraction and he behaved so good during those times(when we were together) but u know it's like marry-go-round, rounds after rounds, i just really want some decent putting in now.

yes u pointed out about his emotion, i through our experience found out that he tend to exaggrate his feeling, and since i once fought with him and pointed out that life is not just money, sex, but there r love (yes he's 33 but just get to that point), he gave me an impression that he kept me like a vase, u know, just hope me being there for him, so that he no longer feel too light living on the world.

i'm 25, some damage and confusion already led me to draining and tiredness. but u know maybe it's our water signs'weakness?;p whenever i look at him and feel he's just a little baby lack of love inside, i would let him. maybe i also have fault that i not always fight against his some behavior. but do u think this aqua would appreciate mature/sophiscated understanding, or kinda self-defensive fighting?

yes ur idea about having a hobby really nice🙂 maybe i go sentosa this weekend, have some beer, fun, and man?;p

i not sure now primegen, though he did say he's very 'in love', 'as always', after a long period that 'i walked through stage', we are now here.

he sitll said i was the only love but seemed i better do great work on myself not to interfere with his affairs( he said those r just friends like the girl chatted with him every night with cam we mentioned b4) so everything will be fine.and think of ur assumption, if i not feel comfortable about anything he would just agree but forgot the next time, or sidestep and turn to others for fun but come back to me a few days later as if nothing happened.

he's flying to that girl's city tomorrow on business and he told me he liked her very much.
though he said he loved me, and for him love is special. i read something about aquarian b4, that once he find his true love, he's very loyal, but isn'y it the same thing that friends could become lover for u also?

how i wish i would just have the gut to keep quite until he come back to find me, or pretend nothing happened so that i won't push him to the girl during this time?

I expect loyal friends if they really want to know me, I don't have room for flaky people to get close to me.

well, then it's clear now😉

whatever, so lovely to learn about ur blackmailed and other friend, what u guys black mailed for btw, a trunk of chocolate?