baby on the way & its not mine

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seaclovers
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ok ok its been over a year since ive been on here...
my other posts were about an aqua guy ive been seeing on and off for the past few years
basically we tried to make thing work in the spring, got back together then he broke up with me and didnt have any kind of explaination as to why. and i hate him so much for that. its like there is a reason and he wont tell me

anyways-> afterward we were still friends. months past and everything was eachy although i was still bitter towards him for breaking my heart for the 3rd time!
and no explanation.

so about a month ago i got sd about some things, he was supposed to help move some of my things and i explained to him why i was upset.
of course part of it had to do with the fact that i was upset i wasnt with him.
then he said "Well i have alot going on myself"
i said: like what?
him: well if i told you, you wouldnt want anything to do with me.
me: what... did you get soemone pregnant?
him: silence...


so then he preceeded to tell me that 3 months prior he was at some party and slept with the girl, shes now 3 months pregnant and keeping the kid. he doesnt like her and of course then out of all the times he says i love you, ive always been in love with you, i want to be with you, blah blah.
i couldnt believe the irony of everything.
then he left for a week to go home, came back and then i asked him why i should stay. because i still am very much in love with him and even though its not mine, wanted to be with him.
he ssaid: he has to figure things out and find his true potential.
its almost like having me in his life is a burden, something he has to deal with along with all his other problems..
i dont get it
he says he loves me, but finds me a burden to be with even though im always there for him through all his stupid effin mistakes he makes.
please explain to me why hes acting this way and if he actually really cares.
cause i feel he could care less.
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"my other posts were about an aqua guy ive been seeing on and off for the past few years
basically we tried to make thing work in the spring,"

I feel ANYTIME in ANY SITUATION when we "try" to make something work that is cleary not working we put ourselves into a mode of struggling....not going with the flow. This is a wonderful indication that one must move in another direction. A sign that we must be grateful for that shows up for us for this allows us to open doors for a more pleasant and easier situation.

"didnt have any kind of explaination as to why. and i hate him so much for that. its like there is a reason and he wont tell me"

There is a reason and he most likely does not want to share it with you because of what your reaction will be. His actions have already given you his explanation to his behaviour.

I think the better person in this situation to have an explanation might be you. How might you explain your reason for being treated this way? Who cares about his explanation - that does not matter - YOU do!