Do all Aquarians push away everyone

My best friend is an Aquarius and so is my current girlfriend and everytime they are going through a rough spot they don't want me to see them or support them. They say it's because they don't want to cause me trouble or inconvience me. I don't want to be pushy about it, I'm a scorpio though so occasionally I answer all this with yeah don't care I'll be there in ten and we'll hug it out. I really don't want to push too much but I also don't want to be unsupportive so when do I know when it's a don't come, secreting wishing I will or when it's a don't come or I'll breathe fire and destroy you?

Posted by Uelrindru
My best friend is an Aquarius and so is my current girlfriend and everytime they are going through a rough spot they don't want me to see them or support them. They say it's because they don't want to cause me trouble or inconvience me. I don't want to be pushy about it, I'm a scorpio though so occasionally I answer all this with yeah don't care I'll be there in ten and we'll hug it out. I really don't want to push too much but I also don't want to be unsupportive so when do I know when it's a don't come, secreting wishing I will or when it's a don't come or I'll breathe fire and destroy you?

Yeah we do that. I think being a fixed sign, we would rather deal with stuff on our own. I find whenever I look to people for support or advice, I end up feeling more stressed out than it being helpful. Just call or text her here and there to let her know you're still there.

um no. If i'm going through something horrible my husband knows ASAP. Even if i'm just being stupid and crying over things that I'm "remembering"...he'll go, ok what's wrong!?
But, he's no fool. Can't hide anything from him emotionally. You kidding? Jeez.
He also knows my crocodile tears. LMAO! but that's cause i'm just being silly.

Posted by Uelrindru
My best friend is an Aquarius and so is my current girlfriend and everytime they are going through a rough spot they don't want me to see them or support them. They say it's because they don't want to cause me trouble or inconvience me. I don't want to be pushy about it, I'm a scorpio though so occasionally I answer all this with yeah don't care I'll be there in ten and we'll hug it out. I really don't want to push too much but I also don't want to be unsupportive so when do I know when it's a don't come, secreting wishing I will or when it's a don't come or I'll breathe fire and destroy you?

WELL my current off and On Aqua is currently going through this breakdown.
When they need space its beause they need to fig out their issue on their own and they just want to breathe. TRUST me I know you feel helpless, hopeless and want to help, BUT it will only make them feel bad, and feel smothered.

Yeah, I also need space when I'm going through hard times. Plus I don't like to feel like I'm bothering people. The time spent alone is me thinking about ways to solve my situation, I don't need distraction or unwanted advice. I'm not very good at taking advice from people for my personal issues for I feel I know the situation better & am the only one with a solution.

Give her time & she'll reach out to you if she needs help. Dont be over involved in her problems though, at least *I* hate that..when people try to take over as if I'm not capable of solving my own shit.

Don't take it personal. They're not needing "space" b/c it's anything personal against you. It's not like Aquarians are trying to piss you off or hurt you all b/c they would feel better dealing with their problems in a different way than you'd wish. It's just how they deal with things.

And there's nothing more annoying than another person making things about THEM when I'M the one whose hurting

I know it's easier said than done b/c it's only natural to want to rush in, nature & cater when a person is hurting, BUT understand that everybody doesn't necessarily want 100 people in their face all day long saying, "Omg are you ok? Do you need something? Are you alright? Talk to me! Call me back?! Tell me everything you're feeling!!" lol

The best way to deal with us Aquas when we have disconnected from you over a problem you did NOT create is to just drop a text/line every blue moon to let us know that you're there & that you care, BUT also respect us enough to give us the space we're asking for

The more you push yourself onto us when we really just want to be alone & sort out our feelings by ourselves, the more annoyed we get & the longer it takes for us to "come back around."

Never has an Aquarius in life said, "Since you gave me the space I asked you to give me, you must not care for me!" lol

The worse thing in the world for an Aquarius when they are going through something rough is for their friends to make it about THEM & start treating us differently or acting annoyed with us.

Just like a woman shouldn't get offended just b/c a man may not cry like she does, whenever things get crazy, we Aquarians expect for others to not take it so personal or assume we're pulling away with the intention of hurting you.

Just like a person sometimes wants to stay in & have some "Me" time w/o it meaning that something is wrong with them for wanting that, why are Aquarians any different?

Everyone at some point needs "space." Some people need it "just b/c" whether they're going through something or not. And others (like us Aquarians) only tend to need it when we're actually going through something! If others want us to respect that they need space sometimes, why not give us the same in return when it's our turn to ask for it?

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Posted by Uelrindru
so when do I know when it's a don't come, secreting wishing I will or when it's a don't come or I'll breathe fire and destroy you?

Its unlikely that she will secretly want you to reach for her. If she wants ur support, it will be explicit, she will express, listen, welcome ur advice. If she is not welcoming, she doesn't. thats how i am at least. but support doesn't necessarily mean that you have to talk, counsel, advice. just let her know you care so if ever she needs ur help in anyway, she can always let you know and you are there for her.

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TRUTH!

Most of the time I am going through something, I'm always game to vent.

But sometimes I don't b/c I realize how hard it is for people to just "LISTEN."

Most people when they hear what you're going through either want to lecture you, give you advice, change the subject which is annoying when you only wanna vent about YOUR situation & not hear about there bull, or somehow make things about them

In the very beginning of me going through something, I don't wanna vent or talk to anybody. But as soon as things calm down & I'm closer and closer to coming out of my "funk," I'm always game to start the "venting" process b/c that's the last step before I finally open up & tell you everything that's going on

If I can't vent to you at all, I'll just make you wait until I 100% out of my funk before appearing back on the scene again

Just is what it is

It is a fine line between giving support and being smothering.
The most important thing is letting them know you are there IF they need you.

I was just thinking over this issue before.

We all need support I just don't think we're the ones wanting to talk about it. Although I do notice when I do need support it's in the way of questions, wanting to understand the situation. A hug is always good and for me personally I would prefer acknowledgement as a form of support rather than therapy.

As someone else put it before (I think it was CYAN) there's so much talking through an issue can do and there's no point exhausting more emotions when it doesn't help so there's no point in talking about something rather than let time do its thing.

Help me go through a day just having fun beats a day hounding me and asking me if I'm alright.

I suppose I will have to reign in my need to cheer people up.

Nah, just be yourself. 🙂

I find the people that I push away need to be pushed away. Really, one reason or another they didnt deserve or earn my trust. I am more black and white in relationships than some, and take things for what they are.

Posted by WaterCup
Yeah, I also need space when I'm going through hard times. Plus I don't like to feel like I'm bothering people. The time spent alone is me thinking about ways to solve my situation, I don't need distraction or unwanted advice. I'm not very good at taking advice from people for my personal issues for I feel I know the situation better & am the only one with a solution.

Give her time & she'll reach out to you if she needs help. Dont be over involved in her problems though, at least *I* hate that..when people try to take over as if I'm not capable of solving my own shit.

Would someone with moon in Aquarius also react that way?

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Posted by WaterCup
Yeah, I also need space when I'm going through hard times. Plus I don't like to feel like I'm bothering people. The time spent alone is me thinking about ways to solve my situation, I don't need distraction or unwanted advice. I'm not very good at taking advice from people for my personal issues for I feel I know the situation better & am the only one with a solution.

Give her time & she'll reach out to you if she needs help. Dont be over involved in her problems though, at least *I* hate that..when people try to take over as if I'm not capable of solving my own shit.

Would someone with moon in Aquarius also react that way?

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Oh absolutely!

Some astrologers feel that your "Moon sign" is more of a deeper influence on how you tick & deal with things emotionally moreso than your "Sun sign" does.

Those with their moon in Aquarius are def. more likely to shut down & disconnect when they are going through something

Posted by krysrenee7
The worse thing in the world for an Aquarius when they are going through something rough is for their friends to make it about THEM & start treating us differently or acting annoyed with us.

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I THINK SOMETIME AQUA'S FIND THERESELFS IN A SPOT WHERE THEY HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE SOMETIMES THE BEST CHOISE FOR THEM IS REMOVE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING FROM THERE LIFE THEN THE CHOISE IS MADE WITHOUT GIVING OF THERE SELFS OR BEING HURTFUL TO OTHERS. ITS JUST THE WAY IT IS. SOMETIMES PEOPLE HURT THERESELFS AND SOMEONE RATHER THAN HURT A LOT OF PEOPLE.

Posted by james tate
I THINK SOMETIME AQUA'S FIND THERESELFS IN A SPOT WHERE THEY HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE SOMETIMES THE BEST CHOISE FOR THEM IS REMOVE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING FROM THERE LIFE THEN THE CHOISE IS MADE WITHOUT GIVING OF THERE SELFS OR BEING HURTFUL TO OTHERS. ITS JUST THE WAY IT IS. SOMETIMES PEOPLE HURT THERESELFS AND SOMEONE RATHER THAN HURT A LOT OF PEOPLE.

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