My Aquarius Friend

I really miss her. She passed away back in March and I am still grieving. She was only 27 years old and the cause of her death is unknown. The thought of her being gone brings me so much pain. She was one of the nicest and kindest people I ever knew. She always went out of her way to help people and make people feel special. The worst thing about her I think was that she was too nice sometimes.

I flew to her memorial service in another state and everybody had such wonderful things to say about her. Everyone who stood up to talk told all these stories of kindness, a guy mentioned how she opened her home to him and his family after they had a fire. A lady talked about how she was welcomed into my friend's home after she had gone through a divorce until she could get back on her feet. A guy she worked with told a story of how she would bring him Starbucks coffee just the way he liked it plus his favorite pastry every Monday. Everybody told the same stories of her baking cookies all the time and bringing them to work. She loved every child she met and they loved her. She just loved people period.

I met her through my job when she was 21 and although she became one of my friends, it was like she was one of my kids. I struggle with the fact that when the phone rings it will never be her and that I cannot pick up the phone to call her to catch up on our lives. Her death sent me into a deep and dark depression. I couldn't talk to people and I never felt like going anywhere. I feel like I am slowly coming back, but it is still a struggle.

sorry for your loss.

Posted by lisabethur8

sorry for your loss.

Thanks lisabethur. 🙂 I love that pic.

you're welcome.

Still missing my sweet friend. It's been a year and a half now. About 10 months ago, her death was being investigated as a suicide. Then I got the story that the guy she was seeing cussed her out right before she went to the hospital where she died 2 days later. I want to be mad at him, but I can't because I know he feels terrible. Then on top of that, another friend (whom I met at her memorial) called to tell me that she got a call in reference to an assault on our friend in another situation. I almost cross paths with her ex husband who didn't treat her very nice while they were married. I'm glad I never saw him and I hope I never see him again. This situation is too much. There are just so many stories of people mistreating her and taking her kindness for granted. On the flip side, there are many stories from people who cherished and loved her for the kindness she always extended.

One of the saddest things was talking to my parents right after she died and them showing no sympathy. Or talking to other "friends" and them being upset that I had not got over her death. It made me realize that 95% of the people around me suck.

Being an aqua, I would totally hate someone writing about me even after my death.

Posted by GeorgiaPeach
One of the saddest things was talking to my parents right after she died and them showing no sympathy. Or talking to other "friends" and them being upset that I had not got over her death. It made me realize that 95% of the people around me suck.

Definie this logic for me because it's clearly catered to your feelings. I do not expect to know how people make decisions nor contemplate the idea of destiny and fate but I won't ignore a tragic occurrence such as a loved one passing away.

The difference is I choose not to dwell on the 'bad' things. Things that you are not even sure about. And here you are years later still mad at people for something that has already happened and done. People don't suck around you, you suck the people out of people. YOU are the one creating this image for yourself, YOU are the one making all this happen. It is not a selfless thought you possess, it's a selfish one.

I understand where you are coming from. Hopefully, no one will write about you after your death.

some aquas are soooo sweet and soo nice and too giving, and some are sooo cold and so terrible. Maybe if their charts are dominant fixed they are EXTREME one way or the other. it's never a middle.
unless they got a lot of mutable. Just my thoughts since astrologically, there's alot of factors in the chart, not to mention upbringing.

so it's understandable you are always thinking about this one who passed because she was so sweet and kind. I wouldn't worry about her anymore, she is in a safe and good place then. 🙂

Posted by GeorgiaPeach
Still missing my sweet friend. It's been a year and a half now. About 10 months ago, her death was being investigated as a suicide. Then I got the story that the guy she was seeing cussed her out right before she went to the hospital where she died 2 days later. I want to be mad at him, but I can't because I know he feels terrible. Then on top of that, another friend (whom I met at her memorial) called to tell me that she got a call in reference to an assault on our friend in another situation. I almost cross paths with her ex husband who didn't treat her very nice while they were married. I'm glad I never saw him and I hope I never see him again. This situation is too much. There are just so many stories of people mistreating her and taking her kindness for granted. On the flip side, there are many stories from people who cherished and loved her for the kindness she always extended.

One of the saddest things was talking to my parents right after she died and them showing no sympathy. Or talking to other "friends" and them being upset that I had not got over her death. It made me realize that 95% of the people around me suck.

she sounded like a very very sensitive soul, GeorgiaPeach. the world was too cruel and harsh for her. She just didn't find or have people strong enough to protect and love her.

I notice that there are people who try very hard to push certain sweet people to be STRONGER, so they push and push harder. But it is counterproductive and makes the person go inside, retreat inside more, because they are misunderstood. That sounds horrible what she went through, he sounds as if he didn't deserve that girl. In some marriages/partnership, there is an unbalance. Some people who are very sweet tend to fall for the coldest, cruelest person. It's an opposite attracts sometimes, and if they don't recognize this, they will suffer. When they find the balance of someone who is loving and sweet, they will be happy.

I believe that some writers even emphasize this, to portray a kind of real life scenerio in some things...(barring the Jane Austen Elizabeth and Darcy unrealisticness) the sweetness of Elizabeth's marriage Jane Birkin to the kind and shy but eager and happy Bingham....who Elizabeth Bennet says (Austen's words) that these two have a kind temperment who will have people around them take advantage of their kind

ness, but they will always be happy (plus they have Elizabeth and Darcy who are stronger family counterparts who will skewer the villians if they take advantage of Jane Bingley (Oops, i typo'ed above....and it's Jane Bingley and her husband Charles Bingley.)

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Posted by GeorgiaPeach
One of the saddest things was talking to my parents right after she died and them showing no sympathy. Or talking to other "friends" and them being upset that I had not got over her death. It made me realize that 95% of the people around me suck.

Definie this logic for me because it's clearly catered to your feelings. I do not expect to know how people make decisions nor contemplate the idea of destiny and fate but I won't ignore a tragic occurrence such as a loved one passing away.

The difference is I choose not to dwell on the 'bad' things. Things that you are not even sure about. And here you are years later still mad at people for something that has already happened and done. People don't suck around you, you suck the people out of people. YOU are the one creating this image for yourself, YOU are the one making all this happen. It is not a selfless thought you possess, it's a selfish one.

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sometimes people like to go back and remember. Whether it is a good or bad memory. Memories are all we have of someone they have loved/cared for. You can't take that away from them. It's really insensitive, and people are allowed to do whatever they want with their feelings. You cant control how others feel of someone, most especially someone they loved when they were living.

My dearest AQUA friend died not long ago of ALS. I miss her too.

She stopped all contact with everyone when it got bad. She died and we all found out after quite some time. (we live is different cities) She obviously told her partner to just keep it on the down low.

We also met when we were both quite younger. She was British and I couldn't understand her half the time or else we would have been laughing 24/7 because she had the best sense of humor without the facial expressions. LOL

I feel for you, hugsssss

Posted by aquapiscescusp
My dearest AQUA friend died not long ago of ALS. I miss her too.

She stopped all contact with everyone when it got bad. She died and we all found out after quite some time. (we live is different cities) She obviously told her partner to just keep it on the down low.

We also met when we were both quite younger. She was British and I couldn't understand her half the time or else we would have been laughing 24/7 because she had the best sense of humor without the facial expressions. LOL

I feel for you, hugsssss

this is distancing yourself from the people you love though. She doesn't want others to suffer what she's suffering is what I get.

For myself, it's only my family members, the people i love the most, which is my husband, my son, sisters and my parents. My grandparents would have been but they passed away. Very private and only close members of the family.

some people like privacy and not big full blown affair of a funeral.

I noticed that they made a HUGE affair of Princess Diana's funeral who was an Aquarius moon. don't remember the rest of her chart other than she's Cancer Sun.

but they made Mother Theresa's funeral very private when it happened, which was close to hers.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by aquapiscescusp
My dearest AQUA friend died not long ago of ALS. I miss her too.

She stopped all contact with everyone when it got bad. She died and we all found out after quite some time. (we live is different cities) She obviously told her partner to just keep it on the down low.

We also met when we were both quite younger. She was British and I couldn't understand her half the time or else we would have been laughing 24/7 because she had the best sense of humor without the facial expressions. LOL

I feel for you, hugsssss

this is distancing yourself from the people you love though. She doesn't want others to suffer what she's suffering is what I get.

For myself, it's only my family members, the people i love the most, which is my husband, my son, sisters and my parents. My grandparents would have been but they passed away. Very private and only close members of the family.

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I know but I loved her and wanted to...

be part of it but I understand her

Insensitivity is a matter of perspective.

I'm so very sorry ur hurting. I wish I could say something to help but all anyone can ever do in these situations is be there for you. It was very brave for u too post such raw feelings. I hope the feedback helped.

Thank you everyone for your kind words and for sharing your own stories and experiences because that helps me to not feel alone.