IAmMystified
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Do Aqua males change personalities?
He's just so weird now. He keeps to himself alot and more often than not he:
1. Keeps to himself
2. Keeps himself busier for no reason to the point where you can't get a hold of him
3. Barely says a decent hello or goodbye (when he's all about manners)
4. He doesn't offer to help people (when he's usually so helpful and bends over backwards for people)
5. He doesn't laugh at the same types of jokes he used to laugh at
6. he doesn't joke as much anymore and if he does its on his terms only when just 10 minutes before when someone tried to joke with him and he said nothing
7. he's so serious all the damn time
God, he used to be so amazing. He was sweet and caring and silly. He was so endearing and adorable. Now he's just so serious and snooty and indifferent acting.
Do aquas expect take it or leave it?
1. Keeps to himself
2. Keeps himself busier for no reason to the point where you can't get a hold of him
3. Barely says a decent hello or goodbye (when he's all about manners)
4. He doesn't offer to help people (when he's usually so helpful and bends over backwards for people)
5. He doesn't laugh at the same types of jokes he used to laugh at
6. he doesn't joke as much anymore and if he does its on his terms only when just 10 minutes before when someone tried to joke with him and he said nothing
7. he's so serious all the damn time
God, he used to be so amazing. He was sweet and caring and silly. He was so endearing and adorable. Now he's just so serious and snooty and indifferent acting.
Do aquas expect take it or leave it?
Mystified, haven't you made multiple threads about this same issue? I thought you were giving up and weren't going to worry about it anymore.
its cause he's still around whether I want him to be or not. He's always in my space so I have to deal with him lol.
Well, I don't know if you're going to get any different answers than you did the last several times you posted about this. It's almost feels like you're trying to get someone to say the answer you want.
How about trying these suggestions for a change:
1. Keeps to himself - then, he wants to be left alone, so leave him alone.
2. Keeps himself busier for no reason to the point where you can't get a hold of him - he's busy. Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you.
3. Barely says a decent hello or goodbye (when he's all about manners) - maybe he doesn't want to say hello.
4. He doesn't offer to help people (when he's usually so helpful and bends over backwards for people) - seems like you're complaining because he doesn't help YOU. If he doesn't want to help he doesn't have to. Maybe he's tired of people taking advantage of him.
5. He doesn't laugh at the same types of jokes he used to laugh at - maybe the jokes are old and stale and aren't funny to him anymore.
6. he doesn't joke as much anymore and if he does its on his terms only when just 10 minutes before when someone tried to joke with him and he said nothing - Obviously, he didn't think the other person's jokes are funny.
7. he's so serious all the damn time - You act like you think he should always be "on", always be fun and games. Even aquas have a serious side.
Just leave the dude alone and quit trying so hard.
How about trying these suggestions for a change:
1. Keeps to himself - then, he wants to be left alone, so leave him alone.
2. Keeps himself busier for no reason to the point where you can't get a hold of him - he's busy. Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you.
3. Barely says a decent hello or goodbye (when he's all about manners) - maybe he doesn't want to say hello.
4. He doesn't offer to help people (when he's usually so helpful and bends over backwards for people) - seems like you're complaining because he doesn't help YOU. If he doesn't want to help he doesn't have to. Maybe he's tired of people taking advantage of him.
5. He doesn't laugh at the same types of jokes he used to laugh at - maybe the jokes are old and stale and aren't funny to him anymore.
6. he doesn't joke as much anymore and if he does its on his terms only when just 10 minutes before when someone tried to joke with him and he said nothing - Obviously, he didn't think the other person's jokes are funny.
7. he's so serious all the damn time - You act like you think he should always be "on", always be fun and games. Even aquas have a serious side.
Just leave the dude alone and quit trying so hard.
Posted by truecap
Well, I don't know if you're going to get any different answers than you did the last several times you posted about this. It's almost feels like you're trying to get someone to say the answer you want.
How about trying these suggestions for a change:
1. Keeps to himself - then, he wants to be left alone, so leave him alone.
2. Keeps himself busier for no reason to the point where you can't get a hold of him - he's busy. Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you.
3. Barely says a decent hello or goodbye (when he's all about manners) - maybe he doesn't want to say hello.
4. He doesn't offer to help people (when he's usually so helpful and bends over backwards for people) - seems like you're complaining because he doesn't help YOU. If he doesn't want to help he doesn't have to. Maybe he's tired of people taking advantage of him.
5. He doesn't laugh at the same types of jokes he used to laugh at - maybe the jokes are old and stale and aren't funny to him anymore.
6. he doesn't joke as much anymore and if he does its on his terms only when just 10 minutes before when someone tried to joke with him and he said nothing - Obviously, he didn't think the other person's jokes are funny.
7. he's so serious all the damn time - You act like you think he should always be "on", always be fun and games. Even aquas have a serious side.
Just leave the dude alone and quit trying so hard.
+1000
You can ask a million questions regarding his behaviour but you simply fail to consider the simplest of solution.
Posted by aquasnoz
You can ask a million questions regarding his behaviour but you simply fail to consider the simplest of solution.
Ordinarily I would agree with you, but not when it comes to an Aquarius man.
Aquarius men and 'simple' do not belong in the same sentence
Nothing is ever simple. For every Why does Aqua men do these there's another thread asking why does this sign do that. I can't remember the amount of times people had to give their take on the op's circumstance with every suggestion countered with another one of his behaviour.
You start to ask if these threads are even questions or just a personal diary of what she doesn't find 'right' about her Aquarius friend. Time and time again she realises she doesn't want to address it directly so then it becomes a toxic fixation that no one is going to understand or provide insight.
A blanket statement is Aquas of all kinds don't live nor over react to what others think of them, we do what we want. Yet my understanding is the op wants to change this part about him or at least to understand it through her own perception and it simply isn't working.
Now the problem becomes acknowledging you can't change someone vs your own fixation knowing full well only you have the power to 'not give a fuck'. Which is why it's a simple solution... if no fucks are given then it wouldn't become this supposed torment. Own up to your own actions before blaming others for your fixations.
You start to ask if these threads are even questions or just a personal diary of what she doesn't find 'right' about her Aquarius friend. Time and time again she realises she doesn't want to address it directly so then it becomes a toxic fixation that no one is going to understand or provide insight.
A blanket statement is Aquas of all kinds don't live nor over react to what others think of them, we do what we want. Yet my understanding is the op wants to change this part about him or at least to understand it through her own perception and it simply isn't working.
Now the problem becomes acknowledging you can't change someone vs your own fixation knowing full well only you have the power to 'not give a fuck'. Which is why it's a simple solution... if no fucks are given then it wouldn't become this supposed torment. Own up to your own actions before blaming others for your fixations.
Aquas don't have 1-dimensional personalities, hence the reason almost every astrology forum will label us as "unpredictable."
It can seem like Aquas are hard to get to know when the person interacting with them (you) likes someone who is more consistent & stays the same all the time. Some people don't like change. Even if the change is good, it makes them unsettled b/c they felt secure with the 1 side of their Aqua that they didn't realize was just well, 1 side.
So of course when you see 2 or 3 more sides w/o warning, it's natural to automatically assume that something must be wrong or that this newfound behavior is personal or a negative reflection of how they feel about you. Not necessarily.
Aquas may be outgoing, goofy, spontaneous, predictable social butterflies 6 months out of the year. Then suddenly they may bring out their more serious-natured, intellectual, aloof and/or homebody side. Then before you know it, they're back to the 1st personality they showed you. The one you thought was all there was to know about them.
The reason he gets annoyed when you constantly seem bothered by his other sides is b/c he doesn't think you understand that he's actually not acting brand new. He's actually just being himself. Any of the people who truly know him inside & out wouldn't be surprised by this, but that's not to say that a a new person wouldn't be shaking their head wondering what the hell just happened!
HE knows himself & in HIS mind, he's had multiple personalities his whole life lol And although this may seem unfair to others, he may sometimes forget that if he wants to be understood in depth in the deep way he desires, he was better off showcasing all of his trump cards in the beginning, so that a person seeing constant change at 1st would just chalk it up to "him just being himself" vs. what's happening now, with you being confused at the sudden change & questioning whether or not something is wrong with him or with you.
Timing is everything. Maybe you may not really wanna hear this, but this is just how he is. And although Aquas have multi-dimensional personalities, that still doesn't change the fact that they're still human & go through phases just like everybody else. Plus, remember that some Aquas suffer in silence. They'll tell you that all is well, but on the inside they're deeply troubled
It can seem like Aquas are hard to get to know when the person interacting with them (you) likes someone who is more consistent & stays the same all the time. Some people don't like change. Even if the change is good, it makes them unsettled b/c they felt secure with the 1 side of their Aqua that they didn't realize was just well, 1 side.
So of course when you see 2 or 3 more sides w/o warning, it's natural to automatically assume that something must be wrong or that this newfound behavior is personal or a negative reflection of how they feel about you. Not necessarily.
Aquas may be outgoing, goofy, spontaneous, predictable social butterflies 6 months out of the year. Then suddenly they may bring out their more serious-natured, intellectual, aloof and/or homebody side. Then before you know it, they're back to the 1st personality they showed you. The one you thought was all there was to know about them.
The reason he gets annoyed when you constantly seem bothered by his other sides is b/c he doesn't think you understand that he's actually not acting brand new. He's actually just being himself. Any of the people who truly know him inside & out wouldn't be surprised by this, but that's not to say that a a new person wouldn't be shaking their head wondering what the hell just happened!
HE knows himself & in HIS mind, he's had multiple personalities his whole life lol And although this may seem unfair to others, he may sometimes forget that if he wants to be understood in depth in the deep way he desires, he was better off showcasing all of his trump cards in the beginning, so that a person seeing constant change at 1st would just chalk it up to "him just being himself" vs. what's happening now, with you being confused at the sudden change & questioning whether or not something is wrong with him or with you.
Timing is everything. Maybe you may not really wanna hear this, but this is just how he is. And although Aquas have multi-dimensional personalities, that still doesn't change the fact that they're still human & go through phases just like everybody else. Plus, remember that some Aquas suffer in silence. They'll tell you that all is well, but on the inside they're deeply troubled
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