Help a confused Scorpo out pls!

This is my first post here and it's a bit of a mess.

So there's this guy that I have had a major crush on for about five years now. He's an Aqua obviously and I'm a female Scorpio. I??ve gotten quite a few signs from him that he is interested in me, but seeing as we are both rather shy, neither of us have done anything. We meet in college before graduation but I don't see him much anymore, We're friends on Facebook and Twitter, so I have some access to what's going on in his life. We've chatted on and off online and both dated other people on and off during this time. We always end up coming back to each other and flirting because we get along well.

In the last month or so I've broken up with someone and so had he so of course we've fallen back into our old flirty pattern. My best friend has even hinted to him that I'm single and available which seemed to spur him on. He started to contact me more on Facebook and we were chatting almost daily when he just disappeared. I let it go for a week or so then sent a 'what's up?' message and an inside joke...he read the message two days ago but hasn't responded. Since we are friends pretty much everywhere online, I can see that he's online and active, just not talking to me.

My question is: is this just typical Aqua need for space or is he bored with me? Any Aquas want to give any insight?

This might depend on the type of 'friendship' you guys had. I'm guessing you guys weren't very close or at least had very little contact over the years? Correct me if I'm wrong.

Also you mentioned the break up was last month so how long has he disappeared for? If it's only a couple of days I wouldn't worry about it so much. But even for me I would be thinking "Am I just a rebound?" you know things like that. Maybe he's just reflecting or something who knows.

We had very little contact over the years because we were both dating other people.
I broke up with my ex about six months ago but didn't start to speak with this Aqua until two months ago. We've be communicating steadily for a month. The last contact that I've had with Aqua was almost two weeks ago. I sent him a friendly message almost a week ago but he hasn't responded.

Hmmm well I think that rebound question can still be applied though one week is still relatively short according to the Aquarius watch 😛 That also includes the contact you've had throughout the two months! I'm a slow mover myself but yes I still flirt off a storm.

I will say though just given how you've talked about the history, it's not out of the question to think this TO him might be another inbetween flirt phase. So given the possibilities, he could be interested in another person, stepping back to evaluate or plainly just being a bit of an airhead busy with things.

If you guys have been hanging out lately I suppose you could tell him to meet up, to the effect of "Hey, I'll be around your area, let's go for coffee" rather than just a "hi what's up?".

We haven't been hanging out lately because we are in different cities.

I can't help you out... But I do know the struggle of being a Scorpio with a crush. It's no fun at all. And it's waaaay too deep for the "here-today-gone-tomorrow"/"love from afar" attitude of Aquarius.

I think he's just living his life, exploring, being deep in his head, meeting friends, maybe getting over his ex?, there are a lot of reasons, but my experience with aq

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as i was saying, my experiences with aqua men vary, at the end of it all, they all share one common ground if a aqua man is interested he would make the time out of they're busy schedules. Seeing how he isn't consistent with you shows that he just isn't that into you. HE IS but not at the same intensity as you.

Posted by candi3bb
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as i was saying, my experiences with aqua men vary, at the end of it all, they all share one common ground if a aqua man is interested he would make the time out of they're busy schedules. Seeing how he isn't consistent with you shows that he just isn't that into you. HE IS but not at the same intensity as you.

I agree.
If he's interested he would make time for you. That's been my experience anyway.

Posted by truecap

Posted by candi3bb
(ah stupid i accidently hit the enter button lol)

as i was saying, my experiences with aqua men vary, at the end of it all, they all share one common ground if a aqua man is interested he would make the time out of they're busy schedules. Seeing how he isn't consistent with you shows that he just isn't that into you. HE IS but not at the same intensity as you.

I agree.
If he's interested he would make time for you. That's been my experience anyway.

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That's just it. He's gone from always having time and constantly texting to not talking to me for the last week. I'm very confused by his behavior.

Sometimes they disappear like that, but in my humble opinion, more than 48-72 hours is disrespectful and it means they're just not as into you.

But, then again, in aqua time, a week is nothing and they don't even realize how long it's been. When he contacts you next, I would proceed cautiously, but I would remain friendly. He will probably tell you what all he's been up to without you having to ask. Sometimes its a test, sometimes they are just clueless and sometimes they just aren't into you. It will take a little while for you to figure out which one it is.

Stay strong and if you do contact him, just send something cute, funny and friendly and don't ever ask why he hasn't contacted you. Otherwise, I would wait for him to contact. I wouldn't tolerate the disappearing act. I'm not saying you should just let him behave this way, just be leery. Meanwhile, I'd go do my thing - date other people, go out with your friends, don't sit around and wait for him. You might meet someone else in the meantime. Ya never know!

Well he's back. Buddying up to my friends and asking them about me but being brisk with me. I'm taking truecap's advice and doing my own thing. His hit and cold is much.

My dad and brother are both Aqua's and I have Aqua rising. My brother is engaged to a fellow scorp (and they seem to be constantly bickering- he's always grumpy!) and my dad had a very long on again off again with a super difficult scorp. So I've seen the passion these two signs share- tonnes of it. But longevity...?
Another thing I've noticed with the aqua thing is that they are brisk and blunt etc. it get's to a scorp really easily, my dad can wind me up with one sentence. My Taurus girlfriend is also fond of telling me that she 'understands what I am saying but it's a poor delivery' when I am getting a little intellectual and bossy- the aqua rises!
I'd also like to throw into the mix that you are both fixed signs... That can be a tough proposition. Fixed signs (as you will know) hate being ignored. He'll be back, if that is what you want...? Just a few little notes, but truecap was spot on.