Help!! I am new here...

Hey everyone,

I am new here & not sure I am doing things correctly.

I have a very strange situation with a Virgo man I met about 2 months ago. First of all I hope I don't get blasted due to my life style as I do sometimes on other message boards. Here is my situation:

Hubby & I are swingers & we recently met a virgo man who is very attractive, dominant & the attraction between the 2 of us was fantastic. He has a girlfriend who he does like & has been going with for over a year, who lives about 3 hours away & well from the sound of it she won't commit to him. She does know about us meeting her man & in the beginning she did not have a problem with it.

Anyway, up until about 2 weeks ago we enjoyed each others company very much (no sex involved, just went out to dinner a few times, hung out, etc.) Well all of a sudden he doesn't want to go out with me anymore when before he couldn't get enuf contact (3-4 times a day on the phone was the norm). I ask him several times what's up - he is evasive, very evasive.

Just recently he told me he has been having deep financial problems, which I did suspect as he just changed jobs. He is also injured in his hand & not speaking to his daughter - all complicated I know.

Can anyone please tell me - do Virgo worry a lot & do they cut themselves off from someone they are very attracted to? He did admit he was extremely attracted to me & having a hard time being loyal to his girlfriend.

I'm very saddened by the cease in our communication. Now when we talk on the phone he is very distant but when I suggest I fade away out of his life he's not happy that I said that.

As I said I'm probably rambling - can anyone help me here? I'm so confused & have never been with a virgo man before. I am an Aquarius if that matters.

I hope I am doing this correctly - help!!
thanks much

"I hope I am doing this correctly" is there such a word in the Aqua's vocab? The Aqua's that I have known don't do anything "correctly" whatever that means. What I mean to say is most of them prefer to be outside the box and will try anything at least once...that is their MO.

Virgolover...all that I can share with you is....follow your heart, trust your instincts. If something is meant to be, it will happen. What we resist WILL persist....let go and see what happens. Most of all, enjoy the ride!

Keep us posted - maybe a Virgo man will pop on here and share his thoughts with you....best wishes my friend!

Well, it took me 20 minutes to find my message - I wasn't sure it was posted lol. Thanks for the kind words - I certainly do hope to hear from a lot of virgo men because I sure don't understand them.

🙂

Virgos touch the soul and spirit so profoundly that you either love those for the life time or hate those for the life time..

It is master work.. created by nature..

They can be leader or follower?!! if you are leader type?. And he is leader type too, then tell me.. what happen to that ship with two capt. on board..??

Compromising?. Ok?! But what happen if he is like me.. with no sense of compromising..?

One of you guys must lower the shield?

All in all.. you are a swinger with hubby..(nothing wrong with it)? but for a Virgo type its all wrong, there are times that people get serious in their life style when things get serious in their mind and heart..

Well Q Bone, I don't know you personally & don't mean to debate what you say about swingers not being the virgo type.

I only have known & been with this 1 Virgo but he is 56 years old & has been in the swinging life style for almost 30 years & told me openly he luvs it & would never live any other way.

I thought possibly the reason he was avoiding me now was because I had a husband. But he's met my husband & been many places with us both in 2 months doing things together & likes him very much. I can only reason maybe his feelings for me were getting stronger & he knew I wasn't available for him 24/7 so he backed off.

I've given up trying to figure him out I think. I'll just be here when he wants to talk or go out or whatever. I'm ok with it I just still don't understand him (which I know has been said I never will LOL).


May I ask Q bone, you being a virgo - when personal problems (such as finances or being injured physically) plague you, do you back away from the ones you care about in your life?

Thanks for any advice - hope I'm not prying 🙂

Virgoluver

Hello there Virgoluver39 and welcome:-),

"& well from the sound of it she won't commit to him. She does know about us meeting her man & in the beginning she did not have a problem with it".

I may be totally wrong but for me reading your story - that's the nub of the matter. First off, damn right, she won't commit.....hell the man is swinging for 30 years or so!!!!:-) as you said - but that's fair enough if that's what he wants.......

Women instinctively know when their guy is beginning to have stronger feelings for another lady and I think this may have happened to his girlfriend......in the beginning there was no problem like you said, but as things have developed, my guess is that she's picked up on this vibe, realized she might lose him for good and so is putting pressure on him to stop your "dangerous liaison" and stop it big time......

Finnancial matters, sickness......I don't think come into the equation so much at all........virgos love to discuss and analyse all these with their loved ones.....(they do tend to be hypochondriacs at the best of times!!!:-)

Anyway, virgoluver, this is just a short bird-eye view for me of your situation....what you can do about.....well I will leave it for another time......

By the way, I am a Ms. Aquarius and my guy is Mr. Virgo for over three years so I know a bit about the way Virgos operate.....for want of a better word.

Take care for now.

Alana x

Swingers....Whoo-hoo!

I always wanted to be a swinger if I ever get married! Most people look at me like I'm stupid when I say that, but if I can find a man down with it...I'm all for it!

CL/Cm2