Help! Is there a chance?

Posted by lovelyleo2020

My aqua and I have been together a year now, we hit it off from the start, happy and in love. Things moved pretty quickly, I fell pregnant a few months after we started dating. He’s been involved and even proposed to me. Baby was born recently and we moved in together. I’ll admit my hormones have been all over the place resulting in me being pretty selfish towards him, and we’ve had frequent arguments. One argument was so awful it left him in tears after i threw the engagement ring he bought me in his direction. All Ive wanted was to have him close and instead I’ve pushed him away and caused so much damage. After weeks of going back and forth, He moved out last week, and since then I’ve been hoping to repair the damage I’ve caused in these last few weeks via text conversations. The other day we had a pretty good day, normal conversation until later that evening, we got into a pretty heated argument via text after he made a joke about calling another girl. Looking back it seems he really wanted to get a reaction out of me and i fell for it. Awful words were exchanged and he told me he was done, tired of me hurting him, and feels he’s given me plenty of chances. He then told me not to reach out unless it was regarding our son. Two days have gone by and I cannot stop thinking about him. I’m sad, empty and confused. I want to make things right because we’ve shared so many good memories, and love him so much. I called his phone this evening even though I told myself not to give in to the urge of reaching out to him and about an hour later he texted me and asked if i meant to call him. I have not responded yet because I don’t want to overwhelm aqua man with my emotions and push him away more than I already have. For the sake of our baby, I’m open to removing the romantic piece of our relationship for the moment and just being friends for now so hopefully he can see i can change. I don’t know what to do! If there’s a slim chance left at all for reconciliation, I don’t want to ruin it. :/

Im sorry but i just can not believe this.. you have a son with this person? Do you know what that means? You are breaking up over dumb shit, without paying any regards to this kid. Whom you both might turn's life into a mess just with your argues. Do you have a cheating husband ? No. Is he avusive ? No. Does he have some weird sexual fantasy that he wants you to perform? No. Does your families create problems between you both ? No. Does one of you have some sort of disease? No. Yet here you are fighting over dumb shit. Im sorry for the word but thats the truth..! Just know,you have a baby now. You clearly loveand care for each other, id say since he still cares about you and your child, give it a chance! Meet him and talk to him face to face. Leave the phones aside. Seriously, fighting over text messages? Also that joke isnt supposed to drive you mad, especially with the heated situation you already have, Calm yourselves, talk with him rationally, and put your feelings of anger aside. Dont cut him while he expresses himself, dont act offended/insulted if he expresses himself with honesty.. otherwise you will just make him dislike you,(ont try to manipulate) try Understanding . Instead. Also, calm.. if he makes a joke, let him joke as he pleases.. lets say in some fantasy world his joke did come true? Why get so angry. You have a baby, and you are the world to him, so be the best mother ever. If you have anger issues and say hurtful things while angry just dont talk when ur in that position.. i actually ruined my relationship with somebody in the past just with anger. And negative thoughts i listened to. Be more rational, and also learn silence in anger moments, by silence i mean no texting either. Do martial arts/sports, and put your rage out. You have a baby, show him you ve made your effort. Call your man and meet him at your place/his and talk rationally and apologize for throwing the ring and all the other drama, it might seem little to you but its really alot. Especially if you still havent apologized. Do that since hes not seeing someone else. There are clearly chances of making it work, id say do it asap.. and stop arguing. Dont even let it get there. Its okay if you tell him "lets not argue" nothing wrong with it. Also saying "sorry" after raging out.

Also how does he respond to ur apologies and anger ? Does he just leave ? Or does he continue on arguing ? Aquariuses can be argumentative. Im unsure, but the fact he left shows he sees no point in trying to rationalize with you cuz maybe all u do instead is get mad ? Idk. You tell me.

Posted by lovelyleo2020

My aqua and I have been together a year now, we hit it off from the start, happy and in love. Things moved pretty quickly, I fell pregnant a few months after we started dating. He’s been involved and even proposed to me. Baby was born recently and we moved in together. I’ll admit my hormones have been all over the place resulting in me being pretty selfish towards him, and we’ve had frequent arguments. One argument was so awful it left him in tears after i threw the engagement ring he bought me in his direction. All Ive wanted was to have him close and instead I’ve pushed him away and caused so much damage. After weeks of going back and forth, He moved out last week, and since then I’ve been hoping to repair the damage I’ve caused in these last few weeks via text conversations. The other day we had a pretty good day, normal conversation until later that evening, we got into a pretty heated argument via text after he made a joke about calling another girl. Looking back it seems he really wanted to get a reaction out of me and i fell for it. Awful words were exchanged and he told me he was done, tired of me hurting him, and feels he’s given me plenty of chances. He then told me not to reach out unless it was regarding our son. Two days have gone by and I cannot stop thinking about him. I’m sad, empty and confused. I want to make things right because we’ve shared so many good memories, and love him so much. I called his phone this evening even though I told myself not to give in to the urge of reaching out to him and about an hour later he texted me and asked if i meant to call him. I have not responded yet because I don’t want to overwhelm aqua man with my emotions and push him away more than I already have. For the sake of our baby, I’m open to removing the romantic piece of our relationship for the moment and just being friends for now so hopefully he can see i can change. I don’t know what to do! If there’s a slim chance left at all for reconciliation, I don’t want to ruin it. :/

Youre like an emotional rollercoaster, but that can be worked out. If you want to.

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Posted by lovelyleo2020

My aqua and I have been together a year now, we hit it off from the start, happy and in love. Things moved pretty quickly, I fell pregnant a few months after we started dating. He’s been involved and even proposed to me. Baby was born recently and we moved in together. I’ll admit my hormones have been all over the place resulting in me being pretty selfish towards him, and we’ve had frequent arguments. One argument was so awful it left him in tears after i threw the engagement ring he bought me in his direction. All Ive wanted was to have him close and instead I’ve pushed him away and caused so much damage. After weeks of going back and forth, He moved out last week, and since then I’ve been hoping to repair the damage I’ve caused in these last few weeks via text conversations. The other day we had a pretty good day, normal conversation until later that evening, we got into a pretty heated argument via text after he made a joke about calling another girl. Looking back it seems he really wanted to get a reaction out of me and i fell for it. Awful words were exchanged and he told me he was done, tired of me hurting him, and feels he’s given me plenty of chances. He then told me not to reach out unless it was regarding our son. Two days have gone by and I cannot stop thinking about him. I’m sad, empty and confused. I want to make things right because we’ve shared so many good memories, and love him so much. I called his phone this evening even though I told myself not to give in to the urge of reaching out to him and about an hour later he texted me and asked if i meant to call him. I have not responded yet because I don’t want to overwhelm aqua man with my emotions and push him away more than I already have. For the sake of our baby, I’m open to removing the romantic piece of our relationship for the moment and just being friends for now so hopefully he can see i can change. I don’t know what to do! If there’s a slim chance left at all for reconciliation, I don’t want to ruin it. :/

Im sorry but i just can not believe this.. you have a son with this person? Do you know what that means? You are breaking up over dumb shit, without paying any regards to this kid. Whom you both might turn's life into a mess just with your argues. Do you have a cheating husband ? No. Is he avusive ? No. Does he have some weird sexual fantasy that he wants you to perform? No. Does your families create problems between you both ? No. Does one of you have some sort of disease? No. Yet here you are fighting over dumb shit. Im sorry for the word but thats the truth..! Just know,you have a baby now. You clearly loveand care for each other, id say since he still cares about you and your child, give it a chance! Meet him and talk to him face to face. Leave the phones aside. Seriously, fighting over text messages? Also that joke isnt supposed to drive you mad, especially with the heated situation you already have, Calm yourselves, talk with him rationally, and put your feelings of anger aside. Dont cut him while he expresses himself, dont act offended/insulted if he expresses himself with honesty.. otherwise you will just make him dislike you,(ont try to manipulate) try Understanding . Instead. Also, calm.. if he makes a joke, let him joke as he pleases.. lets say in some fantasy world his joke did come true? Why get so angry. You have a baby, and you are the world to him, so be the best mother ever. If you have anger issues and say hurtful things while angry just dont talk when ur in that position.. i actually ruined my relationship with somebody in the past just with anger. And negative thoughts i listened to. Be more rational, and also learn silence in anger moments, by silence i mean no texting either. Do martial arts/sports, and put your rage out. You have a baby, show him you ve made your effort. Call your man and meet him at your place/his and talk rationally and apologize for throwing the ring and all the other drama, it might seem little to you but its really alot. Especially if you still havent apologized. Do that since hes not seeing someone else. There are clearly chances of making it work, id say do it asap.. and stop arguing. Dont even let it get there. Its okay if you tell him "lets not argue" nothing wrong with it. Also saying "sorry" after raging out.

Also how does he respond to ur apologies and anger ? Does he just leave ? Or does he continue on arguing ? Aquariuses can be argumentative. Im unsure, but the fact he left shows he sees no point in trying to rationalize with you cuz maybe all u do instead is get mad ? Idk. You tell me.

How do you know he hasn’t done those things?

You’re answering for her like you know more to the story.

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She said "If there’s a slim chance left at all for reconciliation, I don’t want to ruin it. :/" apparently she knows she ruined something before. Which is already a good thing, cuz it enables her to make things better in the future. Also just for the sake of doubt cuz im still not assuming he is good, i asked in the end about the way he responds. So then i can tell her what might help. Obviously more detail will help.

So he hasn’t seen his son in 2 days?

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Damn what's your moon and rising sign?

Anyway I think you need to take a big break because you're being out of control. Stop stalking him and let him be.

You haven't told us what he has or hasn't done so we can't really say if you're right for being mad at him or not.

If you're the only to blame then please seek therapy I don't think hormones would the only reason you're acting nuts right now.

So yeah we need more info.

Moon - Leo

Rising - Libra

Posted by lovelyleo2020

Posted by LadyNeptune

So he hasn’t seen his son in 2 days?

It’s been a week. He moved his stuff out last week..

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So he bails on his infant son after an argument. Father of the year right here.

Whatever is going on between the 2 of you, he needs to show up for his son. Point. Blank. Period.

You've a child together.....it doesn't matter how you feel about each other. It's about your son and his welfare. Do you want him to grow up saying his parents couldn't act like civil human beings towards each other..?

Arrange to have some parenting classses together or counselling.

Do you love your son enough to put your negative feelings to one side and show him although you may not be together with his daddy in a conventional sense, you can be respectful and kind to each other.

You are parents....time to grow up..