Hang on in there Scorp

I was helping a Scorpio male over the last few weeks..when something he was trying to accomplish kept failing, he says to me *what's the point* and i says to him *the point is it could happen tomorrow* and it literally did, the next day and he is like a new man

Life is showing you a different path (for now) so instead of giving up, shift your focus to things you have never tried before. We are a fixed sign and get stuck into one or two things sometimes...so what can you do that you didn't do before....what can you study, read etc that will hold your interest?

I became a different person the day i picked up a book and started reading again....and now i live in a whole new world

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That's dumb, guys faking feelings just to get casual sex is counter productive.

But they still do this on a regular basis.

Yes. This is the what most guys do.

Yes, the ones whose brains are in their pants do...

Exactly. But some of them are EXTREMELY good at keeping up the charade at times. And then comes mu biggest fear: realizing and accepting, that they didn't mean any of it. This is where I pretend too. Or used to. I tried being more honest with the last two guys. No result.

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Wise up lady

Use that strong feminine intuition....!

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That's dumb, guys faking feelings just to get casual sex is counter productive.

But they still do this on a regular basis.

Yes. This is the what most guys do.

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Yes, the ones whose brains are in their pants do...

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They pretend they're good guys with emotions, I pretend I am a bad girl without feelings. Is that how it all works?

Yes

Hmm... Then howcome I didn't meet anyone for two years of waiting for the right one? I think that's why I gave up and just said treetrunk it. Like I met NOONE!! Like no dates no nothing.

Because you were being passive?

If I pretend to be a world class douche chances of me attracting a mousy librarian are pretty slim cuz she'd probably be turned off by my personality. So who do you think my douchy personality would attract?

It is also likely that you subconsciously turn down the guys you think you want simply bc they don't actually do it for you. But you think you should want to want them.

You said it yourself though, by pretending to be a bad girl you are attracting the wrong type of guys. Could be you are damaged and kind of a bad girl and you thrive in chaos rather than stability.

This here...^^^^^

Like begets like. If you don't want something that growls, maybe you should stop barking and expecting something human to show up. You attract what you are whether you like it or not. Lions do not mate with crocodiles and mosquitoes don't mate with spiders. Whomever you find acceptable to you is not a reflection of that person, but of your standards and who you are...

A reflection of my standards and who I am. So guys that would be decent with other girls, will turn to player-like guys with me, because I allow it? I don't know how to raise a guy then. I don't have a clue about that part of life. I thought good guys would just be good always.

Be good to yourself, be clear with what you want and you will attract a good man

People only treat other badly because they're allowed to

Learn some self respect girl 👍

That is my goal!!! Way moreso than getting a guy ofcours! Happyness and peace with myself.
I have no idea why it's so hard for me to get there. Honestly.

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Keep at it, you will do it if you're determined 👍

Don't sweat the small stuff, at the end of the day, it doesn't matter

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Little things don't hurt me

Bigger issues do though....any cruelty to children, abuse, neglect, etc

Those things i feel deeply about

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Jordan Peterson, clinical psychologist and a professor of psychology at the University of Toronto

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No people who use violence don't know how to use words to communicate.

Would you hit an adult? Why is it OK to hit a child that's so much smaller then.

It isn't okay.

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Ok I'm gonna be crucified for saying this, but it's what I think.

I notice that spanking is far more common in the USA, and much less in other developed countries.

And notice how much more of an issue violent crime in general is in the USA.

I really think violent parenting contributes to that.

There are no states in the US where it's illegal to hit your child....i had noticed this too

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no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does trtrk with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious

Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"

mostly my father, my mom has always been great

Thank God for good mums. What did he do to you?

growing up my dad was always working + a drunk so he'd hit all of us for no reason mostly based on assumption and because he deemed us to be misbehaving it was a mixture between belt or kneeling on gravel but kneeling was my favorite because if we counted to 100 punishment would be over

I think he hit us for control tbh he seemed to enjoy it and told us not to cry after or else we'd get hit again

he's not a drunk anymore he's a catholic so basically in his eyes and those who didn't know him at his worst he is a pure saint

Drunk Catholic cruel hypocrite...😐. Great "Christian" hey? 😡

So sorry for what you went through....do you still talk to him?

yeah, he's my father after all plus he is sober has been for a while I mean you can forgive but never forget i've gone thru my own rough upbringing but family is always family it has been ingrained since day 1

I don't agree that we have to be in the company of anyone who is violent and abuses us. Being a father means other things to me

He is very lucky to have you in his life, I hope he realises that

(((Hugs)))

he doesn't the other day I was having a small mood swing a temper passed down by him might I add and he said he doesn't know how my man or any man can put up with me

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no, as an adult who comes from a home where I was constantly punished physically for trivial to almost nothing I don't condone it, it does trtrk with you whether its sub-conscious or conscious

Sorry to hear that, tell your folks it's "lazy parenting"

mostly my father, my mom has always been great

Thank God for good mums. What did he do to you?

growing up my dad was always working + a drunk so he'd hit all of us for no reason mostly based on assumption and because he deemed us to be misbehaving it was a mixture between belt or kneeling on gravel but kneeling was my favorite because if we counted to 100 punishment would be over

I think he hit us for control tbh he seemed to enjoy it and told us not to cry after or else we'd get hit again

he's not a drunk anymore he's a catholic so basically in his eyes and those who didn't know him at his worst he is a pure saint

Drunk Catholic cruel hypocrite...😐. Great "Christian" hey? 😡

So sorry for what you went through....do you still talk to him?

yeah, he's my father after all plus he is sober has been for a while I mean you can forgive but never forget i've gone thru my own rough upbringing but family is always family it has been ingrained since day 1

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I don't agree that we have to be in the company of anyone who is violent and abuses us. Being a father means other things to me

He is very lucky to have you in his life, I hope he realises that

(((Hugs)))

I agree with the asserting oneself thing. The reason you're feeling resentful is because you're bottling all your feelings up and that isn't healthy

What would I do? Well I wouldn't keep those people in my life for long anyway....friendships are meant to be enjoyable, but before I walked away I'd let the person know how I felt. I've done it a few times and felt much better afterwards

Nobody has to tolerate toxic people in their lives, even if it's family members