Help me get over my aqua ex or get him back :(

I'm a Leo. I dated my Aquarius ex for about 5 months. We both fell fast and fell hard. We ended up moving in an apartment together because of some circumstances .. We bought brand new furniture. Had a housewarming party ... He would talk about marriage and kids with me and about being the one for each other. I initiated the final breakup between us after being sick of the bickering and the stupid lies he'd tell. He agreed with it but then I changed my mind and wanted to work on things and within a week he said his feelings had changed. It's almost been two months since the breakup which was intense and pretty ugly since we had also gotten a car for him that was in my name because he had bad credit which obv I didn't want to leave him with and have to worry about him paying it every month if we weren't going to be together anymore. I've had no contact with him for the last three weeks now which was when i took the car back and it wasnt good ... and I miss him like crazy and can't stop thinking about him. I want to reach out but I don't want to be rejected. But like I said, it's been almost two months and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I thought we were meant to be and could work through everything. I know he's gotten with other girls since then and I'm not sure if he's just hanging out or seeing someone but I haven't and I'm having so much trouble moving on :-/ I wasn't used in the relationship either, the feelings were def mutual, I just think it ended rough because we both had a lot on our plates thrown at us all at once ...

What do you mean by "stupid lies"?

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
What do you mean by "stupid lies"?

He would lie about things that were just silly. About a missing car key. About things that were so unimportant and shouldn't be lied about.

I miss him so much. I want to work things out with him

I would give you advice but what do I know. I was engaged to a Leo. I think you should do what you think is best; after all, you are the one most cognizant of the tiny details that will matter here. Leo women are like deadly attractive to Aquarius men. And the statistics show that Aquarius males are least likely to get in a divorce with a Leo woman then any other sun sign in the zodiac.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I would give you advice but what do I know. I was engaged to a Leo. I think you should do what you think is best; after all, you are the one most cognizant of the tiny details that will matter here. Leo women are like deadly attractive to Aquarius men. And the statistics show that Aquarius males are least likely to get in a divorce with a Leo woman then any other sun sign in the zodiac.

Thank you for your reply. What happened between you and the Leo?
Would it push you away if the Leo contacted you after two months and after ending with ugly words? What would make you want her back the most? Are you too proud to reach out first or would you reach out if you missed her?

What happened between you and the Leo?
hmm you are really wondering huh! What happened between me and her is long ass story to say the least. I've typed it out and removed 3 times just cause it can't fit. And I don't wanna leave you a wall of text. Let's just say I was irresponsible and I deserved it. I learned a lot.

Would it push you away if the Leo contacted you after two months and after ending with ugly words?
I dunno. Were you the one who was ugly...or was it both of you. I would say if you were calling to reconcile and meant it and showed it I don't see why it would push me away. If I thought you hadn't changed or saw where you were wrong and just wanted me back to sooth your own personal pain maybe I would avoid you then. I don't like selfish people or those who insult my intelligence and try to manipulate me.

What would make you want her back the most?
This sounds manipulative. The person she was who loved me for me is what would make me want her back the most.

Are you too proud to reach out first or would you reach out if you missed her?
I can be proud if I think you are wrong or that you are trying to use or manipulate me. Other than that I would for sure reach out to you if I missed you. When I feel like I'm in the wrong I will always reach out and try to fix that which I did.

Only you know. I know Leos are very proud people too. If you really do think you did anything wrong or you are more in the wrong. You may have a very hard task ahead of you. Aquarius men or people in general are very idealistic about love.

I suppose there is always the outside chance he is just a nutter but who knows. He doesn't sound very responsible with you having to co-sign for loans because his credit is shit. But I'm sure you wouldn't do it if you thought there wasn't a good reason for his situation. All I can say is. YOU KNOW better than me...

Thank you again for the response. I loved him more than anything. He always said no one was that great to him.
He has not reached out and you say you would which makes me think he does not miss me. The thing is, he was wrong mostly. I could have backed off when he was done and left it at that but he was the mean one :-/ I don't know what to do ??!

I'm so scared by the other Aquarius' responses telling me to give him his space and if he wants me he will reach me ... And he's just not. So idk if I need to just accept that or I should reach out and express my feelings. I don't want to be vulnerable either. Or get hurt by his words or rejecting me or anything like that. I'm so confused but I'm having so much trouble moving on because I've never loved anyone like I do him.

Ooh gosh see what I mean. He's the one in the wrong and you still want him back!

This comment I find puzzling
"I could have backed off when he was done and left it at that but he was the mean one :-/ I don't know what to do" ??!

If so then why are you here? And what do you mean 'when he was done'?

Like when I wanted to work things out and he decided his feelings changed. I'm saying I could have just left it at that but I couldn't let go at first. It took me a month and a week to be able to stop all contact with him.

He just got nasty and I just felt like that was his anger subsiding because of everything we had to divide between us and it wasn't working in his favor

I'm really starting to sense your agony over all this so god I don't usually do this often but are you able to post his natal chart here? Me and NYAA are both 3rd decan pisces in mars and both pisces in venus so we can be direct with things like that but probably hurt just as easily but I do know for a fact some Aquas just will not respond until you prompt them.

If you want him back so bad why did you break up with him?

lol I'm a jerk huh ^.^

Posted by aquasnoz
I'm really starting to sense your agony over all this so god I don't usually do this often but are you able to post his natal chart here? Me and NYAA are both 3rd decan pisces in mars and both pisces in venus so we can be direct with things like that but probably hurt just as easily but I do know for a fact some Aquas just will not respond until you prompt them.

In order to know the natal chart I need to know time of birth?

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
If you want him back so bad why did you break up with him?

Lol no it's tough love I guess. I think it's a really bad Leo thing. I think it was an in the moment decision made by anger, sadness, and stress and he just didn't accept that I changed my mind right after. It's not like I changed my mind days later. I said let's just be friends for now and he said ok... then said maybe we can work it out and it was too late I'm his eyes, he was done.

Posted by Hoplessinlove

Posted by aquasnoz
I'm really starting to sense your agony over all this so god I don't usually do this often but are you able to post his natal chart here? Me and NYAA are both 3rd decan pisces in mars and both pisces in venus so we can be direct with things like that but probably hurt just as easily but I do know for a fact some Aquas just will not respond until you prompt them.

In order to know the natal chart I need to know time of birth?

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Yeah 🙂 It would be more accurate

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by Hoplessinlove

Posted by aquasnoz
I'm really starting to sense your agony over all this so god I don't usually do this often but are you able to post his natal chart here? Me and NYAA are both 3rd decan pisces in mars and both pisces in venus so we can be direct with things like that but probably hurt just as easily but I do know for a fact some Aquas just will not respond until you prompt them.

In order to know the natal chart I need to know time of birth?

Yeah 🙂 It would be more accurate

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I honestly don't know his time of birth. Only his Birthday which is February 15, 1983

Okies it seems without the time his main placement falls in Sun Aqua, Pisces Moon, Aqua Merc, Pisces Mars and Venus. So I guess I can sort of see where he's going with this.

I think the cause of this is that you were the first to suggest a break up. To us it seems like you've given up and it ultimately caused our trust in you to splinter. We love hard but we hurt just as hard and this is where I've got the bad news that it really is his choice whether he'll trust again.

Thing is it takes time for us and there's probably nothing you can do. The Aqua and pisces combined makes a pretty bad combo when it comes to this. If anyone's ever appealed to me it's probably through small gestures here and there. I don't make myself available to them when I'm still hurting and it really depends on whether I want closure that I seek out that person.

So I guess I must ask how long has it been since the breakup? The only other tactic is to trap him into a corner to get some truth out of him but it usually doesn't end up well. You can be cryptic with him, send him links to songs that remind him of you etc. Maybe a letter so there's no confrontation but yeah these pisces placements make us a bit fragile and overly sensitive.

And if you really love him, perhaps plant ideas into his head saying he's the one and he's always been the only one. Don't be afraid to just say it straight. He'll take time to process it but I think in this case it helps you to get it off your chest and it'll help him with the decision faster.

I must warn you now though this has happened to me before. I've never looked back when they've decided it's over. I'll be in turmoil to find out later they didn't mean it but I've already moved on. The love is still there and that friendship will come back but takes time to heal!

You'll have to take my word that the love won't fade 🙂 just realise it's a different kind of love.

Posted by aquasnoz
Okies it seems without the time his main placement falls in Sun Aqua, Pisces Moon, Aqua Merc, Pisces Mars and Venus. So I guess I can sort of see where he's going with this.

I think the cause of this is that you were the first to suggest a break up. To us it seems like you've given up and it ultimately caused our trust in you to splinter. We love hard but we hurt just as hard and this is where I've got the bad news that it really is his choice whether he'll trust again.

Thing is it takes time for us and there's probably nothing you can do. The Aqua and pisces combined makes a pretty bad combo when it comes to this. If anyone's ever appealed to me it's probably through small gestures here and there. I don't make myself available to them when I'm still hurting and it really depends on whether I want closure that I seek out that person.

So I guess I must ask how long has it been since the breakup? The only other tactic is to trap him into a corner to get some truth out of him but it usually doesn't end up well. You can be cryptic with him, send him links to songs that remind him of you etc. Maybe a letter so there's no confrontation but yeah these pisces placements make us a bit fragile and overly sensitive.

And if you really love him, perhaps plant ideas into his head saying he's the one and he's always been the only one. Don't be afraid to just say it straight. He'll take time to process it but I think in this case it helps you to get it off your chest and it'll help him with the decision faster.

Okay great ! Thank you sooo much. So it seems like it may be a difficult task :-/ but not impossible?
It has been two months since the breakup.

Posted by aquasnoz
I must warn you now though this has happened to me before. I've never looked back when they've decided it's over. I'll be in turmoil to find out later they didn't mean it but I've already moved on. The love is still there and that friendship will come back but takes time to heal!

You'll have to take my word that the love won't fade 🙂 just realise it's a different kind of love.

Ugh so maybe it is impossible?

OMG, he has the exact same date of birth as my Aqua! We "broke up" a few times but somehow always ended up back together. I always got back in touch with him. I just couldnt leave it, and luckily it was fine and now better than ever. Thinking/worrying about things is so much harder than actually dealing with it, because then you'll really know where you stand. He can only say no..call him.

Posted by Sola
OMG, he has the exact same date of birth as my Aqua! We "broke up" a few times but somehow always ended up back together. I always got back in touch with him. I just couldnt leave it, and luckily it was fine and now better than ever. Thinking/worrying about things is so much harder than actually dealing with it, because then you'll really know where you stand. He can only say no..call him.

Hey! What is the longest you went without speaking? Did the fight end bad? bc ours really did! How did you approach him? Was he always receptive?

Well, it's a lot different from yours because we have never had a fight, more like he was/is unsure about what exactly he wants, so we always ended up getting too close for comfort, then tried to separate ourselves from each other, and maybe max. 4 days later mutually agreed that there is something between us that we can't ignore.

But he was always receptive, and me to him.

My ex aqua was born on feb 16 so not so far I guess but it could cause a huge difference in personality in the horoscope world.
But I guess ppl r giving u here a v different advise from what I got. Like ppl told me to completely ignore him and all and stop contact cuz that could make me look desperate/ugly in his eyes. But what im reading here is that they r tellin u to face him and call him and express ur feelings for him.

My advise is act urself and do what makes YOU feel comfortable. Try ur best to not look too desperate. Tell him u respect y he is acting this way.Also I think u shud give him more time to miss u. cuz aquas take a verrrrry long time to heal.

Posted by Nouran20
My ex aqua was born on feb 16 so not so far I guess but it could cause a huge difference in personality in the horoscope world.
But I guess ppl r giving u here a v different advise from what I got. Like ppl told me to completely ignore him and all and stop contact cuz that could make me look desperate/ugly in his eyes. But what im reading here is that they r tellin u to face him and call him and express ur feelings for him.

My advise is act urself and do what makes YOU feel comfortable. Try ur best to not look too desperate. Tell him u respect y he is acting this way.Also I think u shud give him more time to miss u. cuz aquas take a verrrrry long time to heal.

Thank you so much for your advice. Hopefully I hear from him soon

You poor thing your up so late :/

Get some rest will ya. I know Im up late but I am a total douche!
you shouldn't be worrying about him.

@Hopeless in love-Get a hobby and do not worry about him. He will come back but, he is more than likely going to be the same person. Can you handle it?

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
@Hopeless in love-Get a hobby and do not worry about him. He will come back but, he is more than likely going to be the same person. Can you handle it?

I told her the same thing and also true that he wont change, but can & will, WHEN HE WANTS TO.

My advice still stands, lay low. If you want to contact him then do so, but dont be surprised if he blows you off because you initiated contact before he is ready. I'm not him, but I tell people to 'buzz off' when they bother me before I'm ready to start again. I always change my mind thou down the line if I'm given more space. Like I told you before, I never call 1st so it takes a person who really knows me to figure out the correct moment to reconnect.

Question for you...obviously this is not you all's 1st fight...who innitiated contact before & how long was the space inbetween? You only can answer the 'to call or not to call' dilemma.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
@Hopeless in love-Get a hobby and do not worry about him. He will come back but, he is more than likely going to be the same person. Can you handle it?

I told her the same thing and also true that he wont change, but can & will, WHEN HE WANTS TO.

My advice still stands, lay low. If you want to contact him then do so, but dont be surprised if he blows you off because you initiated contact before he is ready. I'm not him, but I tell people to 'buzz off' when they bother me before I'm ready to start again. I always change my mind thou down the line if I'm given more space. Like I told you before, I never call 1st so it takes a person who really knows me to figure out the correct moment to reconnect.

Question for you...obviously this is not you all's 1st fight...who innitiated contact before & how long was the space inbetween? You only can answer the 'to call or not to call' dilemma.

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We never had a breakup like this :-/ or a fight this long. Usually we've been in contact the entire time during a fight. I'm trying to give him space just don't know how much space is enough? I'm hearing you say you don't reach out and wondering when it's been enough time and when it's gotten to the point of being too late?

Hi im also a leo girl. My question is. Do aqua guys wants space after a fight? I miss my guy so badly but im scared to reach out first. We ended our argument really bad. Please help me. I need to know if i should make the first move or not.