here we go again

Hey guys its been awhile but i have drama going on again but with a different aquarius friend.................I had been dating an older aquarius man 42 ( he has two kids his wife passed away from cancer 5 years ago) anyway I was away for a month for a new job came home once in between the 4 weeks and when i got back last friday out of no where he said that he didn't feel the same for me anymore and he didn't know why. I was just floored because he and I have talked everyday for the last 5 months and just bamn. I got along great with his kids and I never even had an arguement with him. I will say that he still has alot of pictures of his wife in the house and i am starting to think that he really hasn't moved on from her. Even up to two weeks ago he told me he missed me and when I came home for a couple of days from training it was all gravy. He has been having some problems in the bedroom(getting aroused) but he is saying that the fact that he is having problems there just shows him that something is missing with us and that romantically we don't work. I told him that , that was not my issue but his and that I felt his was just making up excuses. I just feel like he is doing everything to push me away and he swears there is no one else. I tried to talk to him on sunday when he called and it seems for what every reason he has made his mind up even though his reasons make no sense. Its just wierd because it just doesn't add up......

he got involved with someone else...

i agree with HP...he prob. is interested in another female. that is what happened when my aqua left me out of nowhere...no explanation and completely out of the blue...just left.

How did you find out moonchild ?

The signs are there:

1-You left for a month. When the cat's away, the mouse will play.
2-You and have talked everyday over the course of 5 days. He needed something to fill that void while you were away.
3-Problems in the bedroom. If they weren't there a month ago and they're suddenly there now, chances are he found someone else to arouse him in your absence.

Bottom line, if the guy is going to tell you that he no longer feels the same for you and can't pinpoint it, then i say move on. he won't give you a reason despite asking for one...that's a sign itself.

there were signs sexually a month ago

How did you find out moonchild ?

-well, the first thing i asked him when he told me that he just wasn't feeling it anymore out of the blue, was "who is the other girl?". and he said there was no other girl...but i just knew. so, then i found out through a friend that he was with this other girl. she saw the two of them out one night and she told me how they were making out and all over each other...ugh, it really sucked to hear all of that.

yeah, if a guy says he doesn't feel the same way anymore and he has no explanation or reason for it...99% of the time there is prob. another woman.

Or, the guy doesn't respond and ignore you. That can be so infuriating. Instead of being a man, some men chicken out and act immature. This guy seems confused and not worth the time in trying to figure him out. You will drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out. No reason to let him have so much of your time. Leave him be.

no primegen, different guy . It just totally caught me off guard like i said I had know idea he was feeling like it wasn't going to work out. I came home went to see him and one minute we are wrestling in his living room being silly and the next minute he is telling me he doesn't feel the same way about me anymore.

its just so wierd that you see someone every weekend and talk everyday for 5 months and they just cut you off cold turkey. when he first told me I was shock and I tried to leave his house but he came running out in his underware outside begging me to come back in. Then we spoke the next day and he said that he doesn't feel the same and that the fact that sexually he has been having problems must me mean we are not clicking and I told him that it just seemed like he was using excuses to push me away. So I didn't call him for 5 days and then I reached out and we talked and I can tell he has made up his mind and there was nothing i could say.

another woman...

UC...yes, it is my aqua bf that did that to me, but that happened over a year ago...and then we got back together last Sept. and NOW everything is going REALLY well between us...except the fact that we live 3000 miles away from each other. but, we are in the process of figuring all of that out!!!

I haven't tried to contact him, but its hard especially when you talk to someone everday for the last 5 months and then nothing

also, we were never exculsive but both agreed that we were not interested or seeing anybody else. So when I asked him if it was a new love or an old love he said that if he wanted to see someone else he could have because we were never exculsive and if that was the case he would have been dating other people all along and just not have started now or while I was away .

UC, i did ask what was wrong and he said he didn't feel the same for me and he didn't know why. He said that he keeps asking himself what is wrong and why wouldn't he want someone like me because he has verbalized that he thinks I am amazing but that within itself just confuses me more. He said that he wanted to think about things and was suppose to call me Wednesday and he hasn't called yet. I feel like he has really decided to walk away for whatever reason and there is nothing I can do. He would only say the things that I said did make sense but that something was missing with us.

Crushbuddy...give him some time to think everything over. just go on with your life and do what you would do without him around...and i am sure he will come back around. just do not push him or demand answers from him. he may not know right now what he truly wants, so give him some time to figure that out. he will respect you for that, and in the end he may realize that he is ready to be with someone like you!

I know your right about the independence thing, just feels pretty awful inside...

"if he indeeds really loves you and all that he will miss you and figure it out on his own thats how they are (Aqua men)"

-yep, this is the truth!!! this is exactly how they are... you have to just let them be.

thanks for all the advice.....