Here we go again

More issues for the Aqua?s.

Start from the beginning ?
Last week: Aqua boy was being all nice ? not getting drunk, picking me & my GF up & dropping us all off then picking me & my drunk friend up at 4 in the morn, pampering me etc. I got paranoid & thought he was cheating on me. Read ?why is Aqua man being soooo nice?

Last weekend ? Friday night ? Aqua boy goes to Footy (Rugby) with my best friends bf & his mate ? they get totally obliterated ? I was supposed to go too but saving $ $ & he said it was a boys night out ? cool with me & I said would pick him up from the Train station if he needed. I get call from male Aqua friend saying come over but being the good gf that I am I stay home & fall asleep in my work clothes (also having issues cause I think this Aqua friend wants more) ? 12ish I get textie from bf saying I love u so much feels like ur inside me! Then get call from best mates bf totally trashed & telling me they are at some Dutch girls party that they just met (meanwhile he is putting me on the phone to random people slurring at me) ? then bf gets on the phone starts proclaiming his undying lurv & says he could have anyone of these Dutch girls but he doesn?t even want to ( I didn?t ask him for any of this information and am still half asleep) he says they are going to catch a late train & can I pick them up ? fine I go back to sleep & wait till they call me to pick them up. 2am I get drunken phone call from best friends bf again putting me onto random people spouting profanities to me. My bf?s in completely incoherent by this time. 2:30 Bf?s friend calls saying he is kicking my bf & he won?t wake up & they are almost at the train station can I came get them. I get to the train station & can?t find them as my bf is on the other side throwing up ? I drive them to the nearest pit stop to get water & food for them- we get home & he asks me for a shag I decline due to it being that time of month. His phone rings & I go to hand it to him he it?s a random name that I have never heard of ? His mate says its one of the Dutch girls ? Lovely! I am not too impressed by this stage but let him off the hook as he is always making friends and am way too tired to be remotely jealous ? I go outside & they seam to think I can?t hear them as they are plastered & start talking (boy talk about females ? ewww) and then he says I am moving out soon ? Pisces & I are moving in together ? his friend says don?t do it will be the end of everything, It will ruin you (he didn?t say anything to bad about me thou) Aqua boy says ? I love her ? I want to be with her and other very nice things ? we go to bed.
Next day I go to work ? He goes to beach come into work says hey ? was going to play squash but after primo said it was boring I didn?t go ? JK ? no I decided to go visit family as my dad was recently rushed to hospital ? he calls & says he & others are at tavern & to come down when ready ? after seeing family was stressed out ? Court hearings & finding out any stress could cause my Dad a stoke as well as finding out my 11 year old sis is anorexic along with my car almost carcking it on the way there left me a little wired so when I got to my bfs place (they all went back there) I wasn?t in the best state & then there were a whole bunch of people whom I didn?t know all over the place getting trashed ? I was still ok & chatty ? after a bottle of champers was better! Bf says whats wrong so I tell about the family & problems but he listens for about 2 minutes & goes back to getting drunk & running a muck. No problem I didn?t expect him to take too much interest so I go talk to female friend ? much better. He says he?s going to bottle shop & will be back soon cause wants to take me upstairs to chat. I go to pool to chat with others & go back every now & then to see if bf back yet ? after 45 minutes I wonder where bf has gotten to so go to check ? no one there & I am about to walk off when notice gate connecting to neighbor

This is way personal

Yes I am - Really feel allot better now! Yup he is sober allot. yup he is lovely & perfect allot of the time but when he is a ahole he is a real ahole and doesn't realise what he is doing is nasty - or he does but can't stop doing it? I know he is thinking about this allot - I hope I didn't make him close up by my actions but I really wanted to walk away

Still with him. I am going to stick around. Am not going to be around him while he is drunk thou. I am in love with him & thats pretty hard to walk away from. He doesn't want to drink anymore cause he knows what he is like but thats going to take time & I believe him (for now). 🙂 I just need some time out I think

Thanks Gemi!! For reading it 🙂 I am sure all will be good - He has a hot arse so at least thats something!

Primegen - I like it odd & wouldn't have it any other way - I said the above cause it was on my mind but it isn't what happens everyday & we see see each other just about every day. That bit is quite mundane and habitual (Food shopping & washing). Allot of people are jealous (would u believe it) of the relationship we have because most of the time its beautiful. We seam to be in sync 9 out of 10 times & almost never argue because we both like learning (I learn allot off him & he amuses me even if he thinks I don't know what Im on about & I do the same with him 🙂)I give him his space naturally & he does the same with me. We have the best conversastions & enjoy each others company more than most others - rarely a silent moment unless one or the other is thinking & if there is I don't seam to notice. We are both totally attracted to each other as well which isnt everything but it does help.

Anyway - I get over things really quickly - I am totally over that now that its off my chest 🙂 This board is good cause I don't like talking to my friends about domestic issues - By the way thanks very much for your input prime - it has been satisfactory ;0

they wouldn't do a winky 😉

yeah like others have said good luck.. sounds like you have somthing really good there...

a relationship is never gonig to be 100% bliss and ya other half will always have/do little things that annoy you...

Being aquarius myself and being very open minded about relationships and life in general and also having drank way too much in the past and acted irrationally, over-reacted, drama-queened! and gotten into "situations beyond belief:-)!!", still your relationship story doesn't "sit well" with me for one some reason or another Pisces - perhaps it the one line you say "3. I don?t like the person I have become because of him......." - if this is the case, then it's not the scenario that's gonna cement your relationship......one minute he's out clubbing, chattin' up the chicks.etc....next on bended knee asking to marry you!!!....it's all too unpredictable and extremist - and you're talking to Ms. Extremes here herself!!!! Don't want to burst your bubble or nout.....jut a few alarms bells sounding in my own head for you!!!

Alana x

seems very strange to me... is this guy doing more than just drinking, perhaps dabbling in drugs? his behavior seems very odd, but maybe it's just me...

i personally wouldn't except behavior like his. it is one thing to flirt with girls, and it's another to dry hump another girl in front of you. not my style ! i would say bye-bye...

When I met him I sort of had an idea he was like this - I said I was prepared to take him the way he is because he is perfect in every other way & I don't judge people. I am seeing this as a bump in the road - Its something he can change & to be honest he does most of it out of habit & pure drunken stupidity (he barely remembers what he got up to) Which is fucked I know. Last night he said I won't talk to another girl again because It hurt u & He told me he knew the night was a waste & he was stupid. He said its f**cked cause every other time he was with a girl & they thought he was cheating he was but this time he is not doing anything & he can't prove that - He said hes just a flirt - He said I don't need to think hes cheating or get jealous - I told him I don't get jealous - I just hate cheaters & liars - u can watch a thief but u can't trust a liar. I hate it because my whole life I have seen it ruin so many good things. He said he is more worried about me because I am asking him about this stuff & it makes him think I am doing something - I told him not to put it back on me. He asked me if I was going to leave him & I said no - He said as long as you love me I am never going to sleep with anyone else because I don't want to.

I guess all I can do is wait till the next time - He has 3 strikes then he is out!

Yeah I am realy used to people changing on me - he probably gets bummed cause he doesn't get more of a reaction out of me when he stirs things up 🙂I hope I never totally figure him out cause I will get bored! I hate it when people think they have me figured - OFA Ta man always a pleasure 🙂 I go by his actions not words - words dont carry much for me.

Its not my place to 'adjust' him primegen - discribe beliefs? I do want to know thou how to help or maybe just suggest things to him -

hi pisces

Hey Elly - Watchya doin? Hey do u know anything about putting babies to sleep?

lol! yes it used to be my job, how old is it?

Oh this is great! He is almost 5 months & a total terror! Little Sag. He won't stop eating either - It takes around 2 hours for him to doze off even when he is dead tired He just keeps looking around. He is a very active little boy!

is he yours? if they keep looking round usually they r getting tired! just hold him, the trick i always used was to pretend to sleep too- either that sing softly)! or add some vodka to his milk(Joke!!!0

Can I have a chat with u tomorrow on this one elly? I have get some of this work done & then race of to bf cause he split his head open 😢 Ps - Nooo!! Not my baby - Friends baby & she is at her wits end! Hasn't slept in weeks & is looking like a crazy women at the mo!

OFA - I am sooooooooo hung over right now - reading hurts - sitting upright hurts too
😢 last night my boy said I don't think you are in love with me & never have been & I said I am completely in love with you but I don't say things the way I want to beacause I tell everyone I love them - the word is cheapened & how can I put everything I feel for him into one word - I would rather show him how I love him & he said what does love mean to you & he discribed what love ment to him which was beautiful xx & I said I think love means Time, friendship, the way I always think of you even when I don't want to & the way my heart goes boom boom whenever you are near.
I said some cruel things last night thou (damn alcohol) - words I wish I could take back 😢

'but men do need to hear things more than women (or so ive heard) they tend to need more reassurement than we do'

I didn't know that! He is soooooooo stuborn but so am I - I said sorry this morning & He was shocked - Ha - Think I may have some Virgo in me. Need a hug & some steak with mushroom sauces

Ahhhh Primegen u are not supposed to be here!!!

Arrrrarragggg - I know I know! This is so bad Primegen. The thing is I was invited to a friends work dinner (at that Varsity place I was telling you about near bond Uni) I only invited him to come because I felt bad because he always invites me wherever he goes. My friend picked me up & she was going to drop me off at home at a reasonable hour but he came with a friend of his (who was on the prowl mind you) & they started getting trashed even thou he drove & was supposed to drive home - I thought we would be safe not to get drunk because of this - he decided (after dinner had finished)that him a couple of the guys were going to go to the Uni bar & thats when it went downhill - I was with some girl I just met at the dinner & she kept getting me wine (I just can't say no)- Um UM Ummm really truely I swear this was not my fault at all!

pisces...
that's interesting b/c i have been with my aqua bf for 2 yrs, and he still questions my love for him all the time...which i find to be crazy!!! but i think OFA is right about the constant reassurance that some men need. he is one of those men. he LOVES it when i feed his ego.

but on the flip side, he doesn't tell me he loves me all the time, but he definitely shows me more in his actions that he loves me. when he does tell me he loves me, it really means something. it really does come from his heart, b/c he will deeply tell me, rather than just randomly through the words out there.

Whats going on there OFA! Just talking ey.

moonchild - I think my compliments to him sound insincere when I really mean it -
Everything is fine now with him & I. He had a few drinks with his boss & was going to bring some over for me & I said NO - said I didn't want to drink for awhile or at least not get trashed - Need to learn some self control & only have a few - Nothing better than being able to enjoy ur weekend without spending half of it in bed nursing a hangova - such a waste.

He was asking why his bosses always seam to take a liking to him & I said its an Aqua thing - This is right isn't it with Aqua's?