I hate being an Aquarius

All I want is a girlfriend. Are we unnatractive? Am I meeting the wrong people? Or is it just me? That's why I hate being an Aquarius. Please tell me why am I pathetic, when I'm a decent guy? I am shy, why can't girls take the first move?

Kris it has nothing to do with race you freaking idiot!

Like you are good looking? I lok better than you!

Good Lord Prime you are jaded.

Define decent.

Blazin

You are too young to worry about it. But for future reference, confidence and intelligence and knowing how to dress are the ways to attract women.

Oh, please don't hate being an Aquarius. It's one of, or even maybe the most unique zodiac sign at least in my opinion. I'm an Aquarian also. Aquarians are unique types of people and I have a feeling we like that. We are unpredictable but yet friendly. It's not always easy for people to understand us but that's okay. Most of the time we're so busy with our activites we don't take notice.

I see you are only 16. You still have a lot of living to do. Girls are shy (yes, I am a girl) too so it's not always easy for them to take the initative first either. Trust me, when you meet a girl you really like some of the shyness will die down and you'll go after her. Maybe you just haven't met someone who you're really interested in. Love works in mysterious ways. Don't worry. You'll have a girlfriend when the time is right. Don't rush now.

Oh, be proud to be an Aquarius. It's a great sign to be apart of.

Mystical

Okay thanks,
dressing and intelligence? how can you show a girl your intelligence if they are so complicated?

Security? I believe a girl should feel secure by nature, because who would harm a girl? (unless they are outa their mind) Because of those "out their mind" people, some of us want to be that perfect guy any girl would look for.

So men are expected to be desperate?...That's the point of this hate message...

Since I'm so young how the heck do I get out of America, also considering that I do not know another language. I did have an ex from Canada but it was too far. I'm guessing she killed herself, but don't ask why, personal reasons... Long distance does not work.

Thank you Mystical

You are very welcome. We help each other out here. You know us Aquarians are a friendly bunch. Sometimes we're quirky and can come across as far out but we are always willing to help. It's part of our charm.

Mystical

Being an Aqua has nothing to do with not getting women. It's your outlook on things.

First, having a woman is not priority. It's a nice thing, but it isn't what makes the world go around. Your at an age where you need to figure out who you are first. Women will come in time. Learn who you are and that will give you the confidence to get the girl.

Just remember there is a fine line between Confident and Cocky and Cocky will get you nowhere with anyone worth having.

Second, Not all women are worth having. Same goes for us. Not all men are worth having either.

That goes for women in any country Primegen.

Third, Do you even know what you want in a woman? Yeah we women make list of what we want in men. I see nothing wrong with that as long as what you want is reasonable. Why not do that yourself and give yourself a set of standards to go by.

Bottom line is quit worrying about what you don't have and work on ways to learn what you really want first. It will start to fall in place after that.

* flips through Vogue *

Is misogyny the new black?

primegen
Money Money Money $ $ $ I hate it when people think that

But I don't want to leave America because people who understand me are in America.

Thanks Mamma Roz,
I don't know myself I understand that
No one's perfect...
I try not to make myself stick to one kind of woman, because then when I find the right one I'd be more confused when I didn't know what I wanted. (I'm up for anything)

*sigh*

you should try to dress well ... in cuts/ style s that suit you ... because it gives the impression that you care about yourself, the way you look, and present yourself to the world. It also gives you an edge over the competition. But it really says that you care about yourself.

Socialize. I wish I had this advice when I was young but talk to strangers, go to social events, and become aware of social norms. Learn how to fit in with people ... study how to relate to people, how to make conversation, study body language, go to parties, learn people. This will help you not only in your love life, but again across the whole spectrum of life.

This probably won't help you now, but you will thank me later. Be intelligent, do well in school. More women hold post-graduate degrees then men. They are also entering the professions in higher numbers than men because they out perform them academically. Women want a man who is as intelligent as they are. Plus, it is important for YOU to do well in school because you want to do well in life. Now is the time to do it.

All these things will bring you confidence. They will help you gain pride in yourself. Confidence is the single most attractive quality on the planet.

The difference between you and the guy getting all the girls is this one thing. They have the confidence and belief in themselves.

Be the best, expect the best, and you will have the best.

🙂

Primegen, you must have been hurt pretty bad by an american woman to have such a jaded view. We are not all that bad.

Blazin, take your time and you will find what you want.

Hedonism beats hate and hostility any day.

*** liking for a bit of a snazzy dresser, secretly or not

We do! It means you take pride in yourself and your presentation. Some men don't understand how important looking good is.

Taste in music can be important as well.

Be like Bling.

I have a feeling he does very well with the ladies.

Thank you all, I see I have no self confidence... I believed I was too cocky before and no one liked me, and now I'm to scared to even talk to a girl. It's all confusing...

clothes, confidence, money, smart, could there be anything more? except that girls don't believe in Love...

I want a girl who believes in Love, and the girls I find, who understand me, but because they are broken by Love they turn out to hate Love. I'm trying to find an easy solution when it's impossible that True Love does not exist young... and to find such a girl you'd have to pray to God because they don't exist either.

Thank you all, except Kris lol. pimple cream? who the **** said pimple cream?

My friend eric has pimples all over his face, but he still got a girl. It has nothing to do with looks I know that much! They only broke up because his girl thought he was cheating on him. Do all girls think the same? Not all men are like that. They could think about cheating, but won't end up cheating if they are a decent man.

*I probably sound a bit cynical...but i think kris and blazingedge are the same person....the ip's look end the same...only one number,I know...but cynicy cynicy....
-HAHAHAHhhahahahahaHAHAHAHAHAHHahahahahAHAHAHA

-Sparrow's advice is good...Blazin, what kind of kid are you? Are in band? (not in a band, but in BAND) Do u play alot of computer games and get all nervous around girls? Do u smell? alot of kids your age are a bit clueless on somethings...they take time...I know its a tough time with all the hormones and whatever but you'll be ok...just stay in school and keep out of trouble ok Kris?...I mean Blazin....

Kris is my friend at school 😛 I just went on here to bug him

["I probably sound a bit cynical...but i think kris and blazingedge are the same person....the ip's look end the same...only one number,I know...but cynicy cynicy...."


Yeah, I thought of that, but I don't care, I want to get to my goal of the number of posts I have. If he wants to help me by posting as two people, fine by me.]


as I said he's a indian friend at school, he's a Leo bugging Aquariuses, get outa the Aqua world Leo you'll never understand it! last post by me, BTW thankyou for all the advice, except Kris! Seriously thankyou!

Primigen
I rather not stick here for years, I rather go out and get me girlfriend lol, I just didn't know why it's so hard...

*** Blaze, here is a typical tactic, the idea is to shame you into silence. Women use this all the time.

Yes Prime. You have caught on. It is a big global conspiracy to "shame" you into silence. @@

Hate towards anyone is shameful.

Primegen, calm down. You have made your point and we have all made ours. If we were all men here I'd say whip it out so we can all measure it and be done with this pissing contest about how bad women and men are.

Hold on I have to flip through my big book of shaming tactics to find the answer. Women are given this book upon birth you know. 😉

I never claimed shaming was bad. I think the notion that women are shaming you into silence so "the truth of what they are about" is stupid. Speed Seduction and Doc Love nonsense.

Hatred is shameful regardless of who it is directed at women, men, children, immigrants, etc. The only thing I hate is intolerance towards others.

You aren't uplifting me to anything I do not already know. I realize the paradox of my statement Prime. I am intolerant of intolerance hence I become intolerant.

I am not a Saint and have not yet mastered the ability to walk away from intolerance and ignorance. I find they are usually bedfellows. Where one is, the other stands to follow.

BTW we weren't trying to shame you by saying you were jaded. Just as men do not like man-haters and man-bashers ... neither do women. You cannot attract what you hate. (You being a general you not a specific you.)

*** ane expression of your wanting to snuff out the ability of others to express themselves

or is it to open up a dialogue about the subject and find the truth? Depends on which side of the fence you sit on.

What damage I am doing?

*** Actually you can attract what you hate. If I follow your reasoning, I'm sure all women hate to experience rape, yet it happens. So are they all lying? Of course not, so you can attract what you hate and fear.

This is flawed logic as it is not relative to the discussion since this is about hatred you project towards others and how they respond to it. (You being general.)

But, I am rethinking my can you attract what you hate stance. Hate is equal to love as you can only hate what you love and value .... hmmmm .... plus ... hate is an energy ... I need to run out for a bit. This is an intresting point. Let me think on this.

You know some women just really don't need men, full stop, they don't want men for their money as it gets thrown back in their face. They don't need men for love, because they can do it themselves or through others without the guilt trip. If they get a chance to see a window of independence they will really quite like it. I say give it a go, get a nice bottle of wine it gives the same effect without............The whining. Thank you.

*Since I have started my no dating, women just say "oh, so you're gay!" Shaming tactic.

-there are some women out there that will actually like and want to be with you, for you (you general, not specific you...that sounds funny)

*If it wasn't for kids, men wouldn't need women at all. I'm actually very curious what will happen when the artifical womb is perfected.
-do u really want that to happen?....

Ahhahaha - u lot sound like a bunch angry people - this is funny!! Men need women & women need men - lets all love each other shall we!

*Pisces
-we don't really NEED eachother, at least not anymore....but we do tend to want to be together, unless someone gets hurt and the bitterness begins to build walls and yadda yadda yadda...

What is a need?

Definitions of need on the Web:

a condition requiring relief; "she satisfied his need for affection"; "God has no need of men to accomplish His work"; "there is a demand for jobs"
anything that is necessary but lacking; "he had sufficient means to meet his simple needs"; "I tried to supply his wants"
necessitate: require as useful, just, or proper; "It takes nerve to do what she did"; "success usually requires hard work"; "This job asks a lot of patience and skill"; "This position demands a lot of personal sacrifice"; "This dinner calls for a spectacular dessert"; "This intervention does not postulate a patient's consent"
motivation: the psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal; the reason for the action; that which gives purpose and direction to behavior; "we did not understand his motivation"; "he acted with the best of motives"
want: have need of; "This piano wants the attention of a competent tuner"
indigence: a state of extreme poverty or destitution; "their indigence appalled him"; "a general state of need exists among the homeless"
have or feel a need for; "always needing friends and money"

Hummm can anyone define Need vs want

Don't get mad at me cause you used flawed logic. lol!

BTW you are trying to use shame to silence everyone else. 😉

*Single guys can buy some eggs from Romania at 1/5 the cost of the US eggs and have a family, no divorce, no taking of kids, etc... I know a lot of guys who would go that route.
-dude i would hate to be a single parent (no offense to those out there) i mean not on PURPOSE! i could understand if a relationship doesn't work out and BOOM i'm a single dad, but tooo actually go out of my way and get some Romanian eggs and do it my self....its just waaaay toooo wierd for me...

what about prenup?

**** No, I am stating my position, like I said already, I don't care if you like it or not, I haven't stopped you from stating yours by calling you a cookiemonster or a bleep or anything else. Nice double standard there you got going, when you practice what you preach I'll take you serious.

How is that any different from what I am doing? What double standards? Where?

I am not even annoyed let alone angry if that is what you are hinting at.

Little Sparrow how are you darling? how are the cats?

Me good! Cats zero! lol!

*In a rare optimistic moment here
-no kidding...

*In a rare optimistic moment here
-no kidding...

lmao!

Sparrow did you see the Island thread on this board? BTW i like how you guys have hockey printed on your money, i'm trying to petition the OUR govt. to put Mcdonald's on our $ 1 or at least a Starbucks on our $ 5...we'll see how that works out....

Prime are you getting upset?

Well I am sorry I called you jaded. I didn't realize it would get you so upset. (to be honest, I don't find it that offensive.) You can call me any name you like. We can even do an IOU ... you can creep up on me and call me a terrible name when I least expect it!

I hope you dig out a good one.

Prime

Being called jaded is not being called a name, but if you want to use this logic.

Go back and read all the hatred you spewed about women. You called women name after name after name.

You are splitting hairs and arguing semantics.

this was very interesting to watch.....going running....you ladies be nice to Prime!!

Gonig back to the origional post... i know what the guy is feeling.. hell im 25 and still find it hard to chat to random women lol.. i really gotta know them first.. im just too bloody shy for my own good lol and too nice..... nice guys finish last 🙂

*** hell im 25 and still find it hard to chat to random women lol

Okay this is what you need to work on. You need to go up to women and chat with them. Do it over and over and over again. Make a game of it. Don't want there number ... just talk to them till you are comfortable. Talk and Flirt get comfortable with women.

Find out where they are and go there.

Remember women are easy! Most of my friends are very grateful I was not born a man. 🙂 If I can pick straight girls up, so can you! lol!

You see the secret is every woman wants to be seduced. Seduction is about power. Not necessarily power over the other person .... power over yourself. If you want women lying down at your feet ... as long as you dress half decent (starts with your shoes!) it does NOT matter what you look like. Leonard Cohen is not an physically attractive man yet the man reaks sex appeal because he is in control.

You need to be comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. You need it to pour out of every pore. You need to drip sex, be like sex on water, be fluid and constant. Study every movement you make. Study every word stay everything without actually saying it. Master words. Women love that. Be aggressive, challenge and then pull away and become soft. You have to do the dance. You have to have a bit of danger and unpredictablitity.

Women want to be charmed. Women want to play. Women want to be seduced.

Women's sexuality is more aloof than a mans. It is more sensual. BE seunsual.

Also, be a confident lover. Know how to follow up on the seduction. Men who know what they are doing have confidence.

Seduction is an art. It CAN be learned.

"Sex appeal is 50% what you've got, and 50% what people THINK you've got."

Sparrow you still there? giving life altering advice?

Yes, Little sparrow is very good with giving advice. It's great we have someone like her around.

well ... someone has to help these poor devils out. lol!

I can't help the high school guy cause I was a total dork. Women I get.

🙂

i just want to let you know i'm a fan of yours.....if i was only a little older, had alot more money and in the Toronto area....i would do this seduction dance thing or whatever it is you were talking about...AND i would probably even buy a new pair of shoes before i did it!....