How do Aqua's react after being in the friend zone

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It's hard enough as it is to get an Aqua to chase after someone that actually likes/wants them. But ha! To think an Aqua would chase after someone who doesn't want them is a joke!

We have too much pride for that. 1, the minute someone puts us in "friend" zone, we'll stop communicating/professing our love for that person, especially if we see them as more than a friend. This is where Aquas can become really stubborn, prideful & cautious.

We're the ones who are used to putting people in the "friend" zone when they really want way more from us. We're the 1s who are used to rejecting others and/or having to let someone down easily. We'll be damned if we continue making a fool of ourselves & chasing after someone who doesn't want more than friendship with us.

Even though Aquas prefer long courtship/friendship before offically being with someone, it's NOT b/c we're afraid of commitment. No, it's moreso that we take dating/love VERY seriously. If we believe that keeping things a slow pace so that we can thoroughly get to know someone, will make us winners in the long run, we'll do whatever it takes to acheive that goal, even if the other person doesn't understand that or knocks us for being that way.

Even when we put you in the "friend zone" that does NOT mean that we don't love you or that we've limited you to being just a friend. No, it simply means that we're not ready/sure yet to place you in "relationship" status. Most of the time we will let things get to the ultimate level IF the other person is patient enough. But if someone comes along & tells us that we're just a "Friend" to them, we'll take that literally & pessimistically assume that a "friend" is all we'll ever be, thus we'll stop investing so much time/energy into that person as if they were someone we could see ourselves being with long term
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Posted by itsme03
Say an Aquarius made a move to his female best friend and she only saw him as a brother will he continue to contact her?

What about Aqua females?



He may continue to contact her, if anything just to give her the impression that he's not hurt or phased by her decision to limit him to being "just a friend." That limitation will probably hurt him internally, BUT he wouldn't dare be ok with others knowing so/that.

He may continue to talk to her, BUT I bet he'll put a STOP to all the things he did when there wasn't any limits/boundaries on things. He'll stop doing all the things that people in relationships (or those who are close to being in one) do. He'll LITERALLY start treating you like you're "just a friend."

Aquas will def. back off some. It's hard enough as it is to get us to consistently chase after someone who we really want & whom wants us; it's a pride/ego thing for alot of people (not just Aquas) when it comes to chasing someone in a certain way that they're not willing to chase you.

Aquas may hurt internally & they may question things as a whole if they are randomly placed into the "friend" category, especially if they were under the impression that they were FAR from that. If anything, it'll raise their suspicions about you & possibly even lead them to believe that you've played mind games with them or manipulated them. BAD MOVE! Once an Aqua thinks those things, they were already on their way to placing YOU in the "friend" category too!
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I agree. If I have been trying to romance a certain woman, & her responses make it appear as if we're more than friends, and she magically decides she wants to remain friends I'll honestly be pissed off. I'd feel as if my time invested into this oh so promising & potential relationship, has been WASTED. Don't get me wrong, id be her friend still, but it wouldn't be the same as before. I mean think about it, aquarians have many "friends" but not many confidants..most people want to remain a confidant after breaking THAT kind of news to you which I feel isn't possible when you've lead me on to presume the feelings for each other are mutual, and they clearly have not been.
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In order for me to be happy in the friend zone, I would have initially had to be put there upon meeting the chick. I always let my intentions be known. I just with people knew the meaning of direct honesty! It's not hard! Maybe I need an aqua girl to keep me happy. I'm up late as all hell bored and insomnia rampant. I'm rambling on a msg board with my cell phone. WTF. Anybody wanna pass me some sleeping pills? Or put me to sleep the fun way 🙂
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Posted by LiquidSwordsman
What is a friend to everyone else, is a confidant to an Aquarius. And its just not easy to have that many confidants. IMO, a "friend" is just an associate, which is probably why we refer to a lot of the folks we know as "my friend" and not "my BEST friend".



HA! Is it just me or do you other Aquas notice that alot of people refer to you as your "best friend" while you only refer to them as simply "just friends?"!!!! Alot of people consider me their best friend, & hey I'm honored & all, but I don't necessarily consider all 50 of them my best friends though, nor do I claim they're my best friends to their faces just to make them feel better. I take who I call my best friends very seriously & I won't give just anyone that title unless I genuinely feel that they deserve it. Oh the look on their faces when I DON'T say it back!

I think this is why verbally telling someone your intentions and/or expectations is VERY IMPORTANT. We can't always just go about things with assumptions. Just b/c someone spends all their time with you, sexes you great every night and/or says sweet nothings in your ear all year does NOT mean that they want to be with you. Nowadays, FWB and/or regular "friends" are doing things people in relationships do, with just their regular ole "friends." That's why it's important to verbally hear someone say exactly what it is they want AND expect from you.

If you go into it assuming, you're taking a big risk. Every blue moon, you've gotta ask the other person "where things are going?" People are afraid to ask this question b/c of rejection, but I've learned that if you just ask the RIGHT questions, you'd be surprised at how honest many people are when they're asked straight up/blunt questions.

And if someone sees in in the "friend zone" after 2 years, there's a chance they saw you in that SAME ole zone after the 1st 6 months. But hey, you wouldn't have wasted 2 years of your life had you just asked them exactly which category they put you in.

And this is especially true of commitment phobes. They like to make it a point as EARLY on as possible that commitment is just not their thing! But see, the people who eventually get tangled in webs with these kinds of people usually get tangled b/c they didn't ask the right questions

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What is a friend to everyone else, is a confidant to an Aquarius. And its just not easy to have that many confidants. IMO, a "friend" is just an associate, which is probably why we refer to a lot of the folks we know as "my friend" and not "my BEST friend".

HA! Is it just me or do you other Aquas notice that alot of people refer to you as your "best friend" while you only refer to them as simply "just friends?"!!!! Alot of people consider me their best friend, & hey I'm honored & all, but I don't necessarily consider all 50 of them my best friends though, nor do I claim they're my best friends to their faces just to make them feel better. I take who I call my best friends very seriously & I won't give just anyone that title unless I genuinely feel that they deserve it. Oh the look on their faces when I DON'T say it back! I think this is why verbally telling someone your intentions and/or expectations is VERY IMPORTANT. We can't always just go about things with assumptions. Just b/c someone spends all their time with you, sexes you great every night and/or says sweet nothings in your ear all year does NOT mean that they want to be with you. Nowadays, FWB and/or regular "friends" are doing things people in relationships do, with just their regular ole "friends." That's why it's important to verbally hear someone say exactly what it is they want AND expect from you. If you go into it assuming, you're taking a big risk. Every blue moon, you've gotta ask the other person "where things are going?" People are afraid to ask this question b/c of rejection, but I've learned that if you just ask the RIGHT questions, you'd be surprised at how honest many people are when they're asked straight up/blunt questions. And if someone sees in in the "friend zone" after 2 years, there's a chance they saw you in that SAME ole zone after the 1st 6 months. But hey, you wouldn't have wasted 2 years of your life had you just asked them exactly which category they put you in. And this is especially true of commitment phobes. They like to make it a point as EARLY on as possible that commitment is just not their thing! But see, the people who eventually get tangled in webs with these kinds of people usually get tangled b/c they didn't ask the right questions
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