How do you get a man or woman to want more sex??

This is an interesting question(spurred from another question) so I thought I would create a post for this specific topic.

When two people are in a relationship and one of the persons is asking this above question they are acknowledging that their needs are going unmet. The person you are presently with is letting you know who they are by their actions. If said person has a need/desire to experience a more active sex life then they need to share this desire with the other person - effective and clear communication. The other person can respond and hopefully will respond truthfully his/her needs.

When said persons desires are not being fullfilled they begin to feel like something is missing from the relationship so they try to find ways to change this person (manipulation) instead of accepting him/her for who they are for those needs to be met. Now, what begins here is a relationship based on manipulating to get what one desires/wants/needs. A set up for failure down the road.

For any person to have a healthy relationship - each person must know what it is they need and desire in a relationship and some of these will be non-negotiable. In order to make this list - one must know themselves. The best way to discover this is to be in relationships. You will then know what you like and do not like and will make choices accordingly.

To be in ANY situation where your needs are going unmet says... you are not honoring yourself, you are settling, you may not believe that you deserve better or that better is not out "there." Life will not be a joyous experience for you but rather one of struggle and saddness not to mention one of loneliness. When this situation arises, it is best to acknowledge that your need is not being met and move on - by doing this you are honoring yourself along with the other person.

To be in an unfulled relationship is not about the other person and how to make them "better" for they are perfect as they are. It is about you and why you have chosen to settle for less than what you deserve.

Those who are in heathly relationships ask for what they need (other person in not a mind reader) and because they love, honor and respect their partner, will comply and be glad to do it for they enjoy seeing their partner happy.

I am not sure what the payoff is for those who choose to stay in these unfullfilled relationships and complain about what is not working for them - I personally think that it is you who is not working for you.

I also feel that is this is great when this experience arises in one's life - for this is the BEST opportunity for self growth and empowerment and what an awesome feeling this is to be in control of your own life by the choices that you make coming from the truth of your heart.

Dress up.

Delta

"That is a wonderful gift, Freebird. I hope everyone reads what you've posted and applies the information."

Thank you, p-fe. They can only apply it when they are at a place to understand it. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear."

Till then, they will continue with their lesson 😉 with their "ah-ha" moment soon to be realized.