aqua's libra-ex

hi!

It's been three months since I've started something with "my" aqua.
We have a wonderful time.
Whenever there's a problem, we are both very willing to talk things over.
He's a very honest, to-the-point-type of guy..... So everything is A-OK.
His friends are very important to him, and that's NO PROBLEM at all for me, I like the fact that he's a very social person. But... his ex-girlfriend is also (one of) his best friend(s). She's a libra and she's always very kind to me, but there's something I don't trust about her.. When she was with my aqua-boyfriend, she cheated on him with one of his friends. He was hurt, but he never judged them, so his ex and his friend are still good friends of him. Eventually she broke up with this certain friend too, but on new year's eve (when me and my aqua were a couple) she was fooling around with that guy AGAIN (they didn't get back together though). One of my best friends (a very down to earth-virgo) told me she's very flirtatious with other guys too.
Yesterday she said goodbye and gave my aqua this very strange soft kiss on his cheeck and stared at him and she claims him whenever she's around him (which might be normal since they know each other for years now). I don't want to make a problem out of this, but I'm a bit worried that she might be taking advantage of him. He's very constant and she's a bit variable. I think she appreciates the fact that he's always there for her.. Of course, I have to say.. they were going to meet a week ago, but since I had exams and since he hadn't seen me for a while, he "let her down" because he wanted to spend time with me first.
Now, there's this carnival-happening-thing in our city and she asked me whether I would be present (... uhm NO). So now they're both going and everybody's gonna be SO wasted/drunk.. Brrr, I'm a bit confused and worried here.

Well, you Cancers have fantastic instincts, so perhaps you are right to be worried....

And she did get back with the guy she dumped, so perhaps she'll try to do it with your Aqua, too...

But the only way you can really do damage control is simply to ask your Aqua if he would ever consider dating her again....

If you can get him to swear he won't, I would then feel secure because Aquas do keep their promises.

On the other hand, it's going to mean revealing vulnerability on your part...so you are going to have to figure how that will play out.

don't sweat it. friends are friends. he put you first, not her.

he won't appreciate it if you get jealous.

Txs for the replies!

Uhm, when we got together he told me about her straightaway. Without me even saying a word, he reassured me that they were just friends and that he would never consider getting back with her. I guess he wanted to make sure I wouldn't be thinking the opposite.. Nevertheless.. she really counts on him. E.g. whenever her love life is on a downfall she likes to talk things through with him, which I think is very normal since they know eachother for years now. I just fear that she starts to realise that she dumped a wonderful man and that she wants to profit from her "best-friend"-status to get what she wants.

I don't like nagging his ears off and I guess I won't tell him about it because I'm so gonna be the loser anyway =D I like the advise you guys give me. It helps to put things in perspective!
Besides she IS a lovely girl, but even the lovely girls like things to go their way 😉

but there's something I don't trust about her.."""

I think that aquas can have a bad thing about hanging on to unhealthy friendships...they love and cherish their friendships no matter how manipulative or distant they are...just been my observation...

...you cant tell them that though

I won't 🙂

I think that aquas can have a bad thing about hanging on to unhealthy friendships...they love and cherish their friendships no matter how manipulative or distant they are...just been my observation...

--> very trough in my opinion too!

Today we're meant to spend the evening together - me, him and her. She's coming with aqua and me because me and her are still studying and we live in the same city. Yesterday he sent me a message that before he comes to me, he'll go to her place first because she needed to talk to him about her ex-lover.. Hmm, that's fine by me but.. well.. I don't know. They broke up a month ago.. I feel like being a total bitch about it all but hey.. where does it end?? 😄 😉

You need to trust what he said to you -- that he would never consider dating her. Because if you can't trust his word, then you have nothing.

I think it was good that he reassured you. But now it's your turn. Trust!

Yesterday she said goodbye and gave my aqua this very strange soft kiss on his cheeck and stared at him and she claims him whenever she's around him (which might be normal since they know each other for years now).

OH NO!!! I'm a libra and I'm not down with anyone kissing my man anywhere...ya betta get a hold of this and now... =C

very strange soft kiss on his cheeck

No....no ... no and no x 1000000000

*shakes head

Ok 2 reasons why you should go to him immediately and tell him you don't like that

1. He is your man... no other girl should be kissing him >
2. Also, Libra women are incredibly seductive...and its all natural. Yes, he may not go back..but how can resist libras charms.. they are overpowering. I have used this tactic in the past just to get what I want and it works everytime..I've never been told no.
3. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG with claiming your territory...really. Tell her you think she needs to consider that this man is in a relationship with you and she had her chance and completely blew it out of the water.

Sorry..but I think this kinda of stuff needs to be put to a stop quick like. Don't act like it doesnt bother you...because it does. This would make me completely go through the roof. I'm not sure about auqa men..but if it was me I would tell him how you feel and now. But you don't seem as mad as I would be..so in a way thats good. =D