How do you know if you've hurt an aquarius

I've been dating this aquarius for five months, he was very kind and friendly,very intelligent...enjoyed his company..I'm 23 i'm a cancer btw ..he's 34...the first older man i've talken to..i did some nice things for his birthday...after one night we were out we had fun,then he disappeared for about a week so i got upset because he made plans to be with me on his birthday....so i figured i shouldn't call him on his birthday...so GUESS WHAT!! he called me on his birthday talking about "How are you not going to call me on my birthday" my reply was how are you not going to call me in a week? and he said he didn't know it was that long..so i bought him somethings for his birthday and he promised to do special things for me come valentines day....he wanted me to sleep over and i told him don't want to because i'm not ready and he said he respect it...bam disappeared for 3 days the night before valentines day he called me and told me he can't wait to show me what he did for me on valentines day and how i would actually believe he care about me..then he asked me to please stay the night..i told him let me think on it...valentines day i told him i was going to call when i'm ready and he said okay...i called him and texted him NO ANSWER!! so time goes by...i get hurt and i text him NVM..so he disappeared for three days..i had called him he started studdering,and told me believe it or not he wanted to spend vday with only me and it was bad timing and when get got my text saying "nvm" he just let it go....but if he would've called no matter the time i would've changed my mind!!...so he told me he's going to come over and talk to me...he bought me flowers and he did he told me i looked sad and he wants me to say how i feel...i just told him after that night had me a little off..he said "why would i do you wrong,i've listen to how you told me what these other guys done to you,open your eyes" we were just talking like we normally do,joking around being playful his cell phone rings it's like 12 am it's a woman asking him to take her to the store so i asked him who was that he said he was hacking in other words (taxi)i said thats weird it's like 12 am who wants to go to the store this late,and he asked me do i believe him i said idk....and he said "you know what i understand ,you have to earn a person trust....then he said kiss me if you trust me ...idk i couldn't i just couldn't as much as i wanted to...we were good...before he left he kissed me and i kissed him back

Then i pulled away...he gave me a confused look..then he left...i haven't heard from him in a couple of days so i called him no answer...then another week goes by this is unusual....i call from another number and his brother answers and told me he'll let him know i called....another week...i called him he didn't answer by right away sent me a text saying " i am busy right now. i will call you back later" i didn't say nothing back but he didn't...so i just gave up....if he was ignoring why even send me a text? i was taking a walk and i seen him drive past he ddn't see me....and he does not get on facebook at all!! he's been getting on there which is weird...idk if he's checking for me or what..i was driving today and seen him driving his motorcyle by my house what the hell? so far it's been a month...and idk what else to do but try to move on..idk if i made him upset or hurt him,but he hurt me...i would like to just talk to him about it i'm very understanding.

Tell him that you need his help in whatever thing you can think of. Check if he reply.

You're not the main women in his life, is what it sounds like to me. My guess is that he's got an interest in someone else but he's keeping you hanging "just in case" the other woman doesn't work out.

I'd give him a wide berth and write him off, you aren't getting anywhere with this guy because you can't even get to talk to him. I don't think he's hurt, I think he just likes to inject himself on you because he likes to feel like you're sitting pining for him and he gets a kick out of you replying.

Stop replying, he's a waster.

yeah thats not really an Aquarius thing. Though we get hurt we say nothing. But to make plans on such a romantic day sounds like he couldnt wiggle out of what he thought he could with someone else.

You coud always tell him that yu wont wait forever but you also wont play games and you know what youre worth. Then tell him when he decides what he wants to call you. Then play it cool take it slow. If he messes up again drop him.

He isn't hurt. You are. Sorry for pointing out the obvious. The guy just enjoyed brainwashing you. You can either move on (after telling him what bothered you or not) or play his own game, get him really curious with peculiar behaviours then disappeared just like he did. The stalker will appear.