how does my aquarius feel about me? (scorpio f)

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- im dating my aquarian man for 2 months now

- we were friends for almost a year before dating because we lived in different countries, but flirted a lot

- since the first day we met ony year ago he's been in touch daily (except a week when i tried to detach from him because I was jealous... i was still nice to him despite my jealousy and he waited for me to come back)

- he's very affectionate and tender, cant get enough hugs and kisses... (me neither)

- he was very shy and slow sexually... but i seduced him without him realizing ;3 he's warmed up now, a bit too much

- he studies my face a lot. he just cups my face and just looks at everything

- he has said he really likes me a lot (i truly like him as well)

- he's protective and won't accept back a sweater he lended me, he wants me to wear something that warms me up and that's his (its practically mine now)

- we have been working on weird projects together as a hobby, he's already planning the next ones

but

- i dont think he has told anyone we're dating... are aquarians so secretive when they care? or is he private because he doesnt see long term?

- sometimes he's cold and unresponsive in text, but when we meet he isnt...he just may end text conversation abruptly or just seem disinterested... even when he initiates. this may happen for 3-4 days per month. why is that? im not clingy, i have a venus in sagittarius and even though i have my sun in scorpio i dont like to smother and be smothered.

- he's even more attentive and on his toes when im aloof and have my scorpio moody days... do aquarians find aloofness sexy or do they get more attentive because of insecurity?

- he doesnt ask many questions about me and seems to think his opinion is more important, are aquas self centered or does he just find me boring/ doesnt respect him? he does remember everything i tell him

thanks!
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he has said he likes me a lot and wants only me and that he feels really invested in me. and that he hasnt met someone like me before. but im so paranoid and distrusting sometimes 😢 i've had people in the past telling me similar things and found out they were liars. i wouldnt tell him that i cant trust him completely because that could hurt him and would sound like an attack. i guess only time will tell.. as i get to know him and feeling secure about his character.

that face staring thing is so incredibly sweet. when we meet and he lights up and laughs out of the blue because he's happy is the best part of my day
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I am neither Aquarius nor Scorpio but I've noticed everything what you've said in an Aqua Scorpio relationship. You likes to be emotionally stimulated even though you say you don't like to smother or to be smothered. Aquarius I think its just the opposite they like to be mentally stimulated all the time and you could expect this disappearing act by them in a relationship, actually they trying to reboot themselves. And this is where all the problems start. As long as you know this in advance and can stand and support his free thinking then you going to be happy ever after with him. Good luck
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dated an aqua for almost 3 years. love-hate relationship. we fought 5 days a week. I can't believed I stayed with him for that long. it's the worst relationship I have had. mine never disappeared. but if i got busy and couldn't spend time with him. he asked other girls out behind my back. im a scorp by the way.
oh my :/ did u fight since the begnning? what held you together for so long?
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Well I'm an Aqua girl so things might be a bit different but we generally mean what we say. So, if we say we like you, then we do. However, I think the problem comes with your emotional needs? We can like, even love a person, but we can never get to the dept of emotion that Scorpios can. We just aren't built that way. That might be part of the problem you're seeing now.
how do you mean depth of emotion? like, in intensity meaning you dont go crazy, or in strength meaning you are fickle?

my emotional need is that of consistency, but thing is he's been consistently seeing me and talking to me. i just cant get enough luv and reassurance, and when i feel he's a bit different a given day i get unsettled. i think im part of the problem too :/ this is why im so confused about whether he really likes me. i dont know if its me being really sensitive. i always think of the worst. i always have a hard time believing that someone likes/loves me.
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I have a hard time taking your OP seriously. I mean you're a water sign so, you would know instinctively if this guy is into you or not.
i know instinctively that your answer irritates me, but logically ill remind you that you forgot to answer my question.
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what are HIS placements and Yours??



it would help to understand.

since this is astrology forum too. not just relationship.
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well i'm going to tell you straightly, if you don't have any air or fire in your chart, it's not going to work.

and if he doesn't have earth/water it won't work either.

and even BEYOND that it is still DEBATABLE.

because even water/water or earth/earth doesn't work either.

so it's really hard for us even to tell. we're just a bunch of strangers who don't know how to tell you what a guy feels about you.

onlyYOU know.
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k it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?

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Well I'm an Aqua girl so things might be a bit different but we generally mean what we say. So, if we say we like you, then we do. However, I think the problem comes with your emotional needs? We can like, even love a person, but we can never get to the dept of emotion that Scorpios can. We just aren't built that way. That might be part of the problem you're seeing now.
how do you mean depth of emotion? like, in intensity meaning you dont go crazy, or in strength meaning you are fickle?

my emotional need is that of consistency, but thing is he's been consistently seeing me and talking to me. i just cant get enough luv and reassurance, and when i feel he's a bit different a given day i get unsettled. i think im part of the problem too :/ this is why im so confused about whether he really likes me. i dont know if its me being really sensitive. i always think of the worst. i always have a hard time believing that someone likes/loves me.
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Posted by Aquagirl2015
I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.

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dated an aqua for almost 3 years. love-hate relationship. we fought 5 days a week. I can't believed I stayed with him for that long. it's the worst relationship I have had. mine never disappeared. but if i got busy and couldn't spend time with him. he asked other girls out behind my back. im a scorp by the way.
oh my :/ did u fight since the begnning? what held you together for so long?
yes, since the beginning because he's very insecure and controlling. i was not even allowed to have lunch with my female roommate or say hi to any male classmates in our class. or he'd throw a tantrum. i think his insecurity also was ther reason why he cheated.

we were classmates and everyone in our program took the same classes, making it harder to completely break up with hiim. also, if i skipped classes after we broke up to avoid him, he always just showed up waiting outside of my apartment. plus he's very good with his words and knew how to manipulate people's emotions. he knew how to guilt trip people and make them believe that he's innocent. he's a natural actor. i could never tell between when he's lying and when he's not.

on the other hand, he tried to create an image that i was the luckiest woman on earth and he's the best bf on earth (a fake image). he liked to publicly displayed his affection, writing me songs, sending me flowers, etc etc. for the world to see. Basically, he wanted everyone to see everything he did for me so that people not knowing the whole story (verbal abuse, emotiona abuse, cheating, etc.) would take his side.
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oh man, that sucks :/

mine is jealous but has never been controlling or telling me what to do. and he'd respect if i wanted to break up (i asked him for space once and even though it hurt him he kept his promise not to talk to me).
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securities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.

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I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.

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I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.


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youre one annoying woman, who keeps painting us in the SAME light.

i'm IN a relationship. You are not are you? so if you're too scared to be in one, that's YOU.

keep the rest of us who are IN relationships out of it.
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Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.


oh, absolutely. id never want to make him feel bad because of his imperfections. especially since he isnt being mean to me :/ thank u for your post, it makes me feel really good. ive been burnt many times in the past by people who wanted to be with me exclusively (not aquas), i hope this one really means it. x
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now you spoke for ALL the aquariuans in the world. *Eye roll* Bye, Felicia.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.

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I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.




youre one annoying woman, who keeps painting us in the SAME light.

i'm IN a relationship. You are not are you? so if you're too scared to be in one, that's YOU.

keep the rest of us who are IN relationships out of it.

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tive vibes! I'm sure it will work out. 🙂

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Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.


oh, absolutely. id never want to make him feel bad because of his imperfections. especially since he isnt being mean to me :/ thank u for your post, it makes me feel really good. ive been burnt many times in the past by people who wanted to be with me exclusively (not aquas), i hope this one really means it. x
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cary! Sorry you had this experience. Don't let it deter you from meeting more Aquas. You just got a rotten apple.

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dated an aqua for almost 3 years. love-hate relationship. we fought 5 days a week. I can't believed I stayed with him for that long. it's the worst relationship I have had. mine never disappeared. but if i got busy and couldn't spend time with him. he asked other girls out behind my back. im a scorp by the way.
oh my :/ did u fight since the begnning? what held you together for so long?
yes, since the beginning because he's very insecure and controlling. i was not even allowed to have lunch with my female roommate or say hi to any male classmates in our class. or he'd throw a tantrum. i think his insecurity also was ther reason why he cheated.

we were classmates and everyone in our program took the same classes, making it harder to completely break up with hiim. also, if i skipped classes after we broke up to avoid him, he always just showed up waiting outside of my apartment. plus he's very good with his words and knew how to manipulate people's emotions. he knew how to guilt trip people and make them believe that he's innocent. he's a natural actor. i could never tell between when he's lying and when he's not.

on the other hand, he tried to create an image that i was the luckiest woman on earth and he's the best bf on earth (a fake image). he liked to publicly displayed his affection, writing me songs, sending me flowers, etc etc. for the world to see. Basically, he wanted everyone to see everything he did for me so that people not knowing the whole story (verbal abuse, emotiona abuse, cheating, etc.) would take his side.
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Posted by Aquagirl2015
Oh! Didn't know you spoke for ALL the aquariuans in the world. *Eye roll* Bye, Felicia.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.




youre one annoying woman, who keeps painting us in the SAME light.

i'm IN a relationship. You are not are you? so if you're too scared to be in one, that's YOU.

keep the rest of us who are IN relationships out of it.


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UH it was YOU who said, "aquas this and aqua that"

excuuuuseeee meeee. what are you, a clone?
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ack and forth with you all day but in true aqua fashion...I don't really care what you think of me. So why waste the energy?

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Oh! Didn't know you spoke for ALL the aquariuans in the world. *Eye roll* Bye, Felicia.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.




youre one annoying woman, who keeps painting us in the SAME light.

i'm IN a relationship. You are not are you? so if you're too scared to be in one, that's YOU.

keep the rest of us who are IN relationships out of it.




UH it was YOU who said, "aquas this and aqua that"

excuuuuseeee meeee. what are you, a clone?

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Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. "



you're the one scared to death of being in a relationship.

no one is that good enough for you. You make a topic, you don't feel good enough, well maybe they are NOT good enough for you.

but honestly i'm IN a relationship so obviously I have someone.

so if youre too damned scared, no one's fault but your own not to WANT a man you desire and be happy in a relationship.

people don't get into a relationship because they are scared they say...well you know WHY they're scared—??



because the OTHER person didn't make it clear that they are loved and wanted. that's why the FEAR.

so if you fear that,that other person didn't give you assurance and RE- assurance and why waste your time with a lame-ass who doesn't give you the time of day much less someone who will spend the rest of your life with them EVERDAY.

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I could go back and forth with you all day but in true aqua fashion...I don't really care what you think of me. So why waste the energy?

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
Oh! Didn't know you spoke for ALL the aquariuans in the world. *Eye roll* Bye, Felicia.

Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Aquagirl2015
Vent your insecurities here or to a friend not to him. If you're a couple then you already have a piece of him. Aquas are scared TO DEATH of getting hurt so we generally avoid relationships. People think we're cold but it's actually not true. We see so many people get hurt so we try to "be smart" by tapping into the emotionally detached aspect of ourselves. I you're a couple-you're golden. By committing to you then that means he already has shown you how he feels.

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Posted by Aquagirl2015
I don't think it's him. I think you are insecure because you're judging what you think you need and not what's actually happening. I often have this same problem- I judge the potential and what could be versus what is.

Don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. Just to confirm- are you in a relationship?
yes, you are quite right. i do think he's very into it and that its still too early... i analyze everything, like everything. so much that i need to stop myself. i dont say what i think out loud unless i ve thought really well about it :/ cos i want to pick my fghts wisely, and i always want to sleep on it.

we are exclusive and a couple, we had that talk very recently.




youre one annoying woman, who keeps painting us in the SAME light.

i'm IN a relationship. You are not are you? so if you're too scared to be in one, that's YOU.

keep the rest of us who are IN relationships out of it.




UH it was YOU who said, "aquas this and aqua that"

excuuuuseeee meeee. what are you, a clone?


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are you with anyone right now??
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Posted by jellyfish87
- im dating my aquarian man for 2 months now but:

A - i dont think he has told anyone we're dating... are aquarians so secretive when they care? or is he private because he doesnt see long term?

B - sometimes he's cold and unresponsive in text, but when we meet he isnt...he just may end text conversation abruptly or just seem disinterested... even when he initiates. this may happen for 3-4 days per month. why is that? im not clingy, i have a venus in sagittarius and even though i have my sun in scorpio i dont like to smother and be smothered.

C - he's even more attentive and on his toes when im aloof and have my scorpio moody days... do aquarians find aloofness sexy or do they get more attentive because of insecurity?

D - he doesnt ask many questions about me and seems to think his opinion is more important, are aquas self centered or does he just find me boring/ doesnt respect him? he does remember everything i tell him

thanks!


I'll tackle this part, Taurus for his moon and Sagi for his Venus? Im an Aqua, the guy I'm dating is a Scorpio Sun/Gem moon. The things I look at the most are:

Male - Sun/Moon/Venus and the houses they sit in.

Female - Sun/Moon/Mars and the houses they sit in.



Scorpios and Aquas are like reflections in the mirror of each other. It's like looking at the image of the other and thinking, "Me, but not me." Like, I find it funny that the Scorpio is noticing how secretive the Aqua is about personal stuff. Pot, Kettle!

A) Aquarians are private period. I have never met an Aquarius, male/female with a water moon or not, that just hangs out their business. Our private happy is not a spectator sport. I get a lot of questions about why I don't talk a lot about the guys I date and the closest I could come to an answer is "Because it's mine." Aqua's are not possessive, but we are territorial, it's a trait we share with Leos.

B) Aquarians are great communicators.....of ideas. If you are looking for more...emotional context from an Aquarian, it isn't going to happen. Especially if the Aqua already has Aqua in Merc, fluffy stuff makes us feel corny and fake. Through text, an Aqua will learn toward sarcasm and humor.

C) So when my Scorpio is not being his usual Scorpie self, I turn into Sherlock Holmes trying to figure out why. Aquas desire to:

Eliminate themselves as the issue, identify the perpetrator of said issue, align the perspective so that all is running smoothly in the Universe. We're simultaneously fascinated by people who swim in emotion and repulsed at the same time.

D) Aquas talk to fill up the space, and have a tendency to pontificate if their Merc is in Aqua or another air sign. I'd would say he's being self-centered, but he DOES remember every detail about you that you've told him. So, I would say he's just being too talky, and this is your cue to intuitively gain yourself more of the conversation without telling him that he talks to much.