Scorp seeking some Aqua advice?

Hey there Aquas!

I know there's been a lot of thoughts expressed on why Scorps and Aquas are not compatible together but I've gone and developed a little bit of a crush on this Aqua dude 😛. I had posted about this earlier but I'm following up now because I wanted some advice on the current situation. So Aquas, can you help me figure out this situation? I've not dealt with an Aqua male before so I'm a little confused.

Ok so let me put out the key points: I've known (okay, he's a senior, we've worked together a few times) this dude for about a year. In the initial phase there was the attraction with me thinking "Oh my! That's an unique person. He seems interesting." but I never really pursued it because he had a girl. Two months ago I found out he had broken up. So we got talking and the conversation was SO formal. He seemed aloof and just polite but I guess that's ok.

After about a month of talking so formally, I started thinking that maybe it's not worth it so my interest sort of started decreasing - I stopped initiating text conversations. Before this we would text almost regularly. So about five days into not texting him he texts me and strikes up a conversation. Halfway through he asks if I have a boyfriend and if I like anyone. I deny it of course. But this time the conversation is light and flirtatious as opposed to being formal. I was leaving for a holiday the next day so I say goodbye.

A week later I get back and text him a picture of a place I'd been to and we get talking again. This time he asks me what my plans are for the future and he even says that he thinks I am awesome and that he considers me his friend now. Mentally I'm thinking "OMG YAY!". Two or three days later we text again and we start off with a normal conversation but he keeps diverting it back to the topic of me having a crush/liking anyone. I deny it. The next time we text our conversation lasts over two days and again, he asks if I have my eye on someone. I say I don't. During this time we end up sitting next to each other at dining hall and he's with his friend. He hardly makes eye contact with me but I know he was listening to what I was saying because as soon as he gets home he texts me in reference to what I said over dinner (that too I was talking to my friend and not to him).

So today he flirts again and asks me if I like having "fun" with a boy or if I would choose someone to date only if I thought they deserved it. When I ask him the same thing he says

Contd.: that at the moment he is not looking for anything and wants to stay away from all this. Uhhhh... then why text the way he has been texting? Things were formal until he started flirting.. so I assumed he had a reason. Was I wrong in my assumption?

Also, um, any insight on the way things are unfolding? Is it good or bad?

P.S. I know, Scorp-Aqua stuff hardly works but please keep in mind we're ultimately two human beings and I do like him. Honest. 🙂

Thanks for reading!

he tried asking if you were into him basically and you said no twice

so now he probably thinks your not into him in a dating type relationship wise and probably thinks you just want to mess around or something

cancer ascendant
aquarius sun
saggitarius moon

Wait... but I thought that Aquas don't like it when you lay emotional stuff on them? :S

So you think I should have told him that I have a thing for him? Really? :/

I'm confused now.

We like information. Never withhold info on something like that. What we don't like is someone making a huuuuuge scene about their feelings. Just be calm, straight forward, and blunt. He's been asking you and you have been avoiding telling him. We take things AT FACE VALUE.

you dont have to say it flat out if you dont want to but just give him hints that you are interested in him

thats not being emotional at all
and like sassafras said, we take things at face value

Thanks! 🙂 I'll keep your advice in mind.

And I do give him hints. I try to, at least 😛

Also, new update:

We don't really talk face to face but three days ago he tried to initiate a conversation in public. 😄 So yay, I guess!

Posted by 18scorpio
Thanks! 🙂 I'll keep your advice in mind.

And I do give him hints. I try to, at least 😛

Also, new update:

We don't really talk face to face but three days ago he tried to initiate a conversation in public. 😄 So yay, I guess!

Aqua males are HORRIBLE about picking up on hints. You need to be more direct with them.

Posted by truecap

Posted by 18scorpio
Thanks! 🙂 I'll keep your advice in mind.

And I do give him hints. I try to, at least 😛

Also, new update:

We don't really talk face to face but three days ago he tried to initiate a conversation in public. 😄 So yay, I guess!

Aqua males are HORRIBLE about picking up on hints. You need to be more direct with them.

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But don't you think it's too early to tell him about my crush? We've been texting for just over a month. I know he flirts with me but he does strongly insist that he likes nobody. What if I tell him and that puts him off? :\

Simple. If you tell him and it puts him off, then you haven't wasted any more time with him and no more having to worry about it.

Okay, if you're too scared to be direct. Next time he asks if you have a crush on someone, say yes. Then describe the physical features of the person (his physical features). That will make him wonder.

*shrugs*

Posted by truecap

Okay, if you're too scared to be direct. Next time he asks if you have a crush on someone, say yes. Then describe the physical features of the person (his physical features). That will make him wonder.

*shrugs*

Thanks! 🙂

Posted by truecap

Posted by 18scorpio
Thanks! 🙂 I'll keep your advice in mind.

And I do give him hints. I try to, at least 😛

Also, new update:

We don't really talk face to face but three days ago he tried to initiate a conversation in public. 😄 So yay, I guess!

Aqua males are HORRIBLE about picking up on hints. You need to be more direct with them.

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i agree with truecap,
we are horrible with picking up hints but at least you could have lead him on instead of a flat out "no"

oh and by him saying he has no interest /crush in anyone

thats his way of guarding his emotions from feeling broken if you didnt say you had an interest in anyone yourself

the fact that he is still messaging you should show you he is interested as an Aquarius

Posted by truecap

Posted by 18scorpio
Thanks! 🙂 I'll keep your advice in mind.

And I do give him hints. I try to, at least 😛

Also, new update:

We don't really talk face to face but three days ago he tried to initiate a conversation in public. 😄 So yay, I guess!

Aqua males are HORRIBLE about picking up on hints. You need to be more direct with them.

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Exactly, unmistakeably AWFUL at picking up on hints. Sometimes, I am too :/

Posted by aquaguy3000
oh and by him saying he has no interest /crush in anyone

thats his way of guarding his emotions from feeling broken if you didnt say you had an interest in anyone yourself

the fact that he is still messaging you should show you he is interested as an Aquarius

Oh really? Wow. I'll remember this the next time he asks me about my crush. THANKS! 🙂

Posted by aquarius78
you should have said, yeah i got my eye on some one: you!
I think thats the response he wanted, and thats the truth, you should have spoke it missy.
Sh*t doesnt come out of the wood work by itsself

Well I was planning to do that... eventually. I'll do it next time we talk about this stuff. 😐

what if the aqua is beating around the bush himself, should we call him out on it?

Posted by aquarius78
you should have said, yeah i got my eye on some one: you!
I think thats the response he wanted, and thats the truth, you should have spoke it missy.
Sh*t doesnt come out of the wood work by itsself

Yep!!

Posted by IAmMystified
what if the aqua is beating around the bush himself, should we call him out on it?

I would. But, then again, I'm a direct capricorn with a capricorn mercury. I don't waste time on BS, just get to the point.

*shrugs*

i agree with that.

This is a bad example but the other day aqua male asked me if I wanted to help him with something. He didn't really the help but he was asking i am assuming because he realized it was an activity i loved doing. Who knows.

So I said "Sure" cause i didn't want to be too excited.

He kept asking if I wanted to do it and I said "I can if you really want me to."

And he just kept asking and asking.

I realized later that he wanted either a yes or no cause he wanted to know if it was stuff i'd be interested in doing in the future as well.

I suck lol.