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How Much Do You Love YOUR Aqaua?!?!?
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Umm jade, posting messages and then hiding them is not very polite!
Umm jade, posting messages and then hiding them is not very polite!
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Umm jade, posting messages and then hiding them is not very polite!
Umm jade, posting messages and then hiding them is not very polite!
It's good to know you love your aqua a lot..
To make a long story short a year and a half ago, everything was fine. We were in love and it seemed as though we were just moving from strength to strength in our relationship.. That was until a few months before she had to go back to Germany and she basically cut me off out of nowhere. I mean up to that point we had been doing some serious making out in public at places where people knew us, different bars where I worked, etc. And I thought it was a big deal especially when it came to aquas and PDA's.
But yeah, basicAlly, I didn't see her for her last three months in the states, then when she left for Germany she didn't say a word. No goodbye, no nothing.
I can't remember ever being so heartbroken as I was at that time, but in the end I am grayefulfor that experience because in the deepest depths of my heartbreak and misery, I was forced to truely find myself and choose a path in life.. I then realized that any path I took had to lead to her, otherwise life is meaningless.
I live for love and she made me aware of that because here we are now.
Since I arrived in Spain, we have been keeping in contact, and I think she is pretty impressed when she realized how much I really love her and the things I was and am willing to do in order to be with her.
To make a long story short a year and a half ago, everything was fine. We were in love and it seemed as though we were just moving from strength to strength in our relationship.. That was until a few months before she had to go back to Germany and she basically cut me off out of nowhere. I mean up to that point we had been doing some serious making out in public at places where people knew us, different bars where I worked, etc. And I thought it was a big deal especially when it came to aquas and PDA's.
But yeah, basicAlly, I didn't see her for her last three months in the states, then when she left for Germany she didn't say a word. No goodbye, no nothing.
I can't remember ever being so heartbroken as I was at that time, but in the end I am grayefulfor that experience because in the deepest depths of my heartbreak and misery, I was forced to truely find myself and choose a path in life.. I then realized that any path I took had to lead to her, otherwise life is meaningless.
I live for love and she made me aware of that because here we are now.
Since I arrived in Spain, we have been keeping in contact, and I think she is pretty impressed when she realized how much I really love her and the things I was and am willing to do in order to be with her.
Okay jade, I should tell you that when she went back to Germany, in my heartbreak and misery, I sent her an email saying that I was giving up on her because she hurt me and wasn't giving me anything. Then we had absolutely no contact for about 6 months.
But when I moved to Spain 7 or so months later, I sent her an email telling her I was in Europe and wanted to go to Germany to see her. I let get know how much she hurt me. She then replied spilling out her feelings about why she left like she did and that was back in December. She left me no doubt that she still loves me.
but now and since then, we just communicate through email. I sent her my my French number when I moved to Paris, but she never called. But she did give my number to a mutual close libra friend of ours who lives in Berlin now, and the libra calls me, but not her.
I went to visit that same libra in Berlin last summer when I came to Europe for three weeks just to visit before I moved here, and in Berlin I saw the aqua's sister and brother who also live in Berlin. So I hung out with her siblings a lot but didn't see her. She lives in cologne which is in west Germany and although she said she wanted to travel to Berlin (east Germany) while I was there, she never did and I haven't seen her for over a year.
And even though we communicate through email, it's not regular contact.. It's sporadic but she makes me know in her emails that she still loves me, but she is studying at university now and I know she is busy with that.
So yeah, it's been only email communication. The funny thing is when we do communicate through emails, she tells our mutual libra friend thAt we are talking again and the libra will tell me, " I spoke to sina the other day and she told me you two are talking again" and I am always like, "talking? It's just emails!"
But yeah, aquas are weird like that.. Especially the third decan ones. They require LOTS of patience and understanding to say the least.. Not to mention HUGE balls..
But I dunno, aquas are weird like that..
But when I moved to Spain 7 or so months later, I sent her an email telling her I was in Europe and wanted to go to Germany to see her. I let get know how much she hurt me. She then replied spilling out her feelings about why she left like she did and that was back in December. She left me no doubt that she still loves me.
but now and since then, we just communicate through email. I sent her my my French number when I moved to Paris, but she never called. But she did give my number to a mutual close libra friend of ours who lives in Berlin now, and the libra calls me, but not her.
I went to visit that same libra in Berlin last summer when I came to Europe for three weeks just to visit before I moved here, and in Berlin I saw the aqua's sister and brother who also live in Berlin. So I hung out with her siblings a lot but didn't see her. She lives in cologne which is in west Germany and although she said she wanted to travel to Berlin (east Germany) while I was there, she never did and I haven't seen her for over a year.
And even though we communicate through email, it's not regular contact.. It's sporadic but she makes me know in her emails that she still loves me, but she is studying at university now and I know she is busy with that.
So yeah, it's been only email communication. The funny thing is when we do communicate through emails, she tells our mutual libra friend thAt we are talking again and the libra will tell me, " I spoke to sina the other day and she told me you two are talking again" and I am always like, "talking? It's just emails!"
But yeah, aquas are weird like that.. Especially the third decan ones. They require LOTS of patience and understanding to say the least.. Not to mention HUGE balls..
But I dunno, aquas are weird like that..
Posted by jade_dragonPosted by Prince_PiscesPosted by jade_dragonPosted by wtf?
I am a free spirit..
I can go wherever my mind wants me to go..
gotta go..
stalk you later..
I was wondering: why do you have Kim Kardashian as your avatar, wtf??
You ARE a dude, no?
because he thinks shes hot duh lol.
LOL, thanks Prince....
I kinda figured that out myself, but it's always good to have someone else
S P E L L
I T
O U T
F O R
Y O U....
Just in case you didn't get it the first time...
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Okay, THIS: Hilarious
Posted by Prince_PiscesPosted by jade_dragonPosted by Prince_PiscesPosted by jade_dragonPosted by wtf?
I am a free spirit..
I can go wherever my mind wants me to go..
gotta go..
stalk you later..
I was wondering: why do you have Kim Kardashian as your avatar, wtf??
You ARE a dude, no?
because he thinks shes hot duh lol.
LOL, thanks Prince....
I kinda figured that out myself, but it's always good to have someone else
S P E L L
I T
O U T
F O R
Y O U....
Just in case you didn't get it the first time...
😉
Well you never know, ive come to realize that not everyone is as smart as I am 🙂 LOL!!!!!!click to expand
And THIS: Hilarious
Posted by jade_dragon
I love my Aqua lots and lots, but I think it might be time for me to move on....
Okay. So I realise that given our... history, there's no way I'm gonna not seem like I'm secretly laughing, but I'm gonna go for it, anyway:
What the f**k? You gonna let a couple of snide comments from some old b**ches ruin your happiness?
See, this is why I ain't f**king with get togethers with "friends" when love or family's involved, - friends make flaws seem magnified.
Better to secretly see the flaws and accept them anyway than have some b**ch/pr**k point 'em out to you and have you thinking things over, I always say...
@ jade
Yeah maybe I guess in her mind we are still talking, but hey I can live with the email thing.. Even with email only I know I'm still in it, and since I'm in, i'm in to win.
So if she did show up at my door ( I doubt it), of course I would drop everything for her. I know this and I've also told her this.. But more than likely it's gonna be me who shows up at her door and obviously since i've made it this far, I'm not taking " no" for an answer..
She's just the love of my life and of course I would do anything for her...dropping everything for her is the easy part..
Yeah maybe I guess in her mind we are still talking, but hey I can live with the email thing.. Even with email only I know I'm still in it, and since I'm in, i'm in to win.
So if she did show up at my door ( I doubt it), of course I would drop everything for her. I know this and I've also told her this.. But more than likely it's gonna be me who shows up at her door and obviously since i've made it this far, I'm not taking " no" for an answer..
She's just the love of my life and of course I would do anything for her...dropping everything for her is the easy part..
Well damn I wish someone would go out of there way like this to win me! Usually guys just give up...those damn pisces.😛 Sounds like a movie.
I don't know....theres a fine line between enjoying someone proving themselves and then taking them for granted in the process....don't let her take you for granted. Don't let her get too comfortable with the idea of you being so readily available for her.
I don't know....theres a fine line between enjoying someone proving themselves and then taking them for granted in the process....don't let her take you for granted. Don't let her get too comfortable with the idea of you being so readily available for her.
Posted by jade_dragonPosted by &2gedanowPosted by jade_dragon
I love my Aqua lots and lots, but I think it might be time for me to move on....
Okay. So I realise that given our... history, there's no way I'm gonna not seem like I'm secretly laughing, but I'm gonna go for it, anyway:
What the f**k? You gonna let a couple of snide comments from some old b**ches ruin your happiness?
See, this is why I ain't f**king with get togethers with "friends" when love or family's involved, - friends make flaws seem magnified.
Better to secretly see the flaws and accept them anyway than have some b**ch/pr**k point 'em out to you and have you thinking things over, I always say...
Yeah, but what if deez "old b!0tches" always pop up when you go out with Aquaguy? It's not like I can avoid
them(well, HER) forever. Eventually, I will (probably) lose my cool and say something I'll later regret.
And I really don't want to do that, so I'm choosing the path of least resistance.
And btw, thank you for your post. I know we haven't always seen eye to eye, but I respect the fact that you say what you think.
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I understand that you're in a pretty difficult position and I'm with you on avoiding the eventual drama.
I appreciate you've looked at all possible outcomes (I see three, so far: 1)The blow-up, followed closely by a "Me or Her" ultimatum, 2) suffering in silence, followed by resentment of Aquaman, ending in a breakup ANYWAY and 3) walking away with dignity, with the option of rekndling things later down the line because things ended civilly... if that's even a word).
This isnt a competition so the whole "You're letting her win" shyt is redundant.
All I will say is that although it sucks that ex is unavoidable, you've nada to prove. I don't give a shyt if aquaman was 70, if you are HAPPY with dude, genuinely happy, and he's the same around you, then b**chy b**ch (and any other f**kers who throw the age thing in your face) will see for themselves that (oh God, my masculinity, my f**king masculinity) love is all that matters.
I mean you gotta prioratize, you know: you leave dude, you'll probably end up with someone else who's older than you by more than 5 years and face the same crap,
only this time it'll be their mother throwing the whole "you weren't born when X was around".
So ,you know, really think about it: in breaking up, who're you trying to avoid a blow out with, aquadude or ex?
And f**k you very much, Duncan, you turd! Cutting my words, I'll show you, grumblegrumblegrumble...
So ,you know, really think about it: in breaking up, who're you trying to avoid a blow out with, aquadude or ex?
And f**k you very much, Duncan, you turd! Cutting my words, I'll show you, grumblegrumblegrumble...
And together now...."He's right!" lol @ your username
I don't think the ex girl should be an issue. She'll more than likely stay and ex and you know she's at that age when younger woman become the bain of there existence lol. She was once young and she's realizing she's not that young anymore, when she sees her ex with a 20 something year old. Even if she feels for your man or not, she has to deal with not being the young hot thing anymore. When guys her age and older only want to date people half there age. Its the double standard of our lives. Men get older and get distinguished, women do and get washed up.
She could be just jealous of your youth.
I don't think the ex girl should be an issue. She'll more than likely stay and ex and you know she's at that age when younger woman become the bain of there existence lol. She was once young and she's realizing she's not that young anymore, when she sees her ex with a 20 something year old. Even if she feels for your man or not, she has to deal with not being the young hot thing anymore. When guys her age and older only want to date people half there age. Its the double standard of our lives. Men get older and get distinguished, women do and get washed up.
She could be just jealous of your youth.
Posted by Lady_M
Well damn I wish someone would go out of there way like this to win me! Usually guys just give up...those damn pisces.😛 Sounds like a movie.
I don't know....theres a fine line between enjoying someone proving themselves and then taking them for granted in the process....don't let her take you for granted. Don't let her get too comfortable with the idea of you being so readily available for her.
LADY MMMMMMMMMMMMMM!
Ni Hao?
I got a book, you know? "Easy Peesy Chinese" it's called. My sister, who is also an aqua and is also learning Chinese (and French), recommended it.
So: gimme a learning curve, on a scale of one to ten; how long'll I be sweatin' with Mandarin?
The book says it's easy to learn, but books lie...
There shouldn't BE a question mark at the end of "Ni Hao" should there?
Mother f**ker...
Mother f**ker...
Ni hao ma? Wo hen gaoxing!
Yeah that book is straight up lying!
Its soooo hard. OMG I hated chinese class. I never worked so hard in all of my years in college until i had that class.
I'm forgetting my characters 😢 I need to continue learning, but I am a good speaker. I was awesome when I was in china. Its just reading the characters that are just so hard. pinyin is pretty easy though.
Someone told me they may just use pinyin more in the future, but I think thats a terrible idea, even though easier, its just taking away from there history and culture ya know.
Yeah that book is straight up lying!
Its soooo hard. OMG I hated chinese class. I never worked so hard in all of my years in college until i had that class.
I'm forgetting my characters 😢 I need to continue learning, but I am a good speaker. I was awesome when I was in china. Its just reading the characters that are just so hard. pinyin is pretty easy though.
Someone told me they may just use pinyin more in the future, but I think thats a terrible idea, even though easier, its just taking away from there history and culture ya know.
Posted by jade_dragon
Thank you for your perspective. I'm actually regretting even bringing this up, as I don't like mindlessly rambling on about my problems on an entertainment/astrology site.
So, imma stop for now.....
Gotcha. I respect your bluntness also and - if this holds any weight over the internet - wish you happiness.
Posted by Lady_M
Ni hao ma? Wo hen gaoxing!
Yeah that book is straight up lying!
Its soooo hard. OMG I hated chinese class. I never worked so hard in all of my years in college until i had that class.
I'm forgetting my characters 😢 I need to continue learning, but I am a good speaker. I was awesome when I was in china. Its just reading the characters that are just so hard. pinyin is pretty easy though.
Ugh. Looking at the characters scares me slightly. My sisters says there's four tones. Hopefully the audio cd tha book comes with helps on that.
That is SO awesome, though, you being in China and being awesome at speaking it too?
I dream of the day where I speak Chinese and a Chinese on-looker go "What is this sh**? Blacks speak Chinese now?" IN CHINESE and I turn around like "Yeah... you gotta problem with that?" ALSO IN CHINESE and he's like "No, men, I, I, I don't want any trouble. I ain't racist, men." STILL IN CHINESE and I'm like "Whateva, Punk." in Chinese...
And then I walk away with the theme song of Shaft playing in the background... for some reason...
I don't know what I'm saying anymore and somewhere down the line I think I was indirectly racist...
Oh well... Oh wow -- the sign thingy at the top of the page says I can date super rich females! Neat!
@ ladym
Thanks for the advice, ladym..
And you should know I respect your opinion because you are born on feb. 9 and seem so eerily similar to the love of my life, at least online..
And I hear you about not letting her take me for granted, but considering the point we are @ now, that would require me to play games and I have already tried that with her. Every kind of game I tried until I got over the games ( they didn't seem to be working) and just decided to be real and straight up with her.. Sure there is a level of vulnerability with that but I have to be real with myself and that requires absolute honesty on my part..
Sure I'd drop everything in a heartbeat when she is ready, but she has indicated to me she wants to quit school and do the same so we can be together..
My thing is that I know she is insecure and is overcompensating for her insecurities by being distant and unavailable... But at the end of the day, I'm the man and it makes no sense for me to be insecure along with her.. So I gotta be honest and being honest with yourself requires a great sense of personal security and awareness and I have that...
And did you mention Chinese?
Don't even get me started with that because the love of my life is at university right now studying fucking CHINESE and sending me weird Chinese text in emails and it bugs the he'll outta me because I can't understand what she's saying when she does that!
And now she tells me she wants to go to china of all places!!!
Where she came up with this whole chinese thing, I don't know, but damn..
Ladym, you just seem to familiar to me..
And I am sure you have droves of willing suitors who want nothing more than to be with you but I can just see that you make it look impossible so of course, a mere man will give up after time..
But there will be a god who will eventually come around to please the goddess in you because I see that is what you are..and for a goddess such as yourself, a mere man will not suffice...
@ jade
Yes, a Pisces in love is a powerful individual indeed.
Thanks for the advice, ladym..
And you should know I respect your opinion because you are born on feb. 9 and seem so eerily similar to the love of my life, at least online..
And I hear you about not letting her take me for granted, but considering the point we are @ now, that would require me to play games and I have already tried that with her. Every kind of game I tried until I got over the games ( they didn't seem to be working) and just decided to be real and straight up with her.. Sure there is a level of vulnerability with that but I have to be real with myself and that requires absolute honesty on my part..
Sure I'd drop everything in a heartbeat when she is ready, but she has indicated to me she wants to quit school and do the same so we can be together..
My thing is that I know she is insecure and is overcompensating for her insecurities by being distant and unavailable... But at the end of the day, I'm the man and it makes no sense for me to be insecure along with her.. So I gotta be honest and being honest with yourself requires a great sense of personal security and awareness and I have that...
And did you mention Chinese?
Don't even get me started with that because the love of my life is at university right now studying fucking CHINESE and sending me weird Chinese text in emails and it bugs the he'll outta me because I can't understand what she's saying when she does that!
And now she tells me she wants to go to china of all places!!!
Where she came up with this whole chinese thing, I don't know, but damn..
Ladym, you just seem to familiar to me..
And I am sure you have droves of willing suitors who want nothing more than to be with you but I can just see that you make it look impossible so of course, a mere man will give up after time..
But there will be a god who will eventually come around to please the goddess in you because I see that is what you are..and for a goddess such as yourself, a mere man will not suffice...
@ jade
Yes, a Pisces in love is a powerful individual indeed.
Posted by &2gedanowPosted by Lady_M
Ni hao ma? Wo hen gaoxing!
Yeah that book is straight up lying!
Its soooo hard. OMG I hated chinese class. I never worked so hard in all of my years in college until i had that class.
I'm forgetting my characters 😢 I need to continue learning, but I am a good speaker. I was awesome when I was in china. Its just reading the characters that are just so hard. pinyin is pretty easy though.
Ugh. Looking at the characters scares me slightly. My sisters says there's four tones. Hopefully the audio cd tha book comes with helps on that.
That is SO awesome, though, you being in China and being awesome at speaking it too?
I dream of the day where I speak Chinese and a Chinese on-looker go "What is this sh**? Blacks speak Chinese now?" IN CHINESE and I turn around like "Yeah... you gotta problem with that?" ALSO IN CHINESE and he's like "No, men, I, I, I don't want any trouble. I ain't racist, men." STILL IN CHINESE and I'm like "Whateva, Punk." in Chinese...
And then I walk away with the theme song of Shaft playing in the background... for some reason...
I don't know what I'm saying anymore and somewhere down the line I think I was indirectly racist...
Oh well... Oh wow -- the sign thingy at the top of the page says I can date super rich females! Neat!click to expand
LMAO!
You know thats already happened to a black guy who lives in china. He didn't say "Punk" though lol
There aren't many black people there so you'll be a side show freak whether you speak or not.
They always would get excited when I speak and start going on and I'm like whoaaa I don't speak it thaaat well!
Yes there are four tones and they'll be four different words all spelled the same in pinyin but the tone distinguishes them so you have to say it properly or you'll be using a totally different word. Japanese doesn't have tones making it much easier than Chinese.
awww your far too king fundamentalist!
I hope thats the case, but all I ever attract are pisces, although they sure are persistant they back off when there unsure....which is pretty much all the time with me lol
I guess someone has to throw their cards on the table....that was the issue between my pisces and I. No one, mainly me, wanted to. By the time I was ready ut was too late. It was just too much and too risky and I guess we aren't all as fearless as you like going half way across the globe. Although I do want to live and work in China someday... my guy didn't like hearing that either.lol
When is your birthday? My last guy was a pisces and it was an interesting dynamic to say the least. The similarities between your aqua and I are truly uncanny!
Although I'm all for true love, you guys have to think about your future with or without each other and have your own lives, so I don't condone leaving it all (i.e. school) behind.
I hope thats the case, but all I ever attract are pisces, although they sure are persistant they back off when there unsure....which is pretty much all the time with me lol
I guess someone has to throw their cards on the table....that was the issue between my pisces and I. No one, mainly me, wanted to. By the time I was ready ut was too late. It was just too much and too risky and I guess we aren't all as fearless as you like going half way across the globe. Although I do want to live and work in China someday... my guy didn't like hearing that either.lol
When is your birthday? My last guy was a pisces and it was an interesting dynamic to say the least. The similarities between your aqua and I are truly uncanny!
Although I'm all for true love, you guys have to think about your future with or without each other and have your own lives, so I don't condone leaving it all (i.e. school) behind.
I may be kind, ladym, but I put honesty before kindness, so I'm also telling you the truth, which is the most important thing.
And I think deep down inside, you know a mere man will not do..
But like you said, someone has to put their cards on the table and it was me. Once I did that, I saw a change in her that I can't really describe but I was about to give up on her too..
After 6 months of not speaking to her I realized my mistake and that's when I showed her my hand with no games. She then showed me her hand, in her own way and I know we are better now because of it.. There's no denying or questioning how we feel about each other. It's just that some practical matters have to be worked out..
I went on with my life as much as I could. I got a new gf and I left the states, but every direction I took always pointed to her. I got a new gf to try and get over her ( I never did) and I left the states to be closer to her...
I want her to stay in school too, bit I wouldn't exactly mind her leaving to be with me since we have plans to open up a bar together.. She says she loves learning Chinese, but everything she is studying besides that is making her bored out of her mind..
The bottom line is school or no school, I want to be with her and either way it won't change how I feel..
Btw, my bday is march 15 and our dynamic together is like none other.. I have a gf but I don't feel the same electric connection like I feel with the love of my life... I realized that no matter how many beautiful and charming girls I meet from all over, they all pale in comparison to the love of my life..
I mean life is for the living.. You have to know what you want and then go and get it.. There are no excuses because the choice is yours.. With me, the love I have for her is so powerful that she was my only choice.
I couldn't live with myself if I didn't go after her and was left to wonder for the rest of my life what could have been between us.. I have to power to get those answers myself and I might as well do it now while I have youth and vigor on my side..
But considering all the pisces you attract, I am pretty sure the Universe is trying to tell you something, and I hope you're listening..
After all, if it's anyone who can and will make the transition by shedding his mortality and embracing his godhood, it's a Pisces...
And I think deep down inside, you know a mere man will not do..
But like you said, someone has to put their cards on the table and it was me. Once I did that, I saw a change in her that I can't really describe but I was about to give up on her too..
After 6 months of not speaking to her I realized my mistake and that's when I showed her my hand with no games. She then showed me her hand, in her own way and I know we are better now because of it.. There's no denying or questioning how we feel about each other. It's just that some practical matters have to be worked out..
I went on with my life as much as I could. I got a new gf and I left the states, but every direction I took always pointed to her. I got a new gf to try and get over her ( I never did) and I left the states to be closer to her...
I want her to stay in school too, bit I wouldn't exactly mind her leaving to be with me since we have plans to open up a bar together.. She says she loves learning Chinese, but everything she is studying besides that is making her bored out of her mind..
The bottom line is school or no school, I want to be with her and either way it won't change how I feel..
Btw, my bday is march 15 and our dynamic together is like none other.. I have a gf but I don't feel the same electric connection like I feel with the love of my life... I realized that no matter how many beautiful and charming girls I meet from all over, they all pale in comparison to the love of my life..
I mean life is for the living.. You have to know what you want and then go and get it.. There are no excuses because the choice is yours.. With me, the love I have for her is so powerful that she was my only choice.
I couldn't live with myself if I didn't go after her and was left to wonder for the rest of my life what could have been between us.. I have to power to get those answers myself and I might as well do it now while I have youth and vigor on my side..
But considering all the pisces you attract, I am pretty sure the Universe is trying to tell you something, and I hope you're listening..
After all, if it's anyone who can and will make the transition by shedding his mortality and embracing his godhood, it's a Pisces...
Gross lol
OMG you havent changed a bit!!! LMAO
You are in love with this girl you say while you have a live in gf— Now correct me if I'm wrong but the love of your life is the girl you were seeing and also screwing her mate back in DC?? Because you had an open relationship and she was perfectly ok with all that yeah?
Does she know about your live in love too?
I would wonder if it all just hit the fan when she started to develop real feelings and didnt want to share you and couldn't help the jealousy creeping in. Plus on top of all that if a NORMAL person starts wanting to be with someone in a permanent sense then the mistake of changing the rules half way will certainly pose a problem dont you think? Now forgive my ignorance, as I could never fathom an OPEN RELATIONSHIP! I mean seriously who would want to have a family or even think of a long term commitment knowing that eventually they would have to share—
Think you may have dug a grave big enough to bury yourself on this one FaM!!
You are in love with this girl you say while you have a live in gf— Now correct me if I'm wrong but the love of your life is the girl you were seeing and also screwing her mate back in DC?? Because you had an open relationship and she was perfectly ok with all that yeah?
Does she know about your live in love too?
I would wonder if it all just hit the fan when she started to develop real feelings and didnt want to share you and couldn't help the jealousy creeping in. Plus on top of all that if a NORMAL person starts wanting to be with someone in a permanent sense then the mistake of changing the rules half way will certainly pose a problem dont you think? Now forgive my ignorance, as I could never fathom an OPEN RELATIONSHIP! I mean seriously who would want to have a family or even think of a long term commitment knowing that eventually they would have to share—
Think you may have dug a grave big enough to bury yourself on this one FaM!!
Your post "freaked" me out because I'm going to university to study Chinese this year and my boyfriend(Aqua) is going with me.(reversed situation I guess)....I'm not sure that she loves you as much as you love her but I guess it's pretty normal in love, some people do love deeper than the others.. Keep on your beautiful dream 🙂
AAah yes you story is coming back to me now...
Go for what you want, but try not to hurt anyone else in the process. A vicious cycle ya know.
Yes, I do know a mere man will not do....but whats a girl to do? Immortals don't exist ! 🙂
Go for what you want, but try not to hurt anyone else in the process. A vicious cycle ya know.
Yes, I do know a mere man will not do....but whats a girl to do? Immortals don't exist ! 🙂
@ sweethearts
Yes.. I am in love with this aqua but I still have a live in gf... I did say, though that I met my gf at a time when I was trying to disconnect from the aqua an get over her since she left me to go to germany without saying a word..
When I met my new gf I thought I was moving on with my life she she would be a good way to help me get over the aqua...
So to answer your question about the aqua knowing about my gf, YES, she knows about her.. When my gf came fr Denmark to come and live with me in Spain, the aqua and I had resumed contact a month before my gf came. When my gf did arrive, I told her that of wouldn't work out between us b/c the aqua is the love of my life and I wanted to clear the table for her. My gfwho is cancer obviously took it badly and the plan was that I would help her move to Paris and get settled, and I would go do my own thing..
But I love my gf and I felt really bad for just throwing her aside because it's nota nice way to treat someone after beingwith them for one year... It's not like the aqua was reAdy to jump into a relationship with me anyways.. We were and still are figuring out how evrything will work between us..
Although the aqua is the love of my life, imnot in a relationship with her so I am entitled to have my own life and see other ppl.. She is too..
And yes I did shag her bff who is a libra while she was in the states, and when I went to Berlin to visit the libra last summer, we went to Barcelona together for a vacation And I shagged her everydaythen too..
But of fourS the aqua knew that, but last summer we weren't speaking so it shouldntb matter..
We are all still good friends though.. I don't think that part will ever change..and The libra has plans to visit me in Paris in august..
The thing is this, sweethearts.. I am sure the aqua has alreAdy developed real feelings for me b/c we have mAde it this far.. I let her know that although I Am withmy gf, the deepest love that I have is reserved for her only and I will dropeverything when the time is right and she's ready to be withme physically..
But as of now, she's not ready so what am I supposed todo, put my life on hold and sit around waiting? You can't expect me or anyone else to do such a thing especially when I haven't been offered any assurances from the aqua and nothing between us is concrete...
No mAtter what life goes on and life is for he living... I gotta keep it moving...
Yes.. I am in love with this aqua but I still have a live in gf... I did say, though that I met my gf at a time when I was trying to disconnect from the aqua an get over her since she left me to go to germany without saying a word..
When I met my new gf I thought I was moving on with my life she she would be a good way to help me get over the aqua...
So to answer your question about the aqua knowing about my gf, YES, she knows about her.. When my gf came fr Denmark to come and live with me in Spain, the aqua and I had resumed contact a month before my gf came. When my gf did arrive, I told her that of wouldn't work out between us b/c the aqua is the love of my life and I wanted to clear the table for her. My gfwho is cancer obviously took it badly and the plan was that I would help her move to Paris and get settled, and I would go do my own thing..
But I love my gf and I felt really bad for just throwing her aside because it's nota nice way to treat someone after beingwith them for one year... It's not like the aqua was reAdy to jump into a relationship with me anyways.. We were and still are figuring out how evrything will work between us..
Although the aqua is the love of my life, imnot in a relationship with her so I am entitled to have my own life and see other ppl.. She is too..
And yes I did shag her bff who is a libra while she was in the states, and when I went to Berlin to visit the libra last summer, we went to Barcelona together for a vacation And I shagged her everydaythen too..
But of fourS the aqua knew that, but last summer we weren't speaking so it shouldntb matter..
We are all still good friends though.. I don't think that part will ever change..and The libra has plans to visit me in Paris in august..
The thing is this, sweethearts.. I am sure the aqua has alreAdy developed real feelings for me b/c we have mAde it this far.. I let her know that although I Am withmy gf, the deepest love that I have is reserved for her only and I will dropeverything when the time is right and she's ready to be withme physically..
But as of now, she's not ready so what am I supposed todo, put my life on hold and sit around waiting? You can't expect me or anyone else to do such a thing especially when I haven't been offered any assurances from the aqua and nothing between us is concrete...
No mAtter what life goes on and life is for he living... I gotta keep it moving...
Life is for the living and I gotta keep it moving b/c that's the only way I can maintain my balance..
And the ONLY person I can be in a monogamous relationship in withisthe aqua, bit she always wanted to keep things open between us. If it were my choice, I would be complety exclusive with her b/c I wouldn't even think about being with other ppl if she offered me that kind of monogamous security..
But she has offeredme no security at all so I gotta be secure in myself and do what I need to do.. If I sat around waiting for her I doubt she could honestly respect that... I have to keep moving with the hopetha we will be together in the future but until then, I gotta do me just like the aqua is doing her..
But my gf is going back to denmark to begin universityin august and that is when I'm planning on going to cologne to live so I can be in the same town as the aqua...I've told the aqua this so I'm pretty sure she is expectingme...
Sweethearts, I am old enough to know that for evrything there is a seasoN and nothing happens before it's time.. Me and the aqua are no different..
Bit by your tone, I get the impression that yourebeing closed minded about the whole situation...
I don't feel like I need to justify myself to anyone but theove I have for this Aqua istrue love.. I don't doubt that one bit...
@ ladym
Immortals DO exist.. You're talking to one right now...I'm pretty sure you are one yourself too.... I know the loveof my life is at least...
Anyone who acknowledges their spirit has acheived immortality b/c the spirit never dies.. Once you realize that spirit is the essence of your being, you won't questionyour own immortality either...
And the ONLY person I can be in a monogamous relationship in withisthe aqua, bit she always wanted to keep things open between us. If it were my choice, I would be complety exclusive with her b/c I wouldn't even think about being with other ppl if she offered me that kind of monogamous security..
But she has offeredme no security at all so I gotta be secure in myself and do what I need to do.. If I sat around waiting for her I doubt she could honestly respect that... I have to keep moving with the hopetha we will be together in the future but until then, I gotta do me just like the aqua is doing her..
But my gf is going back to denmark to begin universityin august and that is when I'm planning on going to cologne to live so I can be in the same town as the aqua...I've told the aqua this so I'm pretty sure she is expectingme...
Sweethearts, I am old enough to know that for evrything there is a seasoN and nothing happens before it's time.. Me and the aqua are no different..
Bit by your tone, I get the impression that yourebeing closed minded about the whole situation...
I don't feel like I need to justify myself to anyone but theove I have for this Aqua istrue love.. I don't doubt that one bit...
@ ladym
Immortals DO exist.. You're talking to one right now...I'm pretty sure you are one yourself too.... I know the loveof my life is at least...
Anyone who acknowledges their spirit has acheived immortality b/c the spirit never dies.. Once you realize that spirit is the essence of your being, you won't questionyour own immortality either...
@FaM
I guess it does come down to the fact that my mind is certainly NOT open to an open relationship...and, as I have previously been in a committed 20 year marriage with children I am fully aware of the course in which most relationships go down. Now the sex is great for a good period of time,
which is very important to you from what I've read,
however, in a huge percentage of relationships there comes a point when for reasons like...children, boredom, lack of desire for the other partner, exhaustion and so many other reasons the sex dries up...Majority of the time it's with the lady...
So when this happens what are you going to do? Seek it somewhere else—
I personally believe that trust is a huge part of a committed relationship and once that has been broken it's really hard to regain that confidence...I also think that there cant be much of that between the two of you.... Correct me if I am wrong!
Tell me, how did she feel about you sleeping with her Libra gf? And holidaying with her? Did she know and was the subject ever talked about? Did you have threesomes? Maybe this is why it's out of my depth because I cant fathom this kind of relationship...
But, Yes I believe, she is your one LOVE, hell no sane person could/would chase someone half way around the world without a definite as you have done for this lady. And manovere yourself so that eventually you can be together...I just have very definite doubts on this relationship lasting a lifetime...
Then again you've never stated you are after a lifetime and that is not necessarily the case for some people, maybe you are wanting enough time with this person to get her out of your system idk
But Good luck with your lady
It might appear critical to you some of the things I've pointed out because I have a fairly closed mind, it's certainly not the sort of relationship I could ever have FaM, but I think you and I can discuss these things without too much offense taken...Your life is your own, it interests me to say the least and I am trying to be open minded to it...but it's a hard thing to do as I see things like jealousy etc, things are black & white not grey to me...
that might not exist in this type of relationship and CANT understand that. Does it exist??
I guess it does come down to the fact that my mind is certainly NOT open to an open relationship...and, as I have previously been in a committed 20 year marriage with children I am fully aware of the course in which most relationships go down. Now the sex is great for a good period of time,
which is very important to you from what I've read,
however, in a huge percentage of relationships there comes a point when for reasons like...children, boredom, lack of desire for the other partner, exhaustion and so many other reasons the sex dries up...Majority of the time it's with the lady...
So when this happens what are you going to do? Seek it somewhere else—
I personally believe that trust is a huge part of a committed relationship and once that has been broken it's really hard to regain that confidence...I also think that there cant be much of that between the two of you.... Correct me if I am wrong!
Tell me, how did she feel about you sleeping with her Libra gf? And holidaying with her? Did she know and was the subject ever talked about? Did you have threesomes? Maybe this is why it's out of my depth because I cant fathom this kind of relationship...
But, Yes I believe, she is your one LOVE, hell no sane person could/would chase someone half way around the world without a definite as you have done for this lady. And manovere yourself so that eventually you can be together...I just have very definite doubts on this relationship lasting a lifetime...
Then again you've never stated you are after a lifetime and that is not necessarily the case for some people, maybe you are wanting enough time with this person to get her out of your system idk
But Good luck with your lady
It might appear critical to you some of the things I've pointed out because I have a fairly closed mind, it's certainly not the sort of relationship I could ever have FaM, but I think you and I can discuss these things without too much offense taken...Your life is your own, it interests me to say the least and I am trying to be open minded to it...but it's a hard thing to do as I see things like jealousy etc, things are black & white not grey to me...
that might not exist in this type of relationship and CANT understand that. Does it exist??
I love my Aquarius man very much also. We have known each other for nearly 5 years. Although I would love a REAL romantic relationship we live many miles apart, and I have settled for a friendship. Even then, it is not easy to keep it steady.
He is full of drama. Oddly enough I am a Leo, and I am not a drama Queen. In fact, I prefer to keep the peace in every type of relationship, so I do the same with this one. I can talk about anything at all, and I take lots of his advice as it has assisted me greatly. Although Leos are known for ego - his leading me is just fine.
Both of us are very independent as our signs so state. I do like compliments but don't lack my own confidence at all. He doesn't give alot of compliments, but when he does I note it and thank him and let it go. I know through what I feel that he thinks highly of me and he is crazy about me.
We talk on the phone alot except when we have a "break". These breaks can last a few weeks to a few months to a few years. Over the times we have come to know each other pretty well in spite of the breaks. Unfortunately, he can rile up the relationship and when that happens he can't work himself out of it. It takes alot to rile me up, but he can push buttons when he is fiesty and he gets pretty personal when he does. I know, I know, that is because he cares enough to be bothered, but it is wearing. At no time has it changed how we respond when we get back together. It seems a shame that we can't just make a go of it and get married. Who knows what the future will bring.
I usually leave him alone during these breaks - he is not out looking for anyone else as he has over time come to know that not many people can tolerate his pecularities for very long. He is compulsive-obsessive and drives himself crazy with it. Doesn't bother me much as it is about him and not me - he likes that about me, but when he gets going on me I am very verbal. Usually when I feel strongly about something that has happened between us, I wait a few days then I write a very logical well thought out email - I never get emotional, never get accusatory, but simply state my own feelings objectively and very straightforward. My thinking is pretty logical. It blows him away and he has no words..something that he typically does not lack. 🙂
I have surprised him on occasions, and since I am good at keeping secrets he is totally blown away. I sent him a gorilla one time (a person dressed up) who arrived
He is full of drama. Oddly enough I am a Leo, and I am not a drama Queen. In fact, I prefer to keep the peace in every type of relationship, so I do the same with this one. I can talk about anything at all, and I take lots of his advice as it has assisted me greatly. Although Leos are known for ego - his leading me is just fine.
Both of us are very independent as our signs so state. I do like compliments but don't lack my own confidence at all. He doesn't give alot of compliments, but when he does I note it and thank him and let it go. I know through what I feel that he thinks highly of me and he is crazy about me.
We talk on the phone alot except when we have a "break". These breaks can last a few weeks to a few months to a few years. Over the times we have come to know each other pretty well in spite of the breaks. Unfortunately, he can rile up the relationship and when that happens he can't work himself out of it. It takes alot to rile me up, but he can push buttons when he is fiesty and he gets pretty personal when he does. I know, I know, that is because he cares enough to be bothered, but it is wearing. At no time has it changed how we respond when we get back together. It seems a shame that we can't just make a go of it and get married. Who knows what the future will bring.
I usually leave him alone during these breaks - he is not out looking for anyone else as he has over time come to know that not many people can tolerate his pecularities for very long. He is compulsive-obsessive and drives himself crazy with it. Doesn't bother me much as it is about him and not me - he likes that about me, but when he gets going on me I am very verbal. Usually when I feel strongly about something that has happened between us, I wait a few days then I write a very logical well thought out email - I never get emotional, never get accusatory, but simply state my own feelings objectively and very straightforward. My thinking is pretty logical. It blows him away and he has no words..something that he typically does not lack. 🙂
I have surprised him on occasions, and since I am good at keeping secrets he is totally blown away. I sent him a gorilla one time (a person dressed up) who arrived
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