I don't like the rules but.. should I call him?

I don't believe in rules. It's stupid.

Aquas tho get distracted easily and it makes no sense for you to sit and wait.

Plus you should always have back up plans anyway.

Just text him and say "hi there! Looking forward to our fancy date! Let me know if you want to still do that tonight so I know what time you'll head this way. But if you are busy tonight I can always use the time to catch up on things on my end and prep for when we have out fab bulbous date"

Well not in those words but something like that. You get your answer in a flirty way

I partially agree with you sugar foot in terms of principle.

But her inquiring (in the way she does it has to be specific) but texting him in a way that says hey u made plans and haven't confirmed will teach any guy to learn to communicate.

If he doesn't improve then I don't bother.

I can't deal with men who don't communicate in a basic modern manner

I partially agree with you sugar foot in terms of principle.

But her inquiring (in the way she does it has to be specific) but texting him in a way that says hey u made plans and haven't confirmed will teach any guy to learn to communicate.

If he doesn't improve then I don't bother.

I can't deal with men who don't communicate in a basic modern manner

Just send a quick text and ask what time he's picking you up.

Posted by libraandaquarius
Hey everyone..

This aqua man who I have a complicated relationship with (we used to date a few years ago, broke up due to distance, but are clearly not just friends...) asked me out on a date for tonight a few days ago. He asked me if I wanted to go to a specific restaurant tonight for a "fancy" dinner. I was surprised because he has never asked me out this far in advance nor has he ever asked me out on a fancy date.

He has not called or texted to set up a time. Should I just call him?

I've searched articles about this but I don't like the "rules" that are preached to women... some of the ones I saw are just ridiculous. They said things like... if he doesn't call you by 2:30pm the day of, you must say you have other plans and can't go anymore because he called too late. WTF? Do you guys agree with this stuff? I think it's absurd to think the guy has to do everything.

Furthermore, I never initiate contact with him because I am kind of nervous to do so. I feel like if I do, he has the power. And he hurt me in the past so I have my pride... I guess. But I think it's time to do something about it. What do you lovely people suggest? THANK YOU!

there's NO WAY i would contact him are u kidding? it doesn't mean your making him do all the work but he should be on point. he asked YOU on a date. he should have called "ill pick you up at such and such time". he doesn't need reminding unless he has amnesia or something. i would assume at this point two things: there is no date and hes a flake and just not into it.

I don't know, but when I first started dating my aqua we made plans for Saturday several days in advance. Then spur of moment I invited him to join my friends and me on Thursday. He did. Then Saturday afternoon rolled around and I hadn't heard anything from him about our plans. We had texted on Friday. So Saturday afternoon I sent him a quick text asking if he still wanted to go to a movie. He did and we have been together ever since.

I wonder if I hadn't stepped up if we would have even gone out again.

Just saying I dont think an aqua would mind. They are the most accepting sign and dont mind being reminded or called out. Calling them out keeps them on their toes,
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So, op what happened? What did you do?

I always forget to call someone if I make plans. I don't know why, maybe I have to much on my mind. He might have forgotten and there's nothing wrong with texting him and asking what time you should be ready.

I would forget about this guy. Too inconsistent and flaky for me.