Is it true what they said...

I read in "The Only Astrology Book You'll Ever Need" that when Aqua distances themselves from somebody and claims to not like/care for that person at all that they are truly having feelings for that person. Does that sound accurate?

hmmm, it depends...

Sometimes we dont actually like people.

let me get the quote...and remember, this is in the context of a romantic relationship...


....after much searching here it is: and i was wrong, Linda Goodman wrote this:

"It's when he acts as though he doesn't like you that he's close to being hooked, and the reason is elementary--simple logic. The Aquarian water bearer likes everybody. Everyone is his friend. He'll even refer to his worst enemy as "my friend." So it means something when he says he doesn't like someone. Just what it means make take some study. The various nuances can be complicated.

The Aquarian man doesn't want to reveal his true feelings...his reactions and motives are complex, and he intends to keep them that way for the pure pleasure of fooling you. "

She doesn't really go on in any greater detail than that. It's strange...I thought it was a strange thing to say.

My Aqua insisted to mutual friends last night he doesn't like me...weird but okay, I'm not on pins and needles waiting for him. I had a little hope, but it's pretty much gone now. Just wondering really...

Well the nature of the relationship matters.

Im sure he's only fooling himself if Linda Goodman is indeed correct.
But its true we can do this sometimes.

"hmmm, it depends...

Sometimes we dont actually like people."

~~Lol.

"It's when he acts as though he doesn't like you that he's close to being hooked, and the reason is elementary--simple logic. The Aquarian water bearer likes everybody. Everyone is his friend. He'll even refer to his worst enemy as "my friend." So it means something when he says he doesn't like someone. Just what it means make take some study. The various nuances can be complicated.

The Aquarian man doesn't want to reveal his true feelings...his reactions and motives are complex, and he intends to keep them that way for the pure pleasure of fooling you. "

~~I understand this. I did this with Mr. Leo. He was the most beautiful man I ever met--but I played it off like I wasn't interested because I was too scared of my feelings or getting involved. Leo's have the big ego thing so he took my giving him the cold shoulder as not being interested, and he told my friends he would never speak to me again(Like really? All because I didn't acknowledge his presence whenver he entered a room? =P).
I still love Mr. Leo. Think about him almost every single day. But alas, I blew it, and the wounded kitten ain't never coming back. Gah, being an Aqua means I'm cursed! 😢 No, I 'm just kidding! It may not go the same for everyone.

The nature of our relationship is that the timing was bad. Or that was his excuse, I am certain now it was only an excuse. He needed some space, it hurt, but we stayed friends...I think he regretted it for awhile based on some of his behavior. I'm not the type to go back though...I am the type to remain friends if there was no foul play. He hasn't been treating me much like a friend lately, I mean really acting like he doesn't like me AT ALL. That hurts because we are and were very good friends.

Also, I suspect he sensed I had this hope (like you aquas are very good at). Maybe freaked him out. I'm just moving on now, I don't need this drama, that why he drove me crazy in the first place.

I think you should move one.

Im not saying he does or doesnt like you...just move on regardless.

Im sure you'll be hearing from him at some point in life.

well, in my opinion he's the one who needs to move on. I didn't give him any indication of the hope I had, nothing. I just had it, for my own. He keeps bringing up to our friends, and yes, we have mutual friends, TONS of them. He needs to get over it, over himself because I already have. We need to be friends, but I can't really do that with his arrogant crap.

His sister and I are very close friends, too. He stays with her when he comes home and she and I will be living together soon. I don't care so much about the romance side of it, just his friendship is important to me.

When I actually dont like someone knowing that they have feelings for me and I enjoy them as a person ...nothing more, nothing less...I try to salvage the relationship the best way I know how.

I just had that experience actually with a pisces guy whom I loved as a friend and nothing more. I tried the best way I knew how to be distant yet friendly and he just wouldnt get it. So finally he asked again and I had to tell him straight up. I dont like you in that way. THE END.

He seemed to take it well...but I have yet to hear from him since new years...damn, he was a really cool guy too.

Get a new man. Show him your threw...yet remain pleasant and civil. It'll do wonders. 🙂

Thanks Lady M. Your right...

it's just a little rocky right now, I'm sure it'll smooth over eventually.

Ha Ha Ha this is so true im an aquarian female and guilty of this myself....i think it has to do with us not being comfortable with emotions so when we start to catch feelings we run away and distance ourselves because we will never become prisoner of our emotions we love control too much and we also have a deep fear of rejection.

So...

things HAVE been a little smoother lately. His birthday last weekend and we all went out to celebrate. At least, I thought it was okay because I was comfortable, he seemed comfortable. No problems.

I find out later from my best girl friend (his best friend's fiancee) that he thought I was interfering with his ability to pick up women. That I was giving him "a look" from across the room every time he made a move. The truth is far far from that: I was deep in conversation with a lovely swede all night, couldn't take my eyes off him actually. My friend pointed this out to him, but he wasn't buying it.

Also, find out that he is bitching about me constantly to the two of our friends, about how I'm leaving my job (he doesn't think I should) about how into him he thinks I am....

I know it means he's been thinking of me a lot, but it's starting to feel like he's talking about me behind my back and I'm not really appreciating it very much. If he has so much to say about me, why doesn't he say it TO ME?? Hmmmm—

This guy is an a**. It's not an Aquarian thing. He's just a d*ck. I hope your best girlfriend is not wasting a moment of her time listening to that shit. It's just...crossing the line. If I were her I'd tell him to get over himself and take his narcissistic delusions elsewhere. I would never, NEVER, date a man like that.

Ditch him like a hot potato. Hard. And then laugh.

I think *he* is the one who has feelings for you -- and he's projecting. Obviously, he's still aware of your love connection, and he hasn't properly detached and transitioned into the new relationship/friendship.

Perhaps if you don't see him for a bit, he will feel that you are out of his vibe. I would do that, if only because you want to show him that you *are* truly over him. (You are, aren't you? 😉)

Aquas seem to get pissed that they actually have feelings, and start moaning about the most silly things. My Aqua guy criticized my driving skills (why do I slow down at intersections -- duh...because a car might be coming) when we had just had a big fight. Seems like they find something to pick on, so as to avoid the real uncomfortableness that comes from caring about people, and being attached.

This isn't about getting his guard down. I'm not interested in any advice on how to get him to show his feelings for me.
This is probably the best advice:

"Perhaps if you don't see him for a bit, he will feel that you are out of his vibe. I would do that, if only because you want to show him that you *are* truly over him. (You are, aren't you?)"

I am *truly* over him, and being the perfect Libra, I'm not at the same time. I think it's possible to miss him and loathe him at the same time, lol. My heart still hurts for what we could have been, but no, I don't want anything with him anymore. I wasn't giving him any *look* and don't because I don't want misunderstandings about how I feel. Mermaid, I know full well this guy is an a** and a di*k. doesn't take away from the fact he is *supposedly* my friend. I'm confused about how to let him into my life because he's obviously upset I'm not obsessing anymore...

"Sounds to me like there's still some connection from his side.......why's he still obsessing?"

I'm so sick that it actually makes me feel good to read that...he's obsessing because we work really well together in every way but the most important ones. because he completely fucked it up by being a huge di*k and he can never go back and take it away. I understand his motivation, but I don't appreciate the sh*t talking and the slander...not cool, and not the friends I was thinking we were going to be...

He's obsessing because he wants to be chased. Even if he doesn't want her, or f'd it up, or whatever his disposition is, the fact that he's not being pursued is what is bothering him.

I would just ignore him. The absolute best way to handle him is to be completely indifferent. Not mad, not happy, not anything, just your same old regular nice self that doesn't give a rat's behind either way. Laugh at him.

If you want a perfect portrayal of how an Aqua hides his feelings by freaking over some silly stuff, watch Clark Gable in the famous movie with Claudette Colbert. (Inarticulate water sign here has forgotten the name 🙂) It's the one where she lifts up her skirt in the road to stop a car when they need to hitch hike.

Throughout the movie, Gable starts falling more and more in love with Colbert, and also starts arguments about nothing....picky little stuff. It's very humorous and revealing...watch it for an insight in the Aqua man's inner life.

Well Clark was an Aqua in real life so that figures!!

I have seen that movie! love it, mmm clark.

I digress..I never really looked at as an aqua thing, but that's funny. Good to know

Well, I'm not saying that Gable "played" an Aqua, but his Aqua tendencies just couldn't help coming out -- charisma, irritability, shyness, perceptiveness.

In the same way, Scorp Vivien Leigh had a hard time showing her emotions on film, because of the typical Scorpio reserve. I think she was not as great an actress as she wanted to be because of this, although I hear she was great as loony, crazy Blanche DuBois in Streetcar.

JMHO 🙂