is this a bad sign

Okay so here's my latest. I went out with my aqua friend this past weekend. Mind you we have not hung out in about two months, mainly because of his schedule as he's a coach and has games to go to. Yet, we talk every week. Well my aqua friend is by far a night owl, and I of course am. So, Friday I tell him to call me if to see if we wants to hang out. Not really thinking we would call or have time to hang out I did not plan anything. Well he calls me at 8:30pm. I was shocked that he actually called me and did not plan anything (stupid me)! We spent about 40 minutes deciding what we wanted to do as he does not like to stay out too late, especially because he had a game the next day. He knew I wanted to see the movie "Queen" and we looked it up and started at 10:00pm. We both agreed that it was too late and he finally left it up to me to decide what to do. I could not come up with anything to I started driving to his place and figured we would decide something once I got there. I simply just said i'm going to wing it. He liked the fact that I said let's just wing it but we still could not figure out what to do. He finally said let's go to the movies. So we did, had nice coversation before the movie and after the movie, flirting with each other which was nice. We took my car and I let him drive and he even mentioned that he would get me speakers in my car next month (we'll see if that happens) as he said anyone who drive a beemer should have good speakers (really?) Anyways, not even half way through the movie my aqua friend falls asleep, not once but about 3 times, and to top it all off, his stomach was growling so much I felt really bad. I woke him up once and told him we could leave if he wanted to but he said NO it was a good movie but slow (which is was). So my question is this, is this a bad sign? I tell myself that we both must've both wanted to hang out with each other so bad that we did not care at the last minute what we did, what we watched as long as we spent some time together. Again, as we were driving to the movie theater we had good conversation and even after, when I told him that he should get some food. It was really really nice to hang out with him again but I just hope that this incident is not a sign of being the last. Any aquas out there that can brighten me up..please help. Oh his b-day get this..tomorrow.

unususualcancer, thanks for replying. You bring up a good point about my aqua friend and what occured and i've thought about that. I've tried to tell myself you know what let it,move on, and so I don't call, e-mail him or text and then the next thing I know he is still calling me. Keep in mind we work for together and so I see him around and always makes it a point to say hello or try to grab my attention even when i'm busy. I do go to his games, when I have a chance so even though we may not hung out together for two months, we still find the time to talk each week, and I go to his games, or he comes by my area. I can see that both of us are still interested and it's not just him that does not have time as he's a coach but apart from working full time i'm a student so I go to class during the week which makes it hard for us to schedule time to hang out during the week. Also, he goes out of town due to tournaments and because i'm done this semester with my degree (yeah), i tend to meet with my school group on weekends. So you see, we both live busy lives and are okay with it. That is why I was saying that we both must've just wanted to hang out with each other so bad that night that we both just did not care what we did as long as we hung out. I saw him at work today as he came by and of course I called him as it's his b-day. His season ends in 3 weeks and he tells me we that he can't wait so that he can actually have more time. Funny as my core class ends this week which will open up my days as well. I keep in mind that aquas are sloooooooooooow movers so i'd figure this is why it's been slow progressing. I sometimes don't even know what to think anymore but I don't dread it. I keep myself busy with work, school and go out with friends. My weekends are by far being spent waiting for his calls and of course he knows this and respects this. I hope that i've made sense.

"I agree with leokitten...amazing what a few no's can do and can reveal about a man's true feelings and interest for you. Too many women are afraid to exercise "no's" for fear of losing a "chance" with a guy. If you don't have a chance, you can do back flips and still won't have a chance. If you do...you can just relax, be yourself, and not have to post these sort of threads on Dxp."

-very well said, unusualcancer!!! it is so true.

i am not too thrilled with my aqua bf today... i called him last night around 6pm...and left a message. of course, no phone call...but whatever, i went out with my friends and had a good time. didn't let it effect my night!!!
so, this morning he calls me on my way to work...i ask him if he saw that i had called last night, and he says yes...but that he forgot to call me back b/c he was too intoxicated. apparently, he and his work buddies went out drinking after work (which is something he used to do every day, but not anymore!)...so, i just said to him that i hope he does not fall back into that routine again, b/c i am not going to deal with that shit again...

but, i find that it has been a pattern since we started dating that he will not call me when has been drinking...which i find kind of strange in a way. and it makes me wonder what exactly he is doing when he is intoxicated...hmmm...

yeah...i probably shouldn't have said that to him, but i didn't get mad at him or anything like that...and his response to me was "c'mon babe, how often do i go out with the guys anymore? maybe once a month...it's not a big deal. and i'm not going to make it my daily routine".

i am not going to let it worry me b/c we have been doing really, really well lately...and we are both very happy together...i think we are finally growing up, learning how to deal with our negative aspects, and really growing as a couple!!!

That's great Moonchild. You sound like a lovely woman and by your description, your aqua bf sounds pretty nice too 🙂

thanks mellowdee...that is very sweet of you!

oh, i believe it unusualcancer!!! i have definitely altered my thinking as of lately...i no longer sweat the small stuff and i try not to be such a control freak anymore. i realize that i cannot control every situation, and besides it is way too much work!!!

unusualcancer...well, hopefully this cancer guy works out for you!!! i know that i have never had good luck with cancer guys. i have dated 3 cancers, one of them being my first real love...and all 3 of them turned out to be total players...although i am still very good friends with the first cancer i dated, but friends is all we will ever be!
so, i wish you better luck than i have had with cancers!!!

leokitten...that is too funny!!! that sounds EXACTLY like my aqua bf.
my guy will do the same thing...he will make plans with me over the phone for the next day, and then the next day comes around and he will call and ask what my plans are for that night...— weirdo!!!

so, are you making your aqua a special birthday dinner— that's also funny b/c that is what i did for my aqua's birthday. i made him filet and king crab legs (his favorite) and some side dishes...he loves when i cook for him.

leokitten...how did your dinner go for your aqua's b-day—

glad to hear you two had a nice dinner!!!

you know, you get bad advice here, really, no good advice from what I see.