is this typcal of an aqua guy?

to come on really strong in the beginning and then back off abruptly? like go from talking everyday to maybe every few days or so. i know he just doesn't like to talk on the phone...but then we will be on there and he will talk for an hour. and he does most of the talking. the emails have dwindled too and are not as sweet as in the beginning. i am sure this may have to do with "laying on the charm" and then once they have charmed you...the real person comes out. its not unusual in any relationship. i guess that i am seeing the aloof aqua now. if i make contact, he always replies promptly or apologizes for not getting back sooner, and is very nice and glad to hear from me. there just seems to be more distance.

yes, it's typical.

i would agree, its like if I didn't talk to my "friend" LOL.... for awhile then he would talk my damn ear off. But sometimes when I would call him he would seem like he didn't want to really talk. I know its just weird behavior, its like they always expect things to be at there convenience .

that's the way they are. i can't figure out how to deal with the aloofness. i know they get bored easily so you have to keep them guessing.

I think water signs are probably the best at handling this aloof streak in aquas. Mainly because they have more patience and tolerance and acceptance in spite of this selfish characteristic. This is good and bad: it's good for the aqua cos he can carry on doing his own little aloof thing and still being able to fall into his gf's arms when he's done whatever he had to do, but it's also bad because it's not challenging him to think of his partner and aspire to make it work through compromise instead of using her like a doormat.

This applies to aqua women somewhat too but not as much I don't think as the aqua guys.

Yeah this sounds about right. I don't know how the extremes work with Aqua Males, but I go through these swings occasionally. He may not even realize he is doing this. If it bothers you, best thing to do is to be cool about it, but bring it to his attention.

hmmmm....so mellowdee, what do you suggest us water women do with our aqua men? should we just not be so available all the time and make them wonder? or change our attitude from nurturing to not there at all— it's tough...