my 1st fight with aqua girlfriend, maybe our last?

I got in what I thought was a small fight with my girlfriend, it was our first. And it looks like she hasn't been able to recover from it. She totally wouldn't back down even though she was wrong. I apologized for my end of the fight but she has yet to apologize for hers.. or even call me. Its been a week.

My instinct tells me not to call her and let her do her thing... I already gave her a call to apologize. I'm starting to wonder if I want to be in a relationship with someone who can't deal with a minor fight... is this normal for aqua women or women in general if they are mad? I'm really confused.


i'm a cap guy with venus in aqua, so yes we get our share... lol

Just sounds like immaturity.

Don't call her. If she calls you and does apologize, try to be open to it. This may happen a few more times, but I bet soon she'll learn that you're not going to run after her and if she wants to be with you shes going to have to act like an adult and do her part.

I think you can change this behavior in her if you show her it's not going to fly with you.

el: thanks for having me clarify a little, although I don't want to go into details on a public forum. She broke an agreement we had... refused to think we agreed to anything ( we had an agreement unless she forgot). I was hurt by her actions and let her know. She doesn't seem to give a s*it.


I'm just so surprised she would hurt the relationship because of whatever she is thinking I did wrong. I called and apologized and said I wanted to make amends. I already put myself out there.


and you guys might be right about the immaturity...my friends have been telling me this about her all along.

'you guys might be right about the immaturity...my friends have been telling me this about her all along.'

and you didn't listen until now did you 🙂

No I didn't listen. We had an honestly great intellectual connection and emotional connection. I listened to that. I don't think I'm going to hear from her.. my friends also tell me to let her fuck around for a while and let her come back when she discovers herself and deals with her issues.

I care about her and hope I hear from her someday.

El- I totally enjoy your comments... I just haven't heard back from her and can't get hold of her. So I'm perplexed. I don't want to dump her but as time moves forward and I haven't heard back I'm starting to think she is dumping me.

All good though, I will be totally fine.

I can weigh in as a very Aqua girl. I'm airy through and through, but I have Sag/fire rising, Cap/earth Moon, and Venus in Pisces/water, so I have worked very hard through much therapy and spiritual journeys to integrate all my influences. HOWEVER, straight-up Aquas who don't work toward inner balance are MAJOR pains in the @&&. An imbalanced Aqua is usually a know-it-all, never accepts culpability even when obviously wrong, proud to a fault, and don't easily hear other sides of the story.

Truly if your Aqua girl is avoidant/distant over what you're calling a minor upset and doesn't seem to be agreeable to compromise, you will likely not be successful here. Air signs can believe in their own high-mightiness. Your only recourse with an Aqua is having some clear reasoning and facts to back up your side. Aquas' hearts are reached first through their minds. If you can impress her in logic, you can access her emotions.

Sorry... not remembering your sign, but if you want to try to start again with her, you might likely be always the one who takes the blame. You have to decide if you're ok with that long-term.