My aquarius love.....HELP!!!

So I met this aquarius guy about a year ago, I'm a gemini. We both had bad marriages, where both of our spouses cheated. It's pretty easy for me to move on from that but with him it's like he holds up a wall and oppress his feelings. Which is something that I'm having a hard time dealing with. We both like to play mind games with one another, something that we do alot. I've gotten to the point where I don't play them as much because I've actually have fallen in love with him. He's told that he loves me but later to say that he didn't mean it. Now don't get me wrong we both say mean things to one another him more than me and especially if something is going wrong in his life he tends to take it out on me but it bounces off and it's hard for me to stay mad long at him. Every since he left his wife things have been hard for him financially where he is in the process of losing everything. He moved back to his home state of Texas which is five states from me about 4 months ago and we still keep in touch with one another practically everyday....me more than him keeping in contact. So we decided to be just friends. He tells me that he isn't ready for a relationship but the next week he's ready to love and for someone to love him. I called him one day and thought he was at a girls house and he tells me that I need to trust him. He even asked me to move to Texas but the next week he says that I deserve to find love and for someone to love me back. If we get into an arguement he says he's done but done with what? We're just friends. He threatens to delete his yahoo account and facebook account (I'm not his friend on facebook) and all I have to do is sweet talk him and then he's keeping it. I mentioned to him that if he really didn't want to talk to me he wouldn't...why does he still talk to me if he isn't interested? He knows that I want to be more than friends with him. His own mom called him out while we were on the phone talking. She told him "you like her b/c if you didn't you wouldn't talk to her". He told me that he asked his mom what should he do about me and she said that I really love him and he might not find that again but he said that he doesn't feel anything for me but why even ask her if you don't feel anything. I'm not sure what to do at this point. I can't shake him for some reason. One part of me tells me to move on and another part says that I need to have patience and don't give up on him. What's a girl to do?

He's scared. Be patient if you really want more.

Well he may well like you a lot but I think he's just being realistic about the situation here. He has of course, moved five states away from you and physically you can't really enter a relationship from that sort of distance. It would be incredibly hard work. He is/was having a hard time financially too. I would say that he may see you as someone that he will be with within the future but I think that he understands that he may need a few months to sort himself out before he can commit to a relationship.

At the end of the day it is up to you as to what you do with your life. I think you can be still be patient and not give up on him — but that doesn't mean that you have to put your life on hold. You can also still get on with living your life and having fun.

Good luck.

Just b/c someone enters the dating game doesn't mean they're really ready. He may like you & he may WANT to be ready but he's NOT. Wanting to be ready & actually being ready are 2 different things.

He's not completely healed from his marriage. And no matter how good of a catch you are, it won't make him heal any faster. If anything, him meeting a woman who treats him like royalty is just going to complicate the emotional turmoil he's going through.

I think you should back off. Get your head out of the clouds & think realistically. You can't deny who you like/love BUT you can make the decision to not invest so much into a person so as not to get hurt/taken advantage of. Don't act like you don't have any control over this situation b/c you do. You want to be right where you are with him even though all these games you're playing isn't helping and/or moving you any closer to being his partner.

If he were to give in & make you his girlfriend, you'd be miserable. I'm glad he's not wifing you up b/c the only thing that'd change is that he'd be treating you with coldness while you're his girlfriend instead of just being his friend. And there is a difference. He already told you that he's not ready & I'm willing to bet you a million bucks that he meant it. He probably does have lapses & good moods where he's in the spirit to say sweet things to you, BUT as you've even admitted, his true colors/intentions/feelings eventually go back to "Nope, I'm not ready."

Why are you waiting on him to cut YOU off? It's not what he's doing/saying that you should base your decision to stay or not on. It's what he WON'T do. If you want a commitment from him, that's fine, BUT he's already SHOWN you better than he could tell you that he's not ready nor fit for one. If you can't handle that, you back off. Be the rational one & take some responsibility instead of waiting on someone whose emotionally unvailable & insecure to make all the major decisions. If you wait on him, you'll be waiting & going back & forth forever. And eventually you'll grow resentful.

I say back off a little bit. Give him some room. He may be a great person & a person worth loving but if you want a SUCCESSFUL relationship with him in the future, he needs to be fully healed & secure. Right now he's not relationship ready