my question about aquarius men

hi. i have read a lot on this board about aquarius because it seems as if they are all i am attracted to(except for one nasty virgo a while back). i am a cancer gemini(june 22) so i admit that sometimes i am confused about who i am. anyway i need advice from aquarius or people who know them well. i am seeing this guy that i met online. we talked online for a few days first then met and i ended up orally pleasuring him. he ended up getting too excited so it didn't last that long. i thought he was a virgin. so anyway i text him the next day telling him that i had a great time but he never says anything back until the day after that. when i text him back i don't hear from him for a WEEK! when i do, he apologizes for disapearing and says that he does that a lot which is why he doesn't date. i ask him if he's interested and he says he is but he doesn't have time to date anyone so i say okay have a nice life. a few hours later he texts me again basically asking if i want to be friends with benefits. i say okay and we meet up, have a good time and that was that. this goes off and on for a few weeks until he starts to blow me off and i got angry so i tell him that i don't like how he's acting and that you have to be friends with a person to have a fwb situation. he texts me an apology and we don't talk for a month. then i see him on messenger and decide to talk to him. he actually talks to me and we have a really hot conversation and end up making plans to see each other the next day which he bails on. we make plans to see each other the day after that and he almost bails on those too until i get angry and wont answer his text. he CALLS me (he hates talking on the phone)and apologizes and tells me that he can hang out after all. after we hang out that last time, we make plans to hang out on friday of that week(it was monday). on friday, he doesn't answer me at all doesn't text or messege me and we end up not meeting up. the next morning i get a text from him saying he's so so so so sorry about standing me up and he'll make up for it next time(apparently he had to work late). we end up not meeting up at all until a couple of weeks later. we have a good time and i honestly felt like we were really connecting. so lately we have been talking on messenger and he has gotten to this point where he doesn't answer me and i feel like i'm having a one sided conversation.

Everytime i get mad or complain about him ignoring my messeges or texts, he gives me a plausible reason and we talk for a little while. so last night i sent him a message and he doesn't respond for like twenty minutes(on messenger) so i write him back and said for him to contact me if he ever wants to talk to me. he writes me back almost immediately and says not to be like that and that he was asleep. i said fine and he immediately signed off messenger. so i felt bad for making him angry and i sent him a text message saying that i was sorry and that i hope he wasn't mad at me. he messeges me back two hours later and says he not mad but he doesn't like drama and that's why he doesn't date anymore. so i text him with a message saying ok sorry again and bye. he texts me back saying don't sweat it, he's already over it with a happy face. i don't know what to say back. i don't know if that means he is over dating me. or if he was never dating me in the first place. i don't understand. if i annoy him so much why does he continue to talk to me? i don't know what to do. can someone give me some feedback please?

This is obviously not a sign thing --- you let him jerk you around and you complain?

You've given him the green flag to do exactly that --- prob best to move on and forget his ass because he will keep doing it and coming up with even more plausible crapola.

FWB don't complain, you take what you get when you can 🙂 so sounds like you need a bf to nag nag nag.

Um, what is so confusing—

He asked you if you'd mind a FWB situation and you said no—

If you couldn't handle it you shouldn't have allowed it. He's been fairly honest with you and only taken from you what you've said you're willing to give.

FWB don't necessarily speak everyday or even every week - they speak when they want a good romp. And you said FWB was cool....so again I ask the question?? What is your problem?

you people are judgemental and very unhelpful. being cool on a message board will NEVER make you cool in real life.

raye, no one knows you personally on this board so they can't judge you...they can only comment on what you write and ask for feedback on...but you're now judging the comments based on what would you have considered a more helpful feedback? 🙂

There is no battle of the coolest online where no one really knows you, is there or did I miss that one?

i agree with everyone on here. ive dated 3 aquas and trust me, if they like you or not, let them come to you. it has to be on their terms or else they feel rushed and thats one thing that aquas cant stand. things not being in their control(meaning relationships).

they have to have things go very slowly especially if they are interested and i think you pushing him into all these meetings is whats driving him further and further away.

not to mention that you should never innitiate an encounter with an aqua with sex to begin with. its almost as if you through the whole "potential" relationship factor out the window and theres no real connection.
aquas need that connection with a person before they ever think about sleeping with them.

so you kinda set yourself up for failure with him by not giving this whole thing a pure chance.
hes distant because thats what aquas do. its kinda like their way of coming back to themselves.
and trust me, they can live completely and utterly alone if they choose to.
so im afraid to say this but you two were never in a relationship, and probablly never will be.

"Ummm... not to be a dick here, but it seems to me that this guy is an asshole"

-hmmm. i don't think he is an asshole. they just started hanging out so he is probably confused and unsure as to what he wants from her. maybe he is not ready for a relationship but he really enjoys her company. he is right about the "no drama" thing though...and aqua guys HATE drama.

he may be using her as a friend with benefits but she is also letting him...and she went pretty far with him from the very beginning. she made it known that she wasn't very prude. so i think he is just going on the message she was sending him.