I have studied these boards for a couple of days and have been engrossed in other sites that talk about relationships with aqua males, and wanted to chime in.
Boy, where do I begin. Mine started over a year ago. We connected quickly. I am an aries, so of course there were sparks... It was a long distance thing. I thought the first time when he had to leave town, well that was a fun fling, but he wanted me to come visit and so the ever-famous romantic friendship began.
But realized he was on online dating sites. I confronted him and he said he was not sleeping with others, he was just lonely at times. Yet, every time we saw each other, the connection seemed deeper. About 5 months in, I cracked and had to have that "where do we stand talk." He literally ran away. I realized he was not good at sharing his feelings at all. Not even a tiny bit. He came back though, eventually.
He contacts me quite often via the computer -- hardly ever asks me out when he's in town. You'd expect to be inseperable from someone who comes to town when he lives in another state. Not at all. In fact, after we would have a great night out, great sex, he would seemingly float back into his proverbial cave and wouldn't even check his online dating profiles for a bit. It was like he was subdued, and perfectly happy retreating into that world in his mind.
I have never felt my patience tried in my whole life. I have wanted to give up so many times. As in, I'm done. Yet, out of the blue, on Vday, I get red roses. Or a gift of some sort on a random day. Or a phone call saying hi (few and far between, but crazy surprising).
What bugs me the most is he's online. But he doesn't seem to date too much, because much of the time on nights and weekends, he is talking to me. It's like the online world is his laboratory, where we feels safe maybe talking to people, maybe doing a little hanky panky online, but not pursuing it in the real world. I have major intuition about these things. And if I ask him a direct question, he does tell the truth.
This experience is so intriguing and so mysterious, and so different, I can't explain. The sex is amazing too, and very intimate in the moment. And I wonder how he could have this level of intimacy with anyone else.
He is textbook autonomous, aloof, extremely intelligent and a goofball around me at times. He can't commit. There seems to be the "what if" of the future always hanging over him. I know I am a pretty good catch, but it doesn't
matter. There's always the future, and that's the rainbow he lives on.
He's an absolute jackass when it comes to certain things -- like something seemingly normal like making plans for an upcoming weekend. He forgets, it's not important. The way it works is when he's in town, I get a call at the end of the workday, saying if I want to do something, for that night. Take it or leave it people. That's how he rolls.
I hope this is helpful for that specific group that needs some insight into the most intriguing sign of all. And I'd be happy to share more as questions and comments come in.
Hey you, just try to express some feelings some time. Like, I think you look nice. Or, thanks for spending time with me. I enjoyed it. Little things like that go a long way.
This thing I describe above is more of a friends with bennies situation, and even hi cutie can be enough to make me smile. A little hand holding and touching isn't so bad either. If you let your guard down just a little, you will get so much more in return. :-) Try it and see what happens. This is from a very strong, smart, independent Aries women if that puts things in context for you.
Yes, I'm a Sag girl...we're supposed to be "a perfect match" but my last Aqua was moving WAY too fast for me. And we had a huge friggin fight because he was angry that I wasn't "making room in my life for him"....
Uhhhh...whatever...we've been dating for a few weeks...calm down.
I was bored. He is my second Aqua and while the sex with the first Aqua was great...still....yawn.
Both of them still contact me...i get the random email or text message here and there.
Honestly, I think its my being so underwhelmed that entices them.
So ladies, I'd say thats the key. Just be underwhelmed...let them chase you. Even if you aren't running but getting your nails done and just doing your thang...seems Aqua's like what they can't have.
yeah, i'm with one now and that sounds like him. it's hard to pin down his motives exactly and he SEEMS like he doesn't care. Even though it's easy to tell if you focus on it hard enough cus he just wants me around (for "no real" reason). I'm having trouble with the whole being distant and aloof thing.
He just talks to me when HE wants to. or we go out when HE wants to. It's partially stupid, but i guess understandable if he's only thinking about himself. So i figure when he doesn't talk to me then just not bother him, until I actually NEED to talk to him or he wants to talk to/share something with me. Anything like that happen to you?