scandal2ny
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need advice...can anyone suggest anything?
IF your sure theres noone else in his life, and hes being honest with you about that .... ( umm, im sure you guys are honest with each other, about every little thing?) you need to realize the following:
1) splitting up with you may just be a shallow excuse/ruse (explained in later points).
2) try and work out the details, love is never enough in any relationship, there should be some degree of planning.
3) If you still love each other (which im sure you do), and your sure hes the right guy for you, then give him the space he needs.
4) Even though ur giving him space, make sure he REALIZES that you still wanna be with him and you will remain loyal.
5) Make sure hes not taking his work, family etc. (however hectic his life is) as an excuse to run away. ( SOme gemini's take extraneous issues to run away if they feel theyre partners are too clingy or if theyre unsure of their own feelings ).
6) Tell him sweetly but firmly 'Staying friends i can try, even though you know it'll hurt me.' and be there for him. Make him realize that you know he's been trying his best to try and contribute to ur 'relationship' and you'll help him get thru this phase. However lil its been thru his hectic period.
7) Probe. Use your aquarian probing skills. Find out what issues he has, help him solve them. DO something as simple as plan out his day, so he can take time out for you. GUide him. Hes just a gemini.
8) Stay strong. Probe find out if he's done something bad or wrong (anything against his moral code) or thinks you dont have enough in common anymore because you arent spending much time with him( for no fault of your own or his ) and feels guilty for any of the above things.
9) Focus! and be patient. You must remember the nature of a relationship might change, but never the essence. Look 10 yrs ahead! There would be more variables to work with. Your job , his job etc. This is just so minor in the face of all that.
10)... ill add in more points as and when i think of it. If you think ive gone a bit far and you dont know if you can commit to him for a lifetime ( for whatever girly reason, maybe ur unsure etc.) - then just be friends and BE THERE for him whenever he needs you. Try and do things together. Dont forget to tell him you love him.
Lemme know how it goes. I mightve skipped a few points in between. Especially what to say part.
I just found this site by fluke. Decided to stick around for some reason i can't fathom yet
1) splitting up with you may just be a shallow excuse/ruse (explained in later points).
2) try and work out the details, love is never enough in any relationship, there should be some degree of planning.
3) If you still love each other (which im sure you do), and your sure hes the right guy for you, then give him the space he needs.
4) Even though ur giving him space, make sure he REALIZES that you still wanna be with him and you will remain loyal.
5) Make sure hes not taking his work, family etc. (however hectic his life is) as an excuse to run away. ( SOme gemini's take extraneous issues to run away if they feel theyre partners are too clingy or if theyre unsure of their own feelings ).
6) Tell him sweetly but firmly 'Staying friends i can try, even though you know it'll hurt me.' and be there for him. Make him realize that you know he's been trying his best to try and contribute to ur 'relationship' and you'll help him get thru this phase. However lil its been thru his hectic period.
7) Probe. Use your aquarian probing skills. Find out what issues he has, help him solve them. DO something as simple as plan out his day, so he can take time out for you. GUide him. Hes just a gemini.
8) Stay strong. Probe find out if he's done something bad or wrong (anything against his moral code) or thinks you dont have enough in common anymore because you arent spending much time with him( for no fault of your own or his ) and feels guilty for any of the above things.
9) Focus! and be patient. You must remember the nature of a relationship might change, but never the essence. Look 10 yrs ahead! There would be more variables to work with. Your job , his job etc. This is just so minor in the face of all that.
10)... ill add in more points as and when i think of it. If you think ive gone a bit far and you dont know if you can commit to him for a lifetime ( for whatever girly reason, maybe ur unsure etc.) - then just be friends and BE THERE for him whenever he needs you. Try and do things together. Dont forget to tell him you love him.
Lemme know how it goes. I mightve skipped a few points in between. Especially what to say part.
I just found this site by fluke. Decided to stick around for some reason i can't fathom yet
thank u for the advice its good advice and im also new to this site i jus went through a hard break-up and im real hurt...i just hope it all works out at the end...but thank you...any more advice is deff appreciated...thanks
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