need advice on aquarius mixed signals

Hey everyone, ill try to keep this short and brief as possible. Im a 21 yr old gay taurus with venus in gemini and moon cap, i like a guy who is 21 also and sun aqua, moon pisces, venus aqua.

We both work together and I started saying hi to him randomly and calling him funny names when i saw him now and then. I am pretty eccentric and out there being a venus in gemini and always talking to anyone and everyone. dont follow the norm. At this stage didnt know if he liked guys. At work he'd try to be around me and started calling me a nickname to. He also would stare at me when i was in the area, like really obviously and smile when i looked up then turn his head. i can sense him staring at me sometimes when i, not looking. this happneded over 2 months and I was aloof and he chased me to add him on facebook eventually. We started chatting on facebook at night after work. Nothing heavy just joking and being sarcastic back and forth. He asked me straight up if i had a partner or girlfriend (i didnt tell him i liked guys). I said not really and left it at that. each night he would say goodnight and add "xoxo" or "xxxx" which i thought was weird for a straight guy. He usually facebooked ,e during the day to say hey and start a convo, i rarely initiated. After 2 weeks he said goodnight and added 2 kiss emoticons which got me thiking is this guy gay? He can be feminine but also masculine. He always smiles around me and laughs at my weird corny jokes.

He came round to my place and we hung out and played some xbox. Every now and then he'd slap my thigh to say i played well. He was a lil nervous around me but very laughy and funny. asking me qeustions.


i eventually came out to my family and thought id tell him and see what happens. He was awesome. Amazingly awesome. He said that he didnt care if i liked guys and said "Dude, i love you, it doesnt matter". and then said again "i love you buddy

But he still seemed grouchy for about a week. A week later he was back to normal and lovey doves. He msgd me "i love you xxx" even once that week cause i helped hom with something. Then we hung out again and he confessed something personal and became grouchy again for a few days but not as long still contacting me tho. He invited me to his house and and said "come over and hang" then texted me a minute later and said "actually don't come over, sorry" I just replied "wow" then he replied 5 mins later and said "relax just joking!" Why is he playing around like this? I went over and hung out with him and he was grumpy but happy I was there
But only grouchy to me not other ppl there. He also kept asking who I was texting if I was using my phone. I get vibes he likes me but like he's angry at himself for liking me. Confusing.
He msgs me the other day and I replied all happy and he was grumpy so I said "I'll leave you be" then he said "don't leave me" and was
Nice for a few texts then became rude and said BYE. And I haven't heard from him and its 2 days later. I texted him once just to wish him a great day and success in something he was
Doing that day but he didn't reply. So do I assume he hates me? I'm always
Nice to him and
Not clingy. Any advice? Does he like me? He's always different around me. Even when he used to be in his aquarius moods and not talkative he's still wanna kinda talk to me as his mood didn't effect me I would just treat him normally. But this is the first time he has
Ignored me.
Thanks for ur help guys

LOL thats funny how it took u guys that long to find out each other was gay........But to be honest he's being a bit of a Diva this is how aquarians show you how different they are and how troublesome they can be in relationships because we don't do the normal lovey dovey shit.. well we do but it can also get us to the point where we want to gag... We have to be the complete opposite of everything just so we can understand and see everything from the opposing point of view.... its how we learn....maybe his attitude is trying to engage you in an argumentative relationship process..The purpose is typically to test the quality of the typical concept of relationships and identify weaknesses in its structure, and to use the information to either improve or abandon the original concept.

Thanks for the reply! Yes it was awhile to realise about being gay lol he is still kinda in denial so that's what makes it harder... So you think he's just trying to provoke an argument to test the friendship relationship and see what would happen? Is it usual for aquarius"s to tell u something deep then become angry at themselves for letting something slip thru their guard? Even when he's in his full on grumpy grouchy aloof aquarius mood he still wants to talk to me as if I'm either helping him feel better by letting him be grumpy to me and not letting it bother me personally.

well he's got that venus in aquarius. You know what aquarius venus loves right? They love DISTANT love.
The further the better. J/K
I really dont know. Just read the articles and my MIL has one, and my husband's cousin is married to an Aquarius venus and I don't know how she does it or likes it, but her hubby is always AWAY. That's got to be effing lonely as hell. Fine if he's gone a few days and makes calls and makes sure he's home all the time after work but for months and months? It's crazy but hey, some people like that.

of course, i'm just talking in general characteristics. You have to really find out where his houses are, and his aspects.

Thanks guys you've been a really big help.

Sammy20 - why would he not want to like me? When he said "I love you xxx" I said "haha thx bro ditto" was that a bad response? I'm just trying to be not to emotional and scare him off.
He'll say something like "do u wanna hug?" And I'll say "are you sure ur comfortable with that?" Cause I know the next day he'll hate himself for doing it. And he says "actually nah". Should I just let it happen instead of asking him? I'm just trying to help him not get angry at himself. It's confusing! Haha

Lisabethur8 - yeh I kinda notice the "distant love" thing and he can be a bit if a loner - not really any close friends at all. I notice he's always friendly with everyone but to me he CAN be sweet as but is more moody which I think is his true self

I really don't think this has anything to do with astrological signs and everything to do with the emotional roller coaster being young, gay and closeted can bring.

Diva?

No.
There is nothing "diva" about it. People all over the world are MURDERED for being gay.

How about terrified of losing friends, family or even job prospects ON TOP of all the typical "oh no I like someone" emotional stuff.

You said
"Evebtualy he came over one night and kinda confessed he liked guys and thought about them 99.9% of the time and that girls were a cover. I was kinda shocked that he confided in me but was supportive and kept my cool and left it at that. The next day at work he seemed normal to everyone else but cold and stoney faced to me and agitated. Id say "hey" and hed be like "WHAT?" in a gruff tone so i just left it. We still played xbox that night"


^ That right there says it all my dear.
He is young and insecure, he likes you and that scares him.

If you were my bff I'd tell you to move on and find someone who's a little more evolved but I'm not so I'll leave it with this

If you really think this guy is worth it you're going to need to be VERY Patient. Not hold your breath, and enjoy all the little things because that might be all there is.

Good luck.

CancerLeoDynamite - thanks for your advice 🙂 I agree with you, he is at the stage where he's figuring out in his head who he is and very confused. For reasons I can't explain he's very special to me and I can't let him go just because he isn't evolved. Ill wait a lifetime even if it only to be here for him thru his journey, even if I only see little things, ill still cherish them. I get the feeling he needs me in his life whether for friendship or love so ill be here for him.

Thanks again

Why would he invite me over his place then say "actually nah don't come over" , leave it for 5 mins for me to stew over then say "relax, just joking!"

Is he testing to see if I WANT to come over and be with him?