Ohh these Aqua men, when will we learn??

Hello all, I am kinda new here long time lurker first time posting. Please be kind 🙂 So here's my story

I have a Aqua male friend who I have know for a few years now and in the past year we became closer hanging out a lot more, and I have realized in this past year that I have strong feelings for him. I would like to think he feels the same or did. He started to shows subtle signs but as soon as he did this he wouldn't talk to me for a couple of weeks. Then out of nowhere he would start chatting me up again like nothing happened. Long story short a month or so ago we were hanging out and he started talking about this girl he was casually dating and how he was taking it slow with her, well now over the holiday he made her his girfriend. I was shocked because the whole time I have know him he hasnt had a girlfriend. I am happy for him but at the same time sad, that I probably missed my chance.

She is a Virgo and I am an Aries if that means anything.

Oh and since he started dating her exclusively he has been sappy on FB like she didnt spend New years with him and he put a 😢 face and should've just stayed home. I texted him asking what's wrong and I got nothing back. Now everytime I sign onto FB chat and he's on he will sign off as soon as I get on.

I just dont understand why he is acting like this now that he's with her. Bums me out cause I am trying to be there for him as a friend. Anyways, this girl better not hurt him or I will be out for her..haha

Any insight on this would be appreciated!! Always something with Aqua men I see here...

It sounds like its not an Astrology component..

He's just not that into you.

Thank you for your honesty 🙂 I think he once was but he is over it I took too long.

I think he once was too.

However, he also 'took too long'. It's not something you 'did' or 'didn't' do.

Aqua men are typically quite loyal once officially committed. You mentioned while knowing him, he never had a girlfriend. Maybe this is one of his first serious relationships and is really trying to not mess it up, despite the odd methods he may be taking to ensure that (i.e.; New Years).

I made a post a couple weeks ago.. I think on the 21st, give or take a few days about the circumstances between an Aqua and I. I'm mostly saying that because I'm lazy and don't want to retype everything. It's sorta applicable, if you want to peep it quick.

You are right he could be very serious about her, I mean he has to be if he made her his GF and he hasnt had one in 3 years. He knows I just question him a lot, I want him to be happy and I just don't want to see him hurt. That's probably my feelings coming into play though.

I read your post and it sounds like you and Aqua have a deeper connection, as I have never been physical with this Aqua besides a long hug. LOL

You're Aqua sounds like he is in love with you because he is romantic about it not sexual about it. That's pretty special I would keep him around. Cheers 🙂

My insight would be yep perhaps he's just not that into you. The way Aquas care for 'interest' vs 'friends' are similar sorry to say but if you have only just recently gotten close to him by hanging out more you might just be fishing for those signs that you yourself want to see.

It's hard to say though. It's easy to say maybe he did like you at one stage but that's false hope. Are you really caring for him just as a friend or do you believe he has these feelings for you that he's not acknowledging?

If it's true friendship then awesome, dust yourself off and keep going if it's not I suggest you remove yourself from this because your Aqua friend has found himself a new shiny and will likely continue to not contact you not because he's ignoring you but you're down the bottom of his priority list.

Posted by GetKist
You are right he could be very serious about her, I mean he has to be if he made her his GF and he hasnt had one in 3 years. He knows I just question him a lot, I want him to be happy and I just don't want to see him hurt. That's probably my feelings coming into play though.

I read your post and it sounds like you and Aqua have a deeper connection, as I have never been physical with this Aqua besides a long hug. LOL

You're Aqua sounds like he is in love with you because he is romantic about it not sexual about it. That's pretty special I would keep him around. Cheers 🙂

Ahhhh, I mean - I guess. My point was that they will come around again as friends, and friends is how they also begin romantic relationships.

The best thing you can do is support him, and try not to voice TOO many questions because he is also possibly emotionally vulnerable (obviously without admitting it) and could possibly use at least 1 person who is behind his choices simply because they respect his judgment.

I admire your sense of righteousness towards those you care for, and I would bet that trait is always there whether or not you're romantically interested.

Aquanoz- I have seen your insight on these boards and I love how detailed you are 🙂

Okay, so I can see how it would be hard to say given that this is online and can't see things first hand. Also, I gave little detail about his subtle hints in liking me(hints I believed) First time he messaged me a heart with nothing else. I really didn't know how to repsond so I sent one back, with a wink face ...He replied with you're in trouble. I guess he was testing me? Either way he was the one who started to come around me more just hanging out with me watching TV and talking always asking me all sorts of questions. When we would go out with other mutual friends to a bar or something he was always around me or looking at me seeing what I was doing. He even hugged me goodbye and said goonight baby while doing it! (Strange because he had never called me that before) Telling me I smell good, etc...

I mean this could all be because I am a good friend..no—

I'm confused when you say do you think he has feelings for you that he's not acknowledging?? From what I used to think I was for sure in my head that he was hiding feelings, body language between us told me that. Now a GF though how could he have feelings for me and be with her?

I really do care for him as a friend as that is what we are and always have been, he has always told me family and friends always come first. So I am just taken back by why he is ignoring me? I guess this girl is new and shiny like you said and he is exploring her and its new and exciting to him. I'm not joking when I say I am happy for him, he takes his time before diving into a relationship and I admire that. He knows I am happy for him I support him with her, I have asked him when do I get to meet her. He asked how about New Years?? but then New Years rolled around I phoned and he said she was going to hang out with friends not him. I invited him out but he declined and went with his brother.

I'm rambling sorry...hahaha


Huntress- Yes he always will show up or message out of the blue. Love the unexpected. Thank you for the kind words I value friendships because good ones are hard to find and I want my close friends to know I am always here for them.

Just wanted to say aqua came by my apartment unexpected tonight. I was his pit stop on the way to his girlfriends house. He told me about New Years then had to take a crap in my toilet.. Lmao I'm such an awesome friend 🙂

Be careful. You don't want to become a "fallback girl" for Mr. Aqua.

Alright given the circumstances we'll assume he did like you given these actions of his. I generally don't assume too much based on his sun sign because I can be completely opposite to him.

For me a relationship is formed a many levels. It can be my infatuation with someone in which I will actively spend more time with that person to see if it goes past that infatuation. Scenario 2 is when I become the enabler and by caring too much about a friend I begin to like them. Scenario 3 which is where I think your case belongs is when the friendship takes a step up.

During this closer friendship I wouldn't say I'm testing the other person but I would also naturally be a bit more questioning and caring, I want to see what you're made of and where to place you. To all my close friends, guys or girls I use this

Also apologies if I'm quite blunt, sugarcoating is really not my forte

if he was into you, you would know it......i know when an aries is into me oh boy i do so im sure he knows the balls in his court

You're in danger. Lol, he's right. I think he also knew your feeling for him but you guys are playing around too much and too slow. Basically, you just miss one beat. Hah, it's life. I'd say you need to be careful now that he has a girlfriend. He might sometimes use you as a security blanket or a fall back girl if he knows you still habour these feeling and you're WILLING to be all of those things. If you just want to be his close friend, use your actions to prove it, he will understand and respect you for your choice. They might be humantarians but they don't appreciate weaklings either.

Aquanoz I said thank you with a big smile I was taken back because he had never said anything like that before. So you're right he probably friends ones me since he thought I wasn't feeling him. Oh and please don't sugarcoat I don't like that I'm a honest girl myself. Well now I don't want anything from him but to remain friends. He has a girlfriend and I respect that fully. I will be here for him when he needs me but not in that fallback girl kind of way just as a friend. If something more were to develop it would have to be later down the line I wouldn't just want to be a rebound for him, I am not that type of person.


At Metoo you are right I thought of that after he left like WTF he is def comfortable to drop a load here before he goes to his gf because he is probably not comfortable enough to do that at her house yet. He has never fully disappeared from me for too long maybe 2 weeks at the most? Either way I am stepping back not initiating contact because I won't intrude on what he has going on, and I will live me life and just have fun if he's there for it cool .. he's a lot of fun.

Exam he doesn't know how I feel I never told him but I guess actions speak louder than words and we both missed the bus 🙂

Oh and I am anything but a weakling I'm an Aries!!

You're in denial

If he was truly that into you, he would've made his move on you

This guy was able to get into a relationship with someone else so obviously he has no problem going after what he wants

Sure, he might've liked you a little, but not enough. Truth is, he knew not being with you or chasing you aggressively could possibly result in you 2 being what you are now...just friends...and you need to face the facts in that he was willing to take that risk

The reason he's being all sappy on facebook about his new girlfriend is b/c she truly has his heart. He is committed to her and probably loves her

And since you two have shared non-platonic emotions for eachother at some point in time, it actually makes sense that he stay away from you now that he's in a relationship. I know it sucks for you b/c you're like hey, we can still be friends a*shole! But hey, that's why they say keep your friendships platonic b/c you never know when you're gonna meet that 1 good guy who will actually cut off the women that he's had any kind of intimate feelings for or relations with

And be honest, that's a good thing. Trust me, if you were in his girlfriend's shoes, you wouldn't want him talking to you either. You'd just be a distraction or someone he might potential make a relationship-killing mistake with when he's vulnerable

Plus, you might just have to face the fact that to him the friendship was never a real one. While he was single, you were someone to vent to, to talk to, to have a semi-romance with.

Or he could be in a relationship with a very jealous woman who gives him hell for speaking to his female friends

Either way, this guy showed you his true colors when he abandoned the friendship all b/c he got into a relationship. There's your proof that the friendship didn't mean nearly as much to him as it did to you

Not trying to be mean, but I'm all for dealing with the facts & being honest. The truth is, people do what they do b/c they want to. And when they don't do something, it's b/c they didn't want to

Asking or even knowing 'why' won't change the facts.

Wish him the best, chalk it up as a lesson learned and move on. The friendship wasn't real. It might've been years ago, bt people change. That's life. That's reality.

All air sign men freak me out right away or disappoint me eventually. Of course this is probably due to the fact that my Moon and Mercury are in more "sensible" earth houses, so I'm probably not looking for what they have going on...which appears flaky and non-committal to me.

The one exception is Libras, and even then, I think it probably has to be balanced out with something else in their chart.

I've never met a Gemini man I could or would have a long-term relationship with, and same with Aqua men.

My mother and the sister with whom I have the most conflict are both Aquas; it's almost like I don't buy what they're selling, my mom was an unstable parent growing up (though thank god i had very grounded and loving grandparents) and my sister is a terrible, selfish mother to her own children, she's the antithesis of my Capricorn sister who is a very nurturing mother and me and my Gemini sister, who have just avoided motherhood altogether maybe permanently, or at least until we KNOW FOR SURE we're ready to be mothers.

My father, who abandoned my mother while she was pregnant basically? (Cheated on her, was violent)...also an Aqua.

I got involved with one Aqua. Total flake. Hate any man who makes me feel insecure. No thank you. I'm sorry, I know there are good Aquas out there...but apparently I don't get along with them.

Don't get me wrong. I love my mother very much. From a distance.

^^ the moon usually explains your relationship with your mother (that, and other strong feminine signs in your chart - Neptune/venus, ect probably relationship with grandparents, if easier?) most likely. (Capricorn moon - check out google for capricorn moon women & men) though the men differ too.

I say steal Him hahaha. I'm kidding lol

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I say steal Him hahaha. I'm kidding lol

nooo you're not. 😛

get 'em!!

(folks do not listen to the voice of unreasonable unquestionability) lol

Well I have since met his GF and I have to say I really like her. She is sweet and even admitted she was nervous to meet me since I was his best friend? News to me...but regardless, I can't hate on their happiness.

Posted by GetKist
Well I have since met his GF and I have to say I really like her. She is sweet and even admitted she was nervous to meet me since I was his best friend? News to me...but regardless, I can't hate on their happiness.

you're his bestfriend and he's got a gf? his gf should be his best friend. ah well. different strokes for different folks.

i guess i'm a real bitch then cause i can't take that. i need to be no. 1.