Outwardly strong and cool but inwardly distressed

I feel like I can't reveal that I am hurting and need attention or support, instead I put on this front that everything is great and that I don't need anyone.

It's not that I don't feel emotions as an Aquarius, it's just that I am totally uncomfortable with revealing them! I hate showing people that I'm vulnerable, I would rather them think that everything is great and that I'm calm and collected.

Can any other Aqua's relate?

I am an Aries and i can relate so i dont think its soley an Aqua thing.

I feel that if people think i am vunerable, they will use it against me!

Yeah true, especially crying in public, that's like SELF VOLUNTEERING yourself for humiliation*shudders* I'm also like u, good at masquerading emotions, then i'll find a cave to be by myself & cry my eyes out. But these past few yrs, i haven't leaked a drop bcoz none of the ppl or circumstances deserved that honour-i know it's unhealthy, but it's better than wasting time balling & dehydrating myself over things

To ME vulnerability is synonymous with weakness. I'm all about finding a solution to my problems, wallowing doesn't solve things for me. I do stress A LOT though, but the only tears i let out of these browns, are tears of joy.

Well ppl do different things when they feel vulnerable including wallowing, I'm not gonna retract that. Falling apart is not me,things may fall apart around me(eg.personal problems), but that doesn't mean i should fall apart also.I've been through many transformations & succeeded without crumbling. If your way works for u, my way works for me too . I'm not afraid of hostility, bring it on if u had to.

Or maybe its language difference,here wallowing=self pity(woe is me attitude)-vulnerable=capability to being easily hurt/expose to things that can hurt 1 emotionally or otherwise.When ppl feel exposed to hurtful things(vulnerable),they can adopt a self pitying attitude(wallow).

I'm Aqua with Mars in Pisces and I feel like that really muddles me up sometimes...

I have the detached aloofness typical of my sign which makes me seem unapproachable to some but inside I'm really soft and need affection.

On the outside people think I'm invincible and that I NEVER need support or reassurance (I've had friends tell me they never give or show me support because they don't think I need it) but on the inside, the opposite is true, I need reassurance and validation.

Hey (3 elements, fwe), i understand what ur saying, crying was not big at my house either. I had an aqua father & a virgo mom. Mom kept it like an army officer & dad was the kind that told u big girls don't cry even if u were 1yr old at the time. I was never a whiny child(and am not that way as an adult) bcoz of that. I'm raising my son the same way. It's funny how childhood patterns stick. When we are young, we are like clean slates & whatever is written on during those yrs stays with us.Lol i wish i was a child again, being a grown up SUX.

Same with me. I hate feeling vulnerable when it comes to "emotions".
But Im learning to slowly bring down my guard.

@ayb..make sure u wear an armour, it's a concrete jungle out there.

I too cant bring myself to show my vulnerability in public...even if I'm tearing up inside, i just cannot show it. For me it just feels like I dont wana burden people with my issues u know...and that I also do not want to seem weak...cz im usually the one comforting someone. I just feel I have to be strong all the time.
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