PLEASE HELP ANY AQUARIAN!!!

So i met this aquarian guy moon in aquarius also.... at work i work at a college and he attends the school as a student anyway this was in 2012 now i never knew he noticed or paid me any attention i knew of him but never befriended or conversated with him because i always thought he was an asshole and thought that i would never date him lol. he took two semesters off and in 2014 this yr i saw him at one of the college parties but even then he never spoke or said anything his brother was with him and he was conversating with me and my friends and asked to take a pic of him and his brother the aquarian i just mentioned they conversed a little more the brother not him he was standoffish and stuckup i thought he was handsome but it didnt dawn on me that he was student i remembered back in 2012 until he inboxed me on a dating website called tagged.com after noticing the pictures two of which we took i then said u look familiar i saw u and ur brother at frat party at the school he laughed and said maybe then proceeded to ask me for my number we exchanged numbers got to know each other the first week he asked me to be his girlfriend shortly after i said no the first time he says why i say because i dont know you im a capricorn so im the type i like to take my time before i just let someone be my man so i said to myself u know what illl give it a try after some thought the following day after he made a joke about other girls likin him he is an extremely handsome dude so a lotta girls like him so i laughed and proceeded to say well i might as well cuff u then if thats the case he laughed and said make it happen i did then we started dating afterwards we talk almost everyday laughed joked but he was always rude at times a little blunt for my taste and arrogant some things i would take personally and we would argue over the most silly things hes VERY ARGUMENTATIVE so after awhile i got tired of the arguing and hes a little on the crazy side to he says a lotta off the wall things but i knew he cared about me because he would always call me just to fall asleep in silence for hrs on the phone he would tell me he misses me but as soon as things gets good he spazzes and starts to argue with me once again over small things well shortly after that i got fed up the last small argument was over a question i asked him he told me his grandfather was sick he was helping him get well i sympathized with him said to him i hope everythings ok and i asked how old was his grandfather

continuation it cut off.....my grandmother died so i was gonna make conversation to try to make him feel better he spazzed on me because i asked him that question and i just snapped i finally lost my patience i told him if this is gonna work we have to stop the arguing over small things i hate to argue i even tried to come to a conclusion to lessen the stress and suggest we be friends to feel one another out because i walk on eggshells everytime i talk to him he stated i dont be friends with girls if u want to go go i said i dont want to go i simply stated it as a last resort not a final solution i really want to be with you i asked him what he wanted to do he said i told u already then after i said well i wanna remain in a relationship with you after that he didnt respond and he dissapeared without a trace he wont answer my texts at all its been a week !!!

a**hole not marker the site blocked it out

Why do you have to be so put off by a little harmless debate on a topic every now and then?

umm i wasnt put off i was implying that the site blurted out the word a**hole something i added in the paragraph

I'm thinking... it's most likely a mental ploy much like the one he pulled to get you to be official with him earlier than your used to doing.

But, I think he only does that when he feels hurt by you in some way. Like the first time you wouldn't be official when he asked was a lot more hurtful to him I think then you would expect ^.^
And, this time you threatened to end it with him when he's dealing with his grandfather. So.... I'm sure he's probably hurt again I dunno

I'm not saying he's perfect okay...
I'm just saying what I think is possibly why he is being the way he is.
I really couldn't say what's going to happen either.

In both scenarios it's absolutely usual for a person to want to take their time with getting hooked up and quite usual to want to sympathize in the other...

It's just you gotta realize the everyday stuff that hurts your feelings doesn't phase him but anything like the two topics above will and if he's anything like me I don't handle stuff like that very well.

Im not an aqua. Im a cap like you who is with an aqua. Really though, i dont think people should have to walk on eggshells in a relationship. I think a little debate is fun. My ex saw it as argumentative, but I saw it as intriguing conversation. I am much more suited for the aqua. Id like to ask what kind of things he was argumentative about and how he did it. Also curious about your definition of spazzing out. That might help us help you.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I'm thinking... it's most likely a mental ploy much like the one he pulled to get you to be official with him earlier than your used to doing.

But, I think he only does that when he feels hurt by you in some way. Like the first time you wouldn't be official when he asked was a lot more hurtful to him I think then you would expect ^.^
And, this time you threatened to end it with him when he's dealing with his grandfather. So.... I'm sure he's probably hurt again I dunno

I'm not saying he's perfect okay...
I'm just saying what I think is possibly why he is being the way he is.
I really couldn't say what's going to happen either.

In both scenarios it's absolutely usual for a person to want to take their time with getting hooked up and quite usual to want to sympathize in the other...

It's just you gotta realize the everyday stuff that hurts your feelings doesn't phase him but anything like the two topics above will and if he's anything like me I don't handle stuff like that very well.

I can see this. Experienced it exactly like he says. My aqua has hurt me by things he says or doesn't say and I have hurt him when he misunderstood and thought I was rejecting him.

I think NYAA is right that he may have felt hurt.

i always take things he says personal its any little thing i ask about or say especially if i ask him personal things or if things are going good and he just does things to make me mad to disturb the balance cant go into detail because its a whole lot

@truecap r u saying he set it up purposely to get me to become his girl?

@not your average will he come back or do u think its over because he never really broke up with me

Posted by highlyclassified
@truecap r u saying he set it up purposely to get me to become his girl?

No. That is not what I said. No where near what I meant.

Ok. You don't have to go into detail, but without specifics, I cant help you. Good luck.

I will say this, like nyaa said, aquas are a lot more sensitive than they let on.

@trucap i remember some things he would be argumentative about silly things like if i tell him about his rudeness or if i ask him things like is he ok then if he says hes ok i ask r u sure he goes off flys off the handle sometimes i wonder if he is bipolar lol also me asking him how old his grandfather is its just very silly thats what i meant by spazzin

Posted by highlyclassified
@trucap i remember some things he would be argumentative about silly things like if i tell him about his rudeness or if i ask him things like is he ok then if he says hes ok i ask r u sure he goes off flys off the handle sometimes i wonder if he is bipolar lol also me asking him how old his grandfather is its just very silly thats what i meant by spazzin

no.

Its irritating when someone asks and you say ok, then they say r u sure. Geesh, he says hes ok. He either is ok or doesn't want to talk about it. He got irritated cuz u didn't believe hime or kept pushing the issue.

Does it really matter how old his grandpa is, hes sick and dying and he loves him. I know you didn't mean any harm, but in his mind it was an irrelevant question.

Im not fussing at you, just trying to offer a possible reason. You have to think outside the box from his point of view to even come close to understanding an aqua. And you still won't ever understand fully. Just don't take it personal and you'll be okay.

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@trucap i remember some things he would be argumentative about silly things like if i tell him about his rudeness or if i ask him things like is he ok then if he says hes ok i ask r u sure he goes off flys off the handle sometimes i wonder if he is bipolar lol also me asking him how old his grandfather is its just very silly thats what i meant by spazzin

no.

Its irritating when someone asks and you say ok, then they say r u sure. Geesh, he says hes ok. He either is ok or doesn't want to talk about it. He got irritated cuz u didn't believe hime or kept pushing the issue.

Does it really matter how old his grandpa is, hes sick and dying and he loves him. I know you didn't mean any harm, but in his mind it was an irrelevant question.

Im not fussing at you, just trying to offer a possible reason. You have to think outside the box from his point of view to even come close to understanding an aqua. And you still won't ever understand fully. Just don't take it personal and you'll be okay.

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ok i understand and everything took place before i could finally sit down and think to myself and study up on aquarius to understand how they think if he comes back and i hope he will because i care about him deeply now i know how to handle things better i didnt mean to hurt him

Posted by highlyclassified
@not your average will he come back or do u think its over because he never really broke up with me

I really couldn't say for sure if he will or if he won't. I wish I could predict the future! Damn it would hella useful right now haha

The only thing I could say is how ambitious and positive a person you are will probably be what draws him back more than anything else. Like being very accomplished in a very non arrogant way and being vulnerable about who you REALLY are and not trying to be fake about it in any way.

I think I am a positive person but deep down most people realistically disappoint me. And I have a very pessimistic view about life and people in general. I mean I have confidence in myself usually but other people not sooo much :/
Most people always have a motive and are out to get something from me... rather than trying to do something for me with nothing expected in return so to speak.

So when I meet people that are just as positive or more than myself and like to achieve things in life I'm very drawn to them. Like that whole demeanor is just intoxicating for me I dunno.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by highlyclassified
@not your average will he come back or do u think its over because he never really broke up with me

I really couldn't say for sure if he will or if he won't. I wish I could predict the future! Damn it would hella useful right now haha

The only thing I could say is how ambitious and positive a person you are will probably be what draws him back more than anything else. Like being very accomplished in a very non arrogant way and being vulnerable about who you REALLY are and not trying to be fake about it in any way.

I think I am a positive person but deep down most people realistically disappoint me. And I have a very pessimistic view about life and people in general. I mean I have confidence in myself usually but other people not sooo much :/
Most people always have a motive and are out to get something from me... rather than trying to do something for me with nothing expected in return so to speak.

So when I meet people that are just as positive or more than myself and like to achieve things in life I'm very drawn to them. Like that whole demeanor is just intoxicating for me I dunno.

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I thank you for noticing that part of me do u think he has been observing me secretely since 2012 ? And thats what drew him to instantly make it official because aquarians r known to start of as friends first as not just jump into anything

I think Aquarians also helplessly drawn to those who seem like no one will help. Like the people everyone rejects for w/e reason.

Maybe it's cause we feel like rejects deep down I dunno. But if you pay attention there are probably a lot of people he is friends with that you wouldn't think anyone would want to be friends with.

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Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by highlyclassified
@not your average will he come back or do u think its over because he never really broke up with me

I really couldn't say for sure if he will or if he won't. I wish I could predict the future! Damn it would hella useful right now haha

The only thing I could say is how ambitious and positive a person you are will probably be what draws him back more than anything else. Like being very accomplished in a very non arrogant way and being vulnerable about who you REALLY are and not trying to be fake about it in any way.

I think I am a positive person but deep down most people realistically disappoint me. And I have a very pessimistic view about life and people in general. I mean I have confidence in myself usually but other people not sooo much :/
Most people always have a motive and are out to get something from me... rather than trying to do something for me with nothing expected in return so to speak.

So when I meet people that are just as positive or more than myself and like to achieve things in life I'm very drawn to them. Like that whole demeanor is just intoxicating for me I dunno.

I thank you for noticing that part of me do u think he has been observing me secretely since 2012 ? And thats what drew him to instantly make it official because aquarians r known to start of as friends first as not just jump into anything

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Considering he is the one pushing the issue at the beginning I would say yes... When it's the other way around I take my time A LOT more because obviously I don't know shit about you lol!

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I think Aquarians also helplessly drawn to those who seem like no one will help. Like the people everyone rejects for w/e reason.

Maybe it's cause we feel like rejects deep down I dunno. But if you pay attention there are probably a lot of people he is friends with that you wouldn't think anyone would want to be friends with.

People who are diffrent are drawn to me to me even tho I'm not an aquarius but i accept people regardless of flaws its when they prove they cant b trusted is when i cutoff or choose not to deal with them

Well if your really being honest with yourself and what your saying then I'm sure he's gonna come back.

Aquarius men rarely chase women.

So if he went after your probably a fetching gal.

I think we rarely chase because rejection is like quite harsh for most I think... And there is also the fact that at least for me... I rarely find women that are worth putting myself out there like that.

What's his chart like. He sounds like one of 'those' aquarians. "I'm always right, why can't you take a joke, it's just a discussion" then gets all pissy like he can dish it out but can't handle the same treatment.

Posted by aquasnoz
What's his chart like. He sounds like one of 'those' aquarians. "I'm always right, why can't you take a joke, it's just a discussion" then gets all pissy like he can dish it out but can't handle the same treatment.

Bingo that's exactly him all the way......sun aquarius moon aquarius everythin else is libra and sag

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Well if your really being honest with yourself and what your saying then I'm sure he's gonna come back.

Aquarius men rarely chase women.

So if he went after your probably a fetching gal.

I think we rarely chase because rejection is like quite harsh for most I think... And there is also the fact that at least for me... I rarely find women that are worth putting myself out there like that.

I have been very good to him aquarius rarely say things they don't mean and he tells me all the time how pretty i am im heaven sent his gaze is like nothing i ever seen he always tells me he misses me

@aquasnaz i meant cap n sag caps dominate most of his chart

Truecap is the Aqua whisperer btw.

She gets and understands Aqua's better than even some of us get our own sign! 😛

I agree with Aquasnoz, sounds like he is one of those... I can come across that way, unintentionally. Tons of fire in my chart, not sure if that's why I get so passionate about topics.

For me, when I have a lot going on emotionally, I want to deal with it in my own way/time. Typically alone so I can look at things from different angels and see what I need to do with it, if anything. I know some of my friends hate this, they want me to talk, open up etc.... it isn't personal when i don't, it's just how I am & how I work through emotions.

Not sure if any of that helps since I am a female not a male Aqua 🙂

Posted by justagirl
Truecap is the Aqua whisperer btw.

She gets and understands Aqua's better than even some of us get our own sign! 😛

I agree with Aquasnoz, sounds like he is one of those... I can come across that way, unintentionally. Tons of fire in my chart, not sure if that's why I get so passionate about topics.

For me, when I have a lot going on emotionally, I want to deal with it in my own way/time. Typically alone so I can look at things from different angels and see what I need to do with it, if anything. I know some of my friends hate this, they want me to talk, open up etc.... it isn't personal when i don't, it's just how I am & how I work through emotions.

Not sure if any of that helps since I am a female not a male Aqua 🙂

It does kind of after him shuttin down for a week i sent a message a sincere one he disnt send nothing but dots back as a response but i knew he listened and afterwards i told him im still here ill give u ur time n space

Just call him up and act like nothing has happened. Let him have a free ride on this one. Be fun and charming and happy. He will probably be relieved.

Posted by truecap
Just call him up and act like nothing has happened. Let him have a free ride on this one. Be fun and charming and happy. He will probably be relieved.

Trust me he wont answer i dont wanna push it

Posted by highlyclassified

Posted by truecap
Just call him up and act like nothing has happened. Let him have a free ride on this one. Be fun and charming and happy. He will probably be relieved.

Trust me he wont answer i dont wanna push it

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Then, be that way if he contacts you again or if you run into him.

@truecap ive tried contact i was even sincere about it i explained i was wrong he wont speak to me and i dont wanna keep pushin him it may annoy him