quick question

i get that aquas want a friend first in all relationships, and from what i've read; they're not big on serious commitments (correct me if i'm wrong). so it sounds like, then, that what an aqua wants is a friend w/ benefits. is this true? i mean, a friend, with whom they can have sex, and keep their freedom...is that the ideal set up? i do understand that the obligations/expectations that come with being in a relationship can be scary for an aqua (for most people including myself). so then how do you guys find a balance between exclusivity and togetherness vs. frivolty, freedom and no strings??

The good thing is, despite our potentially similar quirks (because we all DO share Sol in Aquarius), we are still in the end different people. Some one commitment, some don't. Some want friends with benefits, some want love and the whole white picket fence deal. Simply because while we may identify as Aquarius, it is by no means the end of the chart. You've still got Mercury, Luna, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto to calculate to get a more detailed look at an Aquarius and where he or she stands.

It's true that we share quirks when it comes to our overall identity. A similar pattern that allows people to spot us, but underneath that general pattern is complexity that is different for each Aquarian.

I myself can handle friends with benefits quite well and do best when my relationships are uncommitted and simply a casual affair. There have been other Aquarians that didn't do well there and felt more emotioally attached and needed something more. It's simply a matter of finding out what kind of Aquarian you have on your hands, because as similar as we all are, we're still different from each other in many ways.

I don't mind commitment at all. Commitment doesn't scare me. If anything, I'm moreso worried about the other person's possible fear of commitment moreso than I'm worried about my own inner fears.

I can't speak for all Aquas but the ones I know have the same basic philosophy. We love commitment just like anyone else, BUT we take it very seriously & we don't see it as something anyone should just leap right into. It's something that we feel takes ample time. And sometimes establishing the kinds of friendships where you get to "preview" just about EVERYTHING (sex, personality, dating, friendship, meeting of friends, finding out of flaws/issues,etc.) is the best way to kind of "Sample" what you're going to get just in case the friendship were to progress to relationship/marriage status.

It's not that Aquas are afraid of commitment; oh no, we're perfectly capable. If anything, we fear jumping into something without knowing all that we're getting into. We're like Libras in that we love to weigh the scales. We let our emotions AND logic guide us. We want to know it ALL & sometimes being "just friends" with someone allows us to get what we feel is, the truest & most original form of the person. You know how it is..when you're "just friends" with someone, you're alot more likely to make the other person more comfortable in revealing their true colors to you vs. persay you were dating someone who was purposely trying to disguise the negatives & showcase the positives (impressing you).

And since all those lovely relationship books advise people to be "friends 1st," we sometimes don't feel any shame in milking a friendship for all it's worth. We are VERY patient individuals. And if we can label something as just a "friendship" it kind of prevents us from allowing a certain level of emotional attachment/ties to form. Us keeping things on "friendship" level allows us to remember to get as much of a "preview" of that person as possible.

And hey, once we finally feel like there is nothing more to know, & IF we actually like/are content with everything we've seen/been shown, THEN we'll commit.

Aquas like security. We like stability. We love love & commitment just like everybody else. BUT because we are QUALITY OVER QUANTITY, we don't mind excerising a little PATIENCE either.

We don't like jumping from 1 relationship to the other. Our goal is to find someone whom we generally feel content/comfortable with. And once we find that someone, our goal is to stick with them. Problem is, we like trusting in our own abilities to be patient for the purposes of thoroughly getting to know someone 1st before we sign our names to any contract. And since nowadays it's so much easier to get that "sample" of the other person through means of just keeping the title as "just friends" it allows us to literally get all the benefits WHILE also secretly & inwardly taking in everything about a person so that we can one day make the final decision as to whether or not we see that person fit for our future/long-term.

We know that alot of the times relationships don't work out (and people end up getting hurt) b/c they don't have the patience within to thorougly get to know someone. We don't want the relationship if it's just going to end in 2 months or 2 years. And sometimes the only way to know whether or not someone is most/least likely to provide that "security" for us in the long-run is to LITERALLY test the waters by doing everything in the friendship LIKE WE WOULD persay we were actually in a relationship with them.

The difference is, if we're "just friends" with someone, sure the feelings may be there (as they would if there was a title) BUT, it's impossible to break up with OR cheat on someone you never had the title with

put it this way...the typical Aquarius female are mostly like LC from the Hills
she's obviously not gonna marry a guy anytime soon...so if you ever see her with a man..then u alreadii kno she on that beef stick part-time and part-time ONLY...
...they figure jus because a guy can be with a lot of females that they can do the same..smh
oh well

thanx for makinq me feel shitty Val...that charm of yours

lolz wow...you rite tho, my fault
but i am very knowledgable about 'reality tv' so i can make fun of them at times like this

one more question?..you have to be living in a hole to not kno about the hills..im black and that is def. not my cup of tea but the media has openly shoved this show down my throat like the **** that the eleventh sign swallows....the question of the matter is....how did you KNOW i was talking about a reality show?? hmmm..

i like that..(_smartypantz_)

see, you kno me alreadii lol...thx sweetheart.

wow...your sickk j/k..but watever floats your boat

you rite..i am