Reaching out to Aqua Ex

I've now began obsessing over these thoughts of reaching out to my aqua ex. I'm so nervous because I'm not sure if he's seeing anyone or what his deal is. I know some people have said if he missed me, he'd contact me but others have said they, as an aqua, wouldn't be the first to reach out.
I know I'm still in love with him and I feel like I need to give it one last chance to let him know. It's been 24 days of no contact and two months since the ugly breakup.
I keep thinking, if I reach out and he isn't receptive, then at least I'll know. But then I'm thinking is it better to keep the no contact and hope he eventually starts to miss me? The unknown is so scary. I'm so hurt everyday missing him. I also had dreams of him because he consumes my thoughts all day long then they carry to my dreams!

Opinions again everyone, please !!!!!!—?

He's aqua born feb 15,1983. I'm Leo been August 1, 1989

Posted by Hoplessinlove
I've now began obsessing over these thoughts of reaching out to my aqua ex. I'm so nervous because I'm not sure if he's seeing anyone or what his deal is. I know some people have said if he missed me, he'd contact me but others have said they, as an aqua, wouldn't be the first to reach out.
I know I'm still in love with him and I feel like I need to give it one last chance to let him know. It's been 24 days of no contact and two months since the ugly breakup.
I keep thinking, if I reach out and he isn't receptive, then at least I'll know. But then I'm thinking is it better to keep the no contact and hope he eventually starts to miss me? The unknown is so scary. I'm so hurt everyday missing him. I also had dreams of him because he consumes my thoughts all day long then they carry to my dreams!

Opinions again everyone, please !!!!!!—?

He's aqua born feb 15,1983. I'm Leo been August 1, 1989

Leo born *** sorry for the typo

Give it two to three more months.

I'd say reach out to him only if you're sure you want to give it another go. You never know what he's thinking unless you try to find out.
My aqua ex and I are not on speaking terms, currently, but I know that he still has feelings for me. If I were sure I wanted him back, he would probably take me...but, I personally would not want to put the poor guy through that again. If it failed once, it'll fail again. And, I did give it two shots with him. And, sometimes, you have to try once or twice more to know what you really want, etc, so that's perfectly fine.
Anyway, I always say more than necessary. The basic thing I wanted to say was: Talk to him if you're sure on what you want. If he doesn't want anything or doesn't reply, then at least you know for sure instead of wondering.

Thinking on it, I may agree with truecap, also...to give it time. I'm not sure of her reasoning, but mine would be so that you can get your feelings straightened out for sure. A month or two isn't that long, and sometimes a relationship needs a good break before both people are ready to go at it again. But, in the end, that advice doesn't work for everyone, anyway. So, do what you think is best. : )

Thank you both for your advice. Maybe the waiting is better. I'm just really trying to understand this from a Aquarius pov and make the right choice. But I know in my heart what it is I want so I just don't want to make a mistake and do the wrong thing. Although, if we're meant to be, nothing would be the wrong choice I guess, right ?

Ugh I don't know why this has been a constant obsession now and why I can't make the decision.

Welcoming and asking for many more opinions. They are help me and are so appreciated !!

Posted by Metoo
I agree with MUCH more time. 24 days is nothing to Aqua. He is focusing on other things right now, and you should as well.
If you dont take the advice (and I reeallly think you should) do not tell him you miss him, are dreaming of him...
Be very short and sweet, nothing that would inspire guilt etc. reach out only in friendship and very positively.

But honestly, you just have a deep fear of him moving on without you and your instinct is to run back to the comfort zone. Dont let the insecurities get the best of you...YOU also need this time to reflect and grow and learn from the past.

He will respect you more if you leave him be. Focus on you, dont give him all your mental space and energy, Put that into you and your friends. Make some new ones, make strides forward, and be happy just with you.

If he comes back, great, if not, Spring is a great time to be single, take a vacation and see new sights!
Let him be, you deserve this time alone. Stop thinking about him!

You're so right. I don't want him to move on without me. I will take the advice of waiting longer if that's what would make an aqua miss me more. I just would want nothing more than him to reach out.

I'm trying to stop thinking of him. That's my number one goal. I've def been focusing on myself and going out and meeting new friends and new people but at the end of the day I have that lonely feeling and wish I had been spending that time with him. I can't understand how he doesn't miss that with me as well.

Posted by Metoo
An aqua male friend of mine disappeared for months...when he came back he explained nothing, no whys but he did say not a day went by that I wasnt on his mind. That was so sad to me because I desperately needed to know that and was so so sad he just left. But for you...remind yourself, he probably does miss you, but he wont say this. He is able to stifle andnot dwell in emotion constantly. Let it ride. Let him wonder. Wouldt it be nice to see him come back to you on his own without any sort of 'help' from your side? Then it would be totally genuine, and if I were you I would want that.

Wow. I totally want this. You're completely right. But it's the fear of it never happening that's driving me crazy as well as the hoping and anticipating. I mean, it could take him years?!

Okay, so if I do it, I need to just contact him saying how, how are you, type of conversation. Not be over expressive or needy?

Posted by tiziani
And also I'd say you've got to try and liberate yourself from looking at it as "one more chance" or "now or never". Aquasnoz gave some good insight a while back when he said "maybe he's changed his love for you onto some better". Maybe your man wasn't lying to you when he said his feelings have changed. What you had might be over but that doesn't mean you can't move onto something better if you give it time to build something new. His feeling for you won't just disappear overnight but it possibly has changed. Change is always good. Try not to lean too heavily on the past and just look at what you have right now between you both and the possibilities moving forward.

😢 all of that is so tough. Well I'm def not ready now to say it and be ok with whatever response or lack there of.

Also, changed his love for me onto something better... Meaning someone else? Or something toward me?

I def think for our relationship to ever be possible we both would had to have grown and matured from the last one. But "his feelings for me have changed" makes me lose hope for this.

I'll need to wait longer to be emotionally ready to handle this all. Right now I'm too broken inside. Leo pride is not alive right now :-/ lol

Posted by tiziani
Lol I hear you. Well at least you have the maturity to know yourself and know whether you're ready or not ready.

"Moving onto something better" as in moving onto building on the good things you have between you. Could be friendship. Could be something else. Who knows?

I personally have had to tear out the roots in some of my old relationship in order to plant new seeds and let them grow. It is tough. All I know is when you feel at harmony, it won't matter what you say. The words just come to you and people naturally want to talk and open up. Besides you guys had the type of feelings that don't just disappear, so there's no rush.

Thank you so much. You've really made me feel a bit better about everything!

Posted by Metoo
Also just know Aqua takes time to process their feelings they tend to hate their own emotion. He may really be in a thinking type of phase right now, and he may have you blocked out right now too as its too much for him to deal with right now. I work with lots of aqua males and have had some aquas in my love life. I have learned, they come around when you let them go. When you battle your way into their heart and mind, its not good. They like to make up their mind. They like to feel it was their decision. Negativity is not good. Heavy emotion is not good. Rehashing everything they did wrong is not good. Friendship...its the secret key. Independence is another. Im telling you, turn your reflection onto you. Mentally try and detach from him.
Aqua gets under the skin, they are hard to shake, almost addicting, so when detaching from my aqua, I almost had to physically grab every thought and take hold and say no....keep diverting your thoughts right now. You need mental space and time apart. Its a good thing. You'll be ok, good things fall apart for better ones to oome together.

Thank you! Yeah, I've detached physically and with not contacting him. Now I just need to learn how to detach my emotions and make them stop effecting my everyday life. I just need to move on right now and keep telling myself that whatever is meant to be will be. So much easier said than done. But yes, I will continue to leave him be for right now. I am way too emotional to speak to him anyway. And I guess that in time, when I can handle it, and if he has not reached out to me, I will him ... If I even want to at that point. Moving on is what I'm having so much trouble with. I just don't know how to stop obsessing over him 😢

It is difficult for Leo's to move on. You guys tend to fixate on someone and let it control your thoughts. You're recognizing that, so that is the first step. 🙂

If an aqua is in their thinking phase and you interrupt that, then they won't have a chance to finish processing thier emotions and feelings and you'll be no better off. Give him a chance to really, really miss you.

Keep this in mind: if your actions are driven by fear, it will come across as needy and clingy and an aqua will be uncomfortable with that and will move away from you instead of toward you.

You're doing the right thing. After a couple of months, you will be more clear headed and your actions will read as more genuine. So when your mind is free of all the clutter, just send a simple text with something cute and upbeat.

Hang in there girl!!!

Posted by truecap
It is difficult for Leo's to move on. You guys tend to fixate on someone and let it control your thoughts. You're recognizing that, so that is the first step. 🙂

If an aqua is in their thinking phase and you interrupt that, then they won't have a chance to finish processing thier emotions and feelings and you'll be no better off. Give him a chance to really, really miss you.

Keep this in mind: if your actions are driven by fear, it will come across as needy and clingy and an aqua will be uncomfortable with that and will move away from you instead of toward you.

You're doing the right thing. After a couple of months, you will be more clear headed and your actions will read as more genuine. So when your mind is free of all the clutter, just send a simple text with something cute and upbeat.

Hang in there girl!!!

How do I know when he really will miss me? What if I wait so long and it's just too late? He's moved on and just doesn't have interest?

Posted by Hoplessinlove

Posted by truecap
It is difficult for Leo's to move on. You guys tend to fixate on someone and let it control your thoughts. You're recognizing that, so that is the first step. 🙂

If an aqua is in their thinking phase and you interrupt that, then they won't have a chance to finish processing thier emotions and feelings and you'll be no better off. Give him a chance to really, really miss you.

Keep this in mind: if your actions are driven by fear, it will come across as needy and clingy and an aqua will be uncomfortable with that and will move away from you instead of toward you.

You're doing the right thing. After a couple of months, you will be more clear headed and your actions will read as more genuine. So when your mind is free of all the clutter, just send a simple text with something cute and upbeat.

Hang in there girl!!!

How do I know when he really will miss me? What if I wait so long and it's just too late? He's moved on and just doesn't have interest?

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Stop worrying about that!!!!! If it's meant to be it will be. 🙂

Posted by truecap

Posted by Hoplessinlove

Posted by truecap
It is difficult for Leo's to move on. You guys tend to fixate on someone and let it control your thoughts. You're recognizing that, so that is the first step. 🙂

If an aqua is in their thinking phase and you interrupt that, then they won't have a chance to finish processing thier emotions and feelings and you'll be no better off. Give him a chance to really, really miss you.

Keep this in mind: if your actions are driven by fear, it will come across as needy and clingy and an aqua will be uncomfortable with that and will move away from you instead of toward you.

You're doing the right thing. After a couple of months, you will be more clear headed and your actions will read as more genuine. So when your mind is free of all the clutter, just send a simple text with something cute and upbeat.

Hang in there girl!!!

How do I know when he really will miss me? What if I wait so long and it's just too late? He's moved on and just doesn't have interest?

Stop worrying about that!!!!! If it's meant to be it will be. 🙂

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Ok ok. You're right! Thank you

Posted by Gandalf

Posted by Hoplessinlove

Posted by truecap
It is difficult for Leo's to move on. You guys tend to fixate on someone and let it control your thoughts. You're recognizing that, so that is the first step. 🙂

If an aqua is in their thinking phase and you interrupt that, then they won't have a chance to finish processing thier emotions and feelings and you'll be no better off. Give him a chance to really, really miss you.

Keep this in mind: if your actions are driven by fear, it will come across as needy and clingy and an aqua will be uncomfortable with that and will move away from you instead of toward you.

You're doing the right thing. After a couple of months, you will be more clear headed and your actions will read as more genuine. So when your mind is free of all the clutter, just send a simple text with something cute and upbeat.

Hang in there girl!!!

How do I know when he really will miss me? What if I wait so long and it's just too late? He's moved on and just doesn't have interest?

what if he doesn't miss you and has already moved on? How long are you gonna waste your time analyzing over this?

I agree with cap to give it some time and send a simple text. If he responds then let him make the moves and you keep yourself in control and make yourself attractive to him by not being needy. If he doesn't then simply move on and find another guy. All the posts on here won't solve your problem. you can't make someone love you especially if you constantly badger them and seem so needy.You can make yourself easier to love by using the astrology information intelligently.If it works, great! If it doesn't work, then also great! You gained knowledge and can apply it to next relationship and find more suitable mates.

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I've never badgered him or came off needy to him lol. I didn't express anything that I've expressed through this forum, in terms of my feelings, to him.

If getting back together is what you genuinely want, then go ahead and don't care about the uncertainty. There's no harm trying. At least you'll get to know and have a closure even if the result is negative. Don't let your pride stop you from being with someone amazing. What can be worse than not knowing and missing him so much. Calmly tell him how you would like to get back together and make it short. Aquarius or just men in general don't like desperate and emotional people . As an aquarius, I definitely have more respect for people who are in control of their emotions. Good luck!

Posted by ksaquayve
If getting back together is what you genuinely want, then go ahead and don't care about the uncertainty. There's no harm trying. At least you'll get to know and have a closure even if the result is negative. Don't let your pride stop you from being with someone amazing. What can be worse than not knowing and missing him so much. Calmly tell him how you would like to get back together and make it short. Aquarius or just men in general don't like desperate and emotional people . As an aquarius, I definitely have more respect for people who are in control of their emotions. Good luck!

If I were to do this, you think I should come out and just say that? Or try to talk to him friendly at first and see where that goes?

How bad was the break up? I honestly think it depends on that. I'm an Aqua girl and you have grace period to get in contact with us. Or else you will no longer exist to us.